To be annoyed over a tub of egg mayo?

[Squiff70]

Yesterday morning we went shopping. We got lunch supplies for the next few days. I chose egg mayo as a sandwich filler and DP chose deli meats like chorizo.

I've just come to make lunch and found he's eaten my egg mayo. A full fucking tub. He has been known to pile it high on sandwiches but only after he's asked if we can share. This time he didn't ask.

I can't have deli meats due to being pregnant but I don't like them either, so now I have nothing for lunch. I'm fuming.

He's been in the bathroom for 40 minutes so far and has only just got in the shower. Why do men need to take a half-hour poo in preparation? He'll be at least 20 minutes in the shower than at least another 20 minutes after having a shave, so I can't send him out to get something else for lunch. My parents are coming this afternoon and I need a shower before they arrive. Instead I'm looking after our 2 year old daughter in my dressing gown and feeling grubby as well as hungry.

I also need a wee and we have no other barhroom/toilet so I'm getting very irritated.

AIBU?

@Squiff70 but your DH had time? He got the egg mayo and quite frankly the time you spent on here moaning about it., you could've got some more, or half a dozen eggs and sone mayo!

Much nicer too

And were you going to eat the eggmayo neat out of the tub or put it in a sandwich? So there would have been bread available.

Another one completely missing the point 😵‍💫

Kindly read the rest of my posts. I have already answered these questions and many more. I do nor owe you an explanation of why I didn't have toast or go out to buy eggs. If you can't be bothered to go through those replies then there's little point you contributing to the thread. I'm not going to keep repeating myself for the convenience of others.

I can never understand this pettiness. In 15 Years we have never had this issue. If something is there to eat, anyone eats it. We would some
sometimes ask if each other/anyone wants any, but just eat it otherwise. He was selfish though, knowing you can't eat the deli meat.

Eggmayogate

@Squiff70 kindly read my posts, I didn't mention toast!

Still all was well, you got the egg mayo and flowers.

Yanbu op and glad you fot him to go out and gets some, and that he took the baby.

Enjoy your parents visit

It's not pettiness, they went shopping, he chose the meat, she chose the egg mayo - he decided not to eat the meat and ate the egg mayo knowing that the OP doesn't like the meat. And he ate the full tub which would have lasted 3 days otherwise. It was dick move

He had to drag a 2yo to the shop because you live in some alternate reality where if there's a 2 year old in the house you can't shower?

God it's no wonder nobody came near me when I was a single parent to DD - I never showered for the first 4 years of her life

He didn't need to "drag" her. I picked her up and carried her to the car. Not hard. He also wouldn't have had reason to do this at all had he not been selfish.

Personally, I'd be intrigued as to why, if DP ate something that he knew was specifically mine, he had done it. It's hardly an accident, is it, to eat a whole tub of something that you know is earmarked for your partner?

I am very very late to this party but I think Y definitely ANBU OP. This thread reminds me of the DP eating leftover tofu takeaway one the other day and the one where someone was bought chocs by their partner who then sulked after she only offered him one rather than half the box. I do not understand what goes through some peoples (men's) heads sometimes. Are they so busy stuffing their faces that their brain freezes or do they just momentarily not give a shit about anyone else? I don't think my DH would snaffle anything that he knew was either a present for me or that I'd/we'd bought especially for me.

(And all the stuff about toddler passports and homemade egg mayo being vastly superior to shop bought - it's not, it's all disgusting and makes the room smell like old farts - is batshit crazy MN at its finest/worst.)

@Blarting

What was stopping HIM from eating baked beans should they have had any in the house ?

@LuckySantangelo35 he fancied egg mayo?

I have every sympathy with the pregnant, hungry OP, wrangling a toddler in her dressing gown while her DP has a luxury shit-shower-shave routine which blocks the bathroom for hours.

Order a takeaway, OP. You deserve it.

It was his wife's, though, earmarked for her - and he knew it.

We don't run our house like that @SpindleInTheWind, so I find it totally alien, food doesn't belong to individuals here.

Can you not comprehend though that in this particular case, this item of food had been chosen by and earmarked for the OP, and that this had been understood by both her and her husband?

I don't think it's that unusual for people occasionally to select and earmark an item for themselves and to agree this with the other adult. I might say in the market, 'I'm going to buy an avocado for later, Damien, would you like one too?'

This avoids waste.

What I think would be unusual would be for Damien to say 'no, thanks, I''ll have a banana,' and then later on eat my avocado anyway when I wasn't looking (knowing I don't like bananas).

There's a petty childishness to it that I wouldn't appreciate.

All other food is obviously shared.

Nah I'm with you OP. He was on this occasion a selfish fucker. He needed to go and replace the shit.

Reading some of these replies. Men need their arse wiping and are allowed to be greedy gits at their pregnant wives expense.

And apparently. Men spend so long having a shit, because they don't really need to go for a shit. They choose a time where they sit for ages and wait for gravity to do it's thing.

Still don't get it like.

If I'm pregnant (or premenstrual) and there was something I'd chosen ,bought and earmarked for myself. It would be a very brave person to even look in it's general direction. You just don't.

The whole tub wasn't "earmarked" for me. I would have been MORE than happy to share it with him even if he hadn'd checked with me first. The point is, he didn't leave me ANY. Why do so many people here not accept that this is not okay? If I'd chosen egg mayo and he'd chosen deli meats, and I'd eaten ALL of the meats and not left any for him, despite knowing he couldn't have/didn't like the egg mayo, THAT would have been equally selfish.

I just don't understand why some many people don't understand that concept. You accuse me of nor sharing, TOTALLY ignoring the fact that he didn't either!

It's not OK. I hope he still suffered with eggs farts today. But obviously not in your vicinity.

If we'd chosen a cake together and my DH ate it all I'd be pissed off.