What assumptions /judgements would you make about me / my life?

[Salisws]

I am 34, single, never had a relationship (don’t want one).
I have a phD and a professional career I enjoy.
I recently bought my own home, live on my own there with two cats.
I don’t lead the single party lifestyle, live in a rural town, all my friends are now married with families so I don’t see that much of them.
I have hobbies - I go running, do Yoga, help backstage with local Am-dram, volunteer with Scouts.
I go on holiday now and again, sometimes on my own, sometimes with my sister.

I am happy with my life. Yes I am lonely sometimes, but lonely because my friends no longer have as much time for me, rather than lonely for a partner.

I know women who would be/are desperately unhappy in my shoes, my life choices certainly wouldn’t be for everyone. And there’s that stereotype of the spinster with the cats.

I wonder what assumptions new acquaintances make about me when they find out the above? Do they think I live a sad and unfulfilled life, or that I have some sort of awful personality flaw?

If you know anyone like me, what did you think / wonder about them as you got to know them? Or what do you think / wonder about me having read my post?

Thank you

I would assume that you are a free and independent woman and the sort to set an example for how to be simply happy with life and achieve whatever you want from it. 🙂

Same as my life (except no Phd - but a senior managerial role) and I’m 10 years older than you.

Very content with lot; great friends, dog, hobbies and holidays. Love my home etc.

*and I’m neurotypical.

I'd just want to know what your cats are called.

I too would want to know what your cats are called.

I am slightly older than you, have been married in the past, but otherwise in a similar place.

I do get lonely, but I was away more lonely in my unhappy marriage so I would assume you were great and doing really well.

I think lots of people are forced to be be in couples or remain so for the childcare or the lifestyle/house.
I think a lot of people would envy your life.

Didn’t you post the other day about being embarrassed because all your friends are in relationships? I think you need to make peace with the fact you’re single- you sound like you have a great life.

Flawed? No but possibly asexual and or ASD.

I'd judge you as being infinitely more sensible than all the women who have unequal relationships and put up with arsehole partners.
Your life sounds sweet.

I’d wonder why on Earth you had cats instead of a lovely dog like mine. As for the rest of your choices… none of my business, I’d assume you were happy unless you told me otherwise (but I am far happier living alone than with other people so maybe not a good judge 😂)

I'm think we would be friends. I have a DD but am a single Mum and really value my friends. I don't have a lot going on but do have an MBA. You sound lovely.

I know several people like you, never gave a thought to it. The only curiosity I have is why you are asking people to comment on your lifestyle choices/situation. If you are happy and fulfilled why does it matter what others think. There are plenty of people on here who are in relationships or who are married and who are lonely and miserable and asking for help.