I find this really hard. I desperately want to believe AH because of the damage this is doing to domestic abuse victims but I can't.
My life was made miserable by my abuser for 5 years. So much of what AH has done is at odds with what I did.
When I knew I needed to leave and was scared for my kids I took some photos. The photos were never off the trashing off the house but my bruises and cuts. I didn't really care about the house damage, it was the injuries.
I wouldn't have had the opportunity to grab my phone to record him during an attack. It would have been more than my life was worse.
I would have been far too scared to hassle my ex when he finally took himself off to another room. I was petrified of him, I kept my head low and out of sight.
I would never have asked anything of him like my friends coming to stay because his reaction would have been scary.
I can understand fighting back, there was one incident with my ex where he had my pinned by my throat to the bed and I couldn't breath and i felt around on the bedside table and grabbed a glass which I smashed over his head. I didn't fight back by following him around or antagonising him, I wasn't that stupid.
Like I said, I desperately want to believe AH but I just can't. None of it makes sense. You would photo the injuries. You would get significant ones seen even if you lied to the medic about cause.
I think he was a shitty drunk of a husband who was a bit of an arsehole and she has embellished. If she had stuck to the facts that would have been enough but so much is fabricated (IMO) even the facts are now completely diminished.
I'm sad for domestic abuse victims 😢