To be upset husband has booked a ‘novelty’ restaurant?

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It’s my 50th next Saturday. DH told me he’d book a nice restaurant and I was really looking forward to it as we rarely ever eat out. I was expecting to go somewhere nice in central Liverpool, he knows I love the waterfront so I was thinking he’d book somewhere around there.

Today he’s revealed he’s booked a place in Sheffield (which is annoying enough in itself, 90 minute drive for a meal and it won’t be relaxing at all) which is a novelty restaurant where the staff are intentionally rude to you and it’s all part of it. He’s booked it for the teens as well. I asked why on Earth he’d booked that and he said because he was curious about it and thought it’d be fun.

But it’s not me at all. I’m very self-conscious and even though it’ll all be a joke the thought of the staff verbally abusing me makes me anxious. I’ll end up taking something to heart and getting upset.

DH is annoyed I’ve asked him to cancel it and says I’m a spoil sport, but it’s my birthday dinner.

If he wants to go...let him go. By himself.
Say firmly "I am not interested in that so I won't be going".

Just say it really isn't your thing and if he wants to go some time, fine but for your birthday you'd like a place you can relax.

That would be my idea of absolute hell. Good restaurants are about the food not the gimmick. And being rude on purpose? Why does that appeal?

He can go another time with the teenagers. You want a nice, civilised, grown up meal not an 'experience'. I'd feel the same as you.

Blimey, that sounds a bit errrmm different! I was thinking could you do that and another night do liverpool waterfront. But if it will make you uncomfortable on your actual birthday then def cancel.

Don’t accept it your birthday your choice

Never heard of that sort of restaurant - it sounds bonkers! YANBU OP

Bimey, OP that is absolutely rubbish.
Tell him to go alone, and you go somewhere you would like.

Be clear that you are not going whatever he says and if he persists he can stay in Sheffield forever as far as you're concerned.

just tell him to cancel and book pan am or gusto or somewhere.

Is this the Fawty Towers experience? If so I went to one in London and it's brilliant.

What a horrible man. Clearly an opportunity for him to do something he finds funny. Cancel it or send him without you and message the restaurant so he can be called a cunt all night.

OMG!!! No way would I go to a restaurant where people were paid to be rude to me!!

It's a bloody ridiculous concept - I suggest you put your foot down and refuse to go.

Seriously - life is stressful enough without PAYING for an extra dose of rudeness!

I’ve been reading the reviews of the place and some people have said that they were insulted over their weight, skin etc. I’m now very anxious at the thought of going. DH knows I’m self-conscious over my weight and feel fat so I don’t know why he’d do this. It’s for him, not me. He should have booked it with his friends. I’m upset that he didn’t think of what I’d actually like

That's shit. Your birthday is meant to be the one time that people try and make more effort to do what you want to do. Not expect you to put up with something you wouldn't enjoy just to satisfy the curiosity of the person doing the booking

This must be Karen’s Diner.

It may be fun for some but totally inappropriate for your special birthday meal!

I’ve learnt never to let my OH book anything after one year he suggested we go to the local town museum for my birthday. Say you can go for his birthday, but his yours!!

@saveforthat.

No it’s called Karen’s Diner. I didn’t mention it in the OP to avoid being accused of being an advertisement. They tell you to fuck off and the like

Yes, it wouldn't be my thing at all. It's your birthday, you are not being a spoilt sport to want to go somewhere you will actually enjoy. If he wants to go there so badly then he can go with the kids some other time.

Is it one of the Fawlty Towers experience things? 😂

Oh god, I wouldn't like that for my birthday at all.

Not a bloody 3 hour round trip. What a pain in the arse.

Tell him to book it for another time, but you want to go somewhere nice for your birthday. Especially a milestone one!

Is it 'Karens'?
I have seen videos on FB of them and it does look hilarious, but if it is not your thing then he is BVU to insist on going for your birthday meal.

I suspect it's here

www.bemorekaren.com/sheffield

I went to one of these in Chicago. Suffice to say it ended Brits 1 - US serving staff nil 😁

Oh that sounds ridiculous. Definitely don't go. At least Fawty Towers is based on a classic comedy series.

Good grief.

"He's annoyed"

I suggest you get very annoyed at this thoughtless waste of time. What a twat.

Karen’s diner???
It looks shit. If he really wants to go (goodness knows why) then fine, take the teens, but NOT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY. Poor you, he’s being really thoughtless, not only to have booked this in the first place but by continuing to push it when you’ve said you don’t want to go.