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To be annoyed over a tub of egg mayo?

425 replies

Squiff70 · 15/05/2022 12:25

Yesterday morning we went shopping. We got lunch supplies for the next few days. I chose egg mayo as a sandwich filler and DP chose deli meats like chorizo.

I've just come to make lunch and found he's eaten my egg mayo. A full fucking tub. He has been known to pile it high on sandwiches but only after he's asked if we can share. This time he didn't ask.

I can't have deli meats due to being pregnant but I don't like them either, so now I have nothing for lunch. I'm fuming.

He's been in the bathroom for 40 minutes so far and has only just got in the shower. Why do men need to take a half-hour poo in preparation? He'll be at least 20 minutes in the shower than at least another 20 minutes after having a shave, so I can't send him out to get something else for lunch. My parents are coming this afternoon and I need a shower before they arrive. Instead I'm looking after our 2 year old daughter in my dressing gown and feeling grubby as well as hungry.

I also need a wee and we have no other barhroom/toilet so I'm getting very irritated.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Nsky62 · 15/05/2022 16:08

Just poach or hard boil eggs, very simple

dementedpixie · 15/05/2022 16:10

Not so simple if you have no eggs though!

Emotionalsupportviper · 15/05/2022 16:11

KateW73 · 15/05/2022 12:49

He eats your lunch and stops you from peeing. The obvious two-birds-with-one-stone solution would be to pee on his deli meats.

I vote for this!

😂😂😂

DisforDarkChocolate · 15/05/2022 16:12

Who are the 19% who think this is reasonable behaviour? Bloody hell some people's bar is low!

foxlover47 · 15/05/2022 16:14

@KateW73 you have the best solution !!🤣🤣🤣🤣

Chikapu · 15/05/2022 16:14

Do people really throw out perfectly good food just to make a point? How fucking wasteful and privileged do you have to be to think that's ok?

ExitChasedByABee · 15/05/2022 16:18

Now I really want to try some of that egg Mayo in a tub. Must have been really good for it to be finished in one go. At least it’s now been replaced.

I do hope there’s enough food for dinner for 4 adults and a child. I guess, there’s always uber eats or takeaway etc.

It must have been annoying for the tub to be finished in one go. It might help, to have alternatives like baked beans and other non-perishables etc., but hopefully he’s learnt not to consume a tub of food in one go. That was really inconsiderate of him, but I guess he wasn’t thinking seeing as he seems to be helping out and immediately thought to replace it for you.

Herejustforthisone · 15/05/2022 16:21

Why are some posters being such cunts to a pregnant woman just because she wanted to be able to eat some of the food she bought for herself?

userxx · 15/05/2022 16:22

bumblefeline · 15/05/2022 16:05

Egg sandwiches are quite nice mixed with a bit of salad cream instead.

No, nothing about that is nice. Egg sandwiches are evil add salad cream and it's takes it to another level of wrongness.

diddl · 15/05/2022 16:25

Nsky62 · 15/05/2022 16:08

Just poach or hard boil eggs, very simple

Presumably if Op had wanted to do this she would have bought eggs & mayonnaise.

But presumably if anyone should be doing this simple task it would be her husband?

Onlyhuman123 · 15/05/2022 16:28

bellac11 · 15/05/2022 12:39

Theres nothing wrong with deli meats although you said you didnt like them

Its a fuss over a minor irritant, he shouldnt have eaten them if it was agreed between you that you needed the sandwich filler but equally all food in the house is usually for the joint occupants.

You sound like you would create an argument in a paper bag by your responses to others trying to be supportive on the thread so I doubt anyone can say anything that will placate you

Although there'll be others coming along soon to tell you to leave him because he is virtually abusive for leaving you lunchless

Haha brilliant

SpindleInTheWind · 15/05/2022 16:30

Searchfornessie · 15/05/2022 16:01

what have you been doing all morning OP if you and your kid aren’t even dressed by 1pm?!

Building up an appetite

Cantstandbullshit · 15/05/2022 16:32

Moancup · 15/05/2022 13:04

So he offered to go to the shop but that wasn’t good enough?

How on Earth do you shower if you’re ever solo parenting?

Some people’s lives are just exhausting to read about.

Calm down, you’re just being unnecessarily bitchy now.

The issue is not being able to make another egg mayo but the fact that he was inconsiderate and selfish. Even if she can make another one she still has the right to be annoyed to have to make another due to his selfishness.

I blame the OP for creating this post, MN is known to be full of immature keyboard warriors either quick to tell people to divorce or in this case joining the crowd of bashing the OP while making the point.

Get a life.

skodadoda · 15/05/2022 16:32

Blowyourowntrumpet · 15/05/2022 12:42

Boil some eggs and make your own?

This

GarlicGnocchi · 15/05/2022 16:33

Imagine it wasn't egg mayo but a delicious chocolate muffin OP wad saving for herself. See the principle now?

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 15/05/2022 16:38

Jesus fucking Christ the nit-picking on this thread.

@Squiff70 YANBU apart from the ‘no deli meat’ thing which is a) not an issue and b) completely irrelevant anyway as you don’t like it.

Glad everything is sorted now but for the love of god, next time you post make sure absolutely everything is in place before posting on AIBU! Wink

skodadoda · 15/05/2022 16:39

Squiff70 · 15/05/2022 13:01

Oof. This was meant to be light hearted. Now I remember why people should never start threads in AIBU 🤣

We don't have any mayo (or any spare time today to be making egg mayo) as my parents are coming this afternoon. I haven't seen them since last September. We also don't have any cheese or other meats. No eggs either as we always end up throwing more away than we actually use. Sure, I could have the deli meats that I don't like, and put our unborn baby at risk if I get listeria, but that's clearly besides the point.

He emerged from the bathroom and I told him, calmly, that I was annoyed I couldn't have lunch because he'd eaten the one thing I chose for myself (of course we share food and I don't expect him to ask permission but he knew the circumstances here). He said "fine, I'll go and get you a tub of egg mayo" and picked up the car key. I pointed out that DD was half way through her lunch, wasn't dressed and that he'd have to take her with him so I can have a shower. My parents are coming this afternoon (very soon in fact) so there isn't time for him to faff about for hours whilst I look after DD until he comes back from the supermarket, leaving me no time for a shower OR my lunch. I've just come upstairs and left him sorting DD. He will have to finish her lunch, change her nappy, get her dressed AND take her with him. He isn't happy but only because it means he can't spend the next 90 minutes playing games on his phone just because he was selfish.

But... thanks for the female solidarity ;)

At 12.35 you’re commenting about wasting food, yet here you say you throw away more eggs than you use! Just why are you throwing away eggs?

LoveinTheFastLane · 15/05/2022 16:42

Latecomers to the egg mayo party need to read the thread.

1 OP has no eggs in the house (they throw them out as they can't get through them all.)

2 OP's P was shaving and showering at midday as he had been doing jobs like hoovering stairs, going in the loft and tending the rabbits to help her out.

3 OP didn't want to shower with her child and asked P to take child with him to the shop when he buys more food for her.

I think he was a rat to eat her eggy mayo. It was rude and thoughtless and greedy. I'd have been furious but on the other hand I'd always have something else in the fridge or cupboards to eat.

However, I also think that the OP seems quite reliant on him in many ways, compared to other mums who crack on (not necessarily with eggs or no eggs) and a tad disorganised with her food planning /management.

TicTac80 · 15/05/2022 16:42

Yay for replacement egg mayo tub, and flowers!! Glad all is now sorted OP!

I remember I'd saved an item of <some random food I can't remember the name of now, but I was pregnant at the time, had HG, but REALLY wanted to eat this food>.

Anyway, I was driving home from work, utterly knackered and DESPERATE to try and eat this food before my anti-sickness meds wore off. Got home, and found that now XH had bloody eaten it. I'll never forget standing by the fridge, staring inside it, and just crying my eyes out. XH (NB I didn't LTB or divorce him for eating the food item) thought that someone had died, because of the way I was crying. Bloody pregnancy hormones were the pits.

Nothappyatwork · 15/05/2022 16:43

We need all the eggs we can get to chuck at the Margaret thatcher statue in Grantham for God sake OP would you not think this through ?

Wouldyabeguilty · 15/05/2022 16:45

I'd love to be put sitting beside you at a wedding OP, you would be great craic!

LoveinTheFastLane · 15/05/2022 16:45

As a by the by OP, in another thread you say he's asked you to marry him.

Yet here, you call him selfish and can't seem to see any good in him.

Are wedding bells a good idea? Is there more to this relationship than trouble with eggs?

bellac11 · 15/05/2022 16:46

bumblefeline · 15/05/2022 16:05

Egg sandwiches are quite nice mixed with a bit of salad cream instead.

So the thread is just about calming down and then you have to go and say this?

Zilla1 · 15/05/2022 16:49

@Nothappyatwork I think it's terrible some Labour Scallywag woke so-called councillors are wasting public money on a statue honouring the greatest PM ever, at at least equal greatest with Churchill, by commissioning a statue with a fountain of money going into her handbag from big business, on the telephone to the American president simpering when the US invaded Grenada, holding a poll tax bill and with an iron high heel pressing down on the neck of some woke tableau of the poor and disabled. Such disrespect and waste of money when the government are doing all they can to help with the cost of living crisis.

tiggergoesbounce · 15/05/2022 16:52

If i had been shopping with my DH and we both specifically chose our lunch and he then proceeded to eat mine...yes, i would be annoyed at him, its selfish to eat it, simple as that.

If it was just a normal day and i fancied something but when i got there DH had eaten it, of course this is fine you don't consult eachother over every bit of food but OP, yes in your scenario i would be annoyed at him and off he would be going to replace it. So you are right.

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