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AIBU?

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To think everyone needs to get a bloody grip

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crochetmonkey74 · 10/05/2022 18:45

Lighthearted -I'm so sick of everyone being so flaky after the pandemic. Last minute cancellations, emails not replied to for far too long, friends being just all a bit wet about everything. Anyone else feeling totally fed up and want to tell everyone to get a bloody grip

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CorsicaDreaming · 12/05/2022 15:27

LondonMrsA · 12/05/2022 10:49

I think lots of people are using it as a convenient excuse for their bad manners/ reluctance to commit.

If people have been administered 3 x Vaccines, unless you are in frail health, we can pretty much proceed as before.

Those who have not been vaccinated should give their heads a shake.

I've had three vaccines. I'm usually healthy and work hard. Omicron has completely knocked me out for a month and I'm still not better.

BoredZelda · 13/05/2022 10:16

I think this obligation avoidance behaviour is more common in the West

I think people have different expectations of what an obligation is. Sometimes it is entirely appropriate to tell someone the thing they think you are obliged to do is actually not one of your obligations.

Amberheart · 13/05/2022 16:06

mintybobs · 10/05/2022 19:52

Oh for goodness sake, do you not think any of these things happened pre- pandemic? I lost both my parents young, my best friend lost her 5 year old child, I have friends battling breast cancer etc- none of which have anything to do with covid. The pandemic has been hard but plenty of us dealt with loved ones death and illness prior to lockdown- the only difference is, noone gave a shit about us then.

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I have lost my parents and many friends. I also lost my husband a year and a half ago. He was in long term care for Alzheimer’s. His care home was locked down because of Covid. I only got in to see him and hold him 2 days before he died. I live with that guilt and sadness every day. There are thousands in the same situation. I often think about how they say prisoners become institutionalized and find it hard to cope when they get out. I feel like that now. I just want to sit at home and wait for death to take me. I’m not afraid of Covid. I just can’t stand crowds and people near me anymore. Maybe that does make me flaky.

ancientgran · 13/05/2022 16:37

CorsicaDreaming · 12/05/2022 15:27

I've had three vaccines. I'm usually healthy and work hard. Omicron has completely knocked me out for a month and I'm still not better.

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I hope you will be better soon. It was week 8 before I felt a bit better. I'm week 12 now and feeling much closer to normal but I'm still pretty exhausted with the slightest exertion, went out shopping this morning after putting some washing on and I've just got up after a 3 hr sleep. I never used to sleep in the day and wasn't a great sleeper at night, now I just seem to sleep all the time.

ancientgran · 13/05/2022 16:45

CorsicaDreaming · 12/05/2022 15:24

@ancientgran - I got the itching all over thing too! I've bought some Badedas bath crème / foam (the old ones are the best) and it helps I think. It's the weirdest Russian Roulette of a virus.

Thanks for that I will get some next time I'm out. Constant itching is like torture isn't it but hopefully it will pass like everything else.

It is weird isn't it, a blood test shows I've had it before but I have no idea when so I had it once with no symptoms and then the second time I got it really badly.

Ormally · 13/05/2022 16:57

If you would like to keep your friends, it's a good idea to cut them some slack and encourage them, make them feel they're still important to you, look on the bright side and think that they will be in touch, but it's needing more time than it did when plenty of people could mostly expect to spend each day within 4 walls with a screen for company (or indeed in intensive, stressful jobs that were the opposite of that description). I do see that you might feel a bit miffed if they don't appear to be doing the same for you and you feel they are leaving you hanging.

If you don't want 'flaky' people and it just keeps annoying you, then I guess you will have to make new friends.

PeachyPeachTrees · 13/05/2022 22:01

Totally agree with you OP.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 14/05/2022 19:41

crochetmonkey74 · 10/05/2022 18:45

Eh? Do not recognise any of this!

WalkingOnTheCracks · 15/05/2022 06:33

crochetmonkey74 · 10/05/2022 19:59

I think as a teacher, I am concerned about the lack of resilience. We are finding that students are not understanding that some things are immovable (students emailing the night before an exam to say they don't feel ready and expecting that the exam board will just sort something out for them)
We are also struggling to get them to understand responsibility and duty (dropping out of team events on the day and leaving fixtures unable to go ahead or putting too much responsibility on the kids left behind)
I think we are normalising this in the name of self care and mental health but we need to be careful how we model it I think. Its normal to be nervous before a match or presentation or performance for example

.....well, that post is a lot more reasonable than your first one.

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