To be upset husband has booked a ‘novelty’ restaurant?

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It’s my 50th next Saturday. DH told me he’d book a nice restaurant and I was really looking forward to it as we rarely ever eat out. I was expecting to go somewhere nice in central Liverpool, he knows I love the waterfront so I was thinking he’d book somewhere around there.

Today he’s revealed he’s booked a place in Sheffield (which is annoying enough in itself, 90 minute drive for a meal and it won’t be relaxing at all) which is a novelty restaurant where the staff are intentionally rude to you and it’s all part of it. He’s booked it for the teens as well. I asked why on Earth he’d booked that and he said because he was curious about it and thought it’d be fun.

But it’s not me at all. I’m very self-conscious and even though it’ll all be a joke the thought of the staff verbally abusing me makes me anxious. I’ll end up taking something to heart and getting upset.

DH is annoyed I’ve asked him to cancel it and says I’m a spoil sport, but it’s my birthday dinner.

Unbelievable misogynist bullcrap.

Bad enough your husband hardly seems to know you and booked this at all (would be my idea of hell also OP) but for your BIRTHDAY? Drive an hour each way to eat basic food and be insulted? I would be so so upset at this.

Ha ha, lol that does sound kind of fun.

The name alone would make me boycott.

Honestly, there is nothing pathetic about not wanting to be insulted on your birthday.

There is a LOT pathetic about whining because the person isn't complying when you try to make their birthday treat all about what you want to do.

Tell your husband to stop being a dickhead (see: he can get his insults for free at home!!) and book you somewhere you actually want to go for your birthday.

God that place looks awful and I would be annoyed too. If he likes the idea of it - and I can’t fathom why he would but to each their own - he should find people to go with who agree.

@Eastlyne

How is this remotely misogynist?

Let him go to Sheffield to pay people to call him a fat ugly bastard

I'm having a sneaky bit of MN time in work, but this has just actually made me lol.

I was pretending to look at some very important information, but I've just gave the game away haha.

Ring. Cancel the booking. Book somewhere else. Take the kids, leave him.

That looks dreadful

Your husband sounds like an arsehole.

especially on your birthday "no" is a complete sentence.

Order a take away and spend the night abusing DH. See how he likes it.

Let him have his strop but stand your ground and go somewhere more suited for you as it’s your day. Sheesh men sometimes 🙄

Tell him to cancel. If he’s that desperate to go you’ll take him in his birthday. See how he likes it.

All the way to SHEFFIELD to be treated rudely? Not on your fucking nelly!

From the website

About Karens

Karens is an interactive diner and an absurdly fun experience. At Karens you will be greeted and waited upon by rude waiters who in return are expecting you to give it full Karen. A place where you can complain until the cows come home because we literally don't care.

You can expect good food, good fun and a dining experience like you've never had before. Let us know if it's your birthday, if your name is Karen and for the love of Karen don't ask to speak to the manager....

How fucking misogynistic and insulting.

I'd say home rather than go there, OP.

There are so many lovely restaurants in Liverpool! Why would you drive to be insulted on your birthday?

Tell him he's a twat and book somewhere wonderful. And don't call yourself pathetic. I'm bloody awesome and I'd hate this too.

Karens Diner in Sheffield only go if you like naff food and think its funny to be abused and swore at constantly. If its your birthday they will rip you to pieces as its suppose to be funny.

If my DH did that, I think I’d take it as a divorce petition.

A distant, novelty, misogyny restaurant as a “treat” for your birthday? Is he normally a prick?

It sounds like he's tried to please the teenagers.... Id make him cancel. Then book a nice restaurant and the golf place in Liverpool one which is amazing, that way you can have a relaxed, fun night without having your appearance ripped to shreds.

And it's misogynistic. Double shite.

Sounds appalling. I would be mortified if I was insulted while eating. Definitely cancel.

Have you seen the menu @Favouritefruits ? I kid you not - 'chicken bingo wings, the " I want to see the manager' burger, and drinks called 'the music is too loud', 'you've just lost my business and, for the truly sophisticated patron, 'the potty karen" served in 'a crapper' (presumably a mini-wc?)

Seriously OP I think this is a hill to die on. He has booked it with no thought for YOU at all. It's for him and the teens, who may well find it hilarious.

And given your history of being bullied I think it's downright nasty of him. Stand up for yourself, whatever the consequences.

Has he been an arse like this before?

Don't put up with this, OP. Tell him you will not be going. He can go on his own another time if he's do 'curious' about it. Does he have formfor selfishness and for putting you in uncomfortable situationsas a 'joke', OP? Because if he knows you well, then this surely must be deliberate.