To be annoyed over a tub of egg mayo?

[Squiff70]

Yesterday morning we went shopping. We got lunch supplies for the next few days. I chose egg mayo as a sandwich filler and DP chose deli meats like chorizo.

I've just come to make lunch and found he's eaten my egg mayo. A full fucking tub. He has been known to pile it high on sandwiches but only after he's asked if we can share. This time he didn't ask.

I can't have deli meats due to being pregnant but I don't like them either, so now I have nothing for lunch. I'm fuming.

He's been in the bathroom for 40 minutes so far and has only just got in the shower. Why do men need to take a half-hour poo in preparation? He'll be at least 20 minutes in the shower than at least another 20 minutes after having a shave, so I can't send him out to get something else for lunch. My parents are coming this afternoon and I need a shower before they arrive. Instead I'm looking after our 2 year old daughter in my dressing gown and feeling grubby as well as hungry.

I also need a wee and we have no other barhroom/toilet so I'm getting very irritated.

AIBU?

@hangrylady

Can you give an example of when OP was rude?

Surely LTB

AND whoever suggested salad cream rather than mayo is a monster.

But you haven’t got any egg mayo in the house, isn’t that the point of the thread?

@BillLius She has now, her DH went out and got more yesterday.

"Please read the OP" = rude

"I was really annoyed on your behalf after reading your OP, but you've since been so arsey with everyone I couldn't give a shit about your egg mayo or your DH's selfishness. Oh and if you want 'female solidarity ' don't be a total cow to other women." = Somehow not rude

Only in AIBU.

That said, judging by this member's username I suspect something similar has happened to them and they are triggered by this thread. I'm quite jealous, actually, that somebody thought of that username and it wasn't me.

They had chosen their own

Take the toddler with you when you go into the bathroom?
I can remember one of the main highlights of returning to work was being able to go for a wee without a child stuck to my leg, bliss.

*I said they were coming mid-afternoon, in other words, AFTER lunch. Some of you took it upon yourselves to decide that meant there was literally nothing available for a snack or evening meal. Why?

As it happened, we did remember to feed them. IF I had eaten for lunch (instead of my much-desired egg mayo sandwich) what we planned to serve in the evening, then there wouldn't have been enough to serve as the evening meal (and that would have REALLY given you something to bark about).*

@Squiff70 I can’t believe you’ve been made to explain all of this in such detail!
People are bonkers.

My cupboards, fridge and freezer are currently well stocked with plenty of options. But if I had something in the fridge planned for my lunch and my husband ate the entire thing, I can tell you I would absolutely not be saying ‘oh that’s fine, I’ll just whip up something else!’ and neither would anybody else here, I am sure of it. They’d all be just as pissed off as you are because it was a bloody selfish thing for him to do.

People are only being snobby and rude because it was a tub of Asda egg mayo, I’m sure of it. If you’d said he’d eaten a lovely salad from your local farm shop or a delicious slice of chocolate cake from the local artisan bakery I reckon people would be much less inclined to side with your husband.

This is a definite case of pregnancy rage I think most women who have experienced pregnancy can relate to! I once full on sobbed because DH bought the wrong pizza…

I hope your DH learns not to mess with a pregnant woman’s food ever again.

I love this thread!

YANBU, even if you weren't pregnant, he shouldn't have eaten the one thing you picked out for your lunch. I don't understand anyone saying otherwise, actually. I'd never eat DH's chosen food without asking, and he'd do the same for me. It's just polite, surely?

LTB.

That's the point I've been trying to make for the last 16 pages 🤣

I certainly won't be L-ingTB over a tub of egg mayo. DP himself isn't selfish but his action on this occasion was. He's a loving, attentive and very hands-on father and HTB. I do love him, very much. I just also happen to love egg mayo butties and reserve the right to see red when he eats my lunch again.

I’m really curious, OP, because I would have been very irritated too: did your DH ever tell
you what was going through his mind when he decided to eat the food you had purposefully purchased for your lunch? Did he forget, just not care, or assume you could
find something else to eat? In your shoes
I’d really want an answer to that…

He did not. I wasn't asked nor told about said egg mayo. It was just there one evening and gone by lunchtime the next day.

I've given up trying to analyse things men do (or why they do them). I could ask but really the answer would be irrelevant now anyway.

As well as eating all your ‘special’ food, your husband opts out of family life by spending hours in the bathroom and playing games on his phone, and you are now trying to claim he’s not selfish? My God, the bar really is low for some people.

You clearly know more about our lives and relationship than WE do!

So he ate the egg mayo, went out bought more and flowers? Seems funny be to me!

I'm sorry though I still find it odd you had nothing else to eat, nothing like a tin of beans etc that could've been used, it had to be the egg mayo?

Only what you’ve told us on here.

You didn't exactly paint a glowing picture of him OP.

How often do you get to hide from family life for an hour when things need doing right now because you're expecting visitors?

An hour and 2O minutes actually. And then he expected to spend 90 minutes playing games on his phone! This is about more than the egg mayo.

OP didn't want beans or anything else, she wanted the egg mayo that she chose when the DP chose to have cured meats, he decided against eating the meats and ate the full tub of egg mayo. I know what it's like to be very pregnant and craving a certain food, and when that food gets eaten by someone else despite there being alternatives, I would be feeling very, very stabby

@StrangeCondition I also know what it's like to be pregnant, blah blah!

I just don't understand the lack of any other food in the house!

Who said there was no other food in the house?

OP, you are perfectly entitled to feel annoyed over an egg-mayo-gate in domestic setting, however you are definitely BU for eating bought eg-mayo. Anyone can cook a few eggs and mashing them up is a great stress-reliever. I've heard of some miffed individuals naming each egg prior to attacking them furiously.🧐😝

That's because you're not understanding something that doesn't exist. I have said, very clearly, that there was plenty of other food in the house, however nothing I liked/wanted OR had time to prepare before visitors arrived. Why do I even need to keep explaining this? It's not even the point of the thread!

But you had at least two hours between eggmayogate and your visitors arriving. Not even time for toast?