To be upset husband has booked a ‘novelty’ restaurant?

[trapperjohna]

It’s my 50th next Saturday. DH told me he’d book a nice restaurant and I was really looking forward to it as we rarely ever eat out. I was expecting to go somewhere nice in central Liverpool, he knows I love the waterfront so I was thinking he’d book somewhere around there.

Today he’s revealed he’s booked a place in Sheffield (which is annoying enough in itself, 90 minute drive for a meal and it won’t be relaxing at all) which is a novelty restaurant where the staff are intentionally rude to you and it’s all part of it. He’s booked it for the teens as well. I asked why on Earth he’d booked that and he said because he was curious about it and thought it’d be fun.

But it’s not me at all. I’m very self-conscious and even though it’ll all be a joke the thought of the staff verbally abusing me makes me anxious. I’ll end up taking something to heart and getting upset.

DH is annoyed I’ve asked him to cancel it and says I’m a spoil sport, but it’s my birthday dinner.

I bet the Australian High Commission all took their phones of the hooks and booked duvet days when they saw this cultural contribution. How toe curlingly embarrassing for them. Nobody with a single brain cell, qualification or speck of self respect would want to be seen in a place like that. I imagine Sheffield and Manchester City councils are also distinctly unimpressed by the yobbo connotations. Oh dear. 🤨

Tell your husband he can eat dinner at home and you’ll call him a cunt for free.

Tell him he does not get to sulk at you for you not wanting your birthday ruined. That’s not one of the options available to him. He can figure out how to make your birthday at least not actively abusive.

Thus sounds horrible

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If he knows this is the very last thing on earth you would choose, then I would think he set out to intentionally be cruel to you and spoil your 50th.

It might be an idea to ask for the posts publicising the dump to be removed?

This thread is genuine and isn’t a creative attempt at an ad, I promise. Just search my username and you’ll see I’ve got another very boring thread going on about driving tests.

@trapperjohna I'm still thinking it could be a bluff and he's booked something nice instead. You could ring the restaurant to see if you're booked in under your name and if not play along with them! Maybe show them a totally inappropriate outfit you 'intend to buy and wear' for your birthday. Not quite clown nose but something close.

Just refuse to go, that sounds horrible. Shit food and a crap mysoginistic 'concept'. I couldn't think of anywhere more inappropriate.

If you live in Liverpool and don't eat out very often, there must be a long list of restaurants you'd like to try in the city that would be great for a special occasion.

El Gato Negro if you like really good tapas and cocktails for a start.

Plus dozens more. It's not hard.

I’m sure it isn’t OP, but Streisand effect and all that.

Anyway, you have a DH problem. 💐

You poor thing. I'd be devastated if that was booked for my special birthday.

It looks like you'll have to do some research and send him links to appropriate places you'd like to eat.

Sometimes people (men) have no social awareness and don't think.

I'd be upset. YANBU.

I wouldn’t go either. It’s my idea of hell. Looking at YouTube videos online, it looks even more of my idea of hell than I could’ve ever imagined.

Dont let him make you feel bad. He’s chosen something completely appropriate that you won’t enjoy, for YOUR birthday. Idiot

YANBU. Maray at Albert dock is delicious. Your birthday, your call.

@trapperjohna - I totally agree with you, I wouldn't want to go full stop. But if it was booked for my 50th Birthday I'd be majorly pissed off! I'd take it into my own hands and say no, we are not going there for my birthday - it looks awful - but I would like to go here and I've booked it for 7:30pm on my birthday evening. Do it yourself. He can't be trusted not to mess it up again!

It looks horrible. I hate stuff like that. It says 'not for the easily offended'. I mean that's a leap. Being called a 'fucking embarrassment' for ordering Vegan. Just no.

Not my idea of somewhere to go ever tbh.

I don't think I could stand it for someone else's bday, let alone mine!

If seen clips of it on fb. I would not like it at all and wouldn't be able to stop myself from being grumpy and offensive back to them

I don’t think @Tamzo85 doing their best 🧦 impersonation all over the thread is helping the optics much TBH.

Tell him to cancel it honest to God what a tool !

I've seen the FB adverts. You need to tell him to book it for himself and his mates, or him and the teens, but you aren't interested. Don't go along with it just because he's booked it. If you've said you want to go someplace nice, this isn't nice in the slightest. (And that's even ignoring the rude waitress act- it's a diner, it's not going for a 'nice' 50th birthday meal at all. And he seems to have forgotten it's YOUR birthday. Don't let him turn this on you)

I think if OP thought her husband was capable of planning a surprise party she would have said so!

She clearly thinks Karen’s genuinely is his plan.

It's bad enough that he's booked it for your bday because he's interested/curious, let alone that he then offers up an insult because you don't want to go there for your bday!

Not as if he can't go there anytime he wants to!

Jeez, that sounds awful - what a tiresome, awkward way to spend your birthday (in fact the whole notion of the restaurant sounds contrived and unfunny). YANBU. I'm a terrible one for doing things I don't want to do just in order to please people but even I'd be drawing the line at this.

He’s going to use your birthday dinner as an excuse, drive 90mins each way and pay for 4 meals at this place, just because he’s curious?!? Hasn’t he heard of YouTube?!

Tell him you are NOT going and to book something more appropriate. What a shit idea to book that. It’s a special birthday for you and the focus should be on doing something that is special and enjoyable for YOU.