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to not want to go on holiday ever again

376 replies

noborisno · 08/05/2022 16:47

Anyone else just not bothered about going on holiday and would rather be home?

Just wondering if how many others feel the same way. I'm just not bothered and even find it a hassle. I could not care less if I was never to go abroad again in my life. I do like weekends away but anything longer I just want to be home again.

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Badbadbunny · 11/05/2022 10:48

CounsellorTroi · 11/05/2022 10:44

It can be stressful getting ready for a holiday, bit that feeling when you're finally packed and on the way, there's nothing like it.

Not for us. The preparation is fine as it's within our control. Booking, packing, etc isn't the issue.

The trouble starts with getting to the airport, stressing about traffic, parking shuttle, queues for check in, queues for security, queues at the gate, passport control, aircraft delays, queues for baggage reclaim, then queues for car hire etc. So many things that can go wrong (and often do) completely out of your own control.

notagamer · 11/05/2022 10:53

KnitPurlKnitPurl · 11/05/2022 10:36

Yes but just being away from your home town is expanding your mind - you're experiencing different things, eating different food, hearing a different language.

"Expanding your mind" doesn't just mean schlepping around galleries and historical sites.

I’m flying down water slides, sitting on my area reading my book, having a doze, drinking skinny margaritas and playing uno with my children.

not a whiff of culture. And Bloody love it.

i love a stone’s throw from london and that is where I get my culture buzz from

LuckySantangelo35 · 12/05/2022 07:02

Badbadbunny · 11/05/2022 10:48

Not for us. The preparation is fine as it's within our control. Booking, packing, etc isn't the issue.

The trouble starts with getting to the airport, stressing about traffic, parking shuttle, queues for check in, queues for security, queues at the gate, passport control, aircraft delays, queues for baggage reclaim, then queues for car hire etc. So many things that can go wrong (and often do) completely out of your own control.

@Badbadbunny

you could just get a taxi to the airport? Would that help reduce some of the stress?

CounsellorTroi · 12/05/2022 07:23

notagamer · 11/05/2022 10:53

I’m flying down water slides, sitting on my area reading my book, having a doze, drinking skinny margaritas and playing uno with my children.

not a whiff of culture. And Bloody love it.

i love a stone’s throw from london and that is where I get my culture buzz from

I’ve just had breakfast with DH on a terrace overlooking the Grand Canal in Venice. May or may not do something mind expanding later on!

MsTSwift · 12/05/2022 07:45

Made it to Venice in summer 2020 - empty. Something as a family we will never forget

reluctantbrit · 12/05/2022 07:50

@noborisno

If I'm going abroad I want to fully experience the place, via the people. Resort holidays seem especially pointless to me, as I can sit around at home, where all my things are.

A resort doesn't mean you are chained to the sun lounger, force fed and the gates are closed until your departure date.

Yes, some people never leave the resorts. Not sure what these people do on a UK holiday.

We do resorts every couple of years for the convenience. Nice hotel room, food cooked for you, DD getting herself drinks and ice cream without me thinking about it, pools for DH and DD and a fully stocked kindle for me and we sit at the bar in the evening talking and playing cards.

But - we go out, we normally have a car each time. We visit natural sides, have a walk if we go out of Summer season, we go to different beaches, go on a boat trip, do watersport, go to museums. We go out for dinner to local restaurants or during the day trips for lunch.We learnt how chocolate is made, how the slaves in the Caribbean lived, saw the house George Washing lived in before the American Revolution, visitied a city divided in two with passing a border control, saw Greek Orthodox painted churches, saw one of the few remaining Guttenberg bibles and so much more.

As much as I love a UK or German (home country for me) self-catering holiday, the unpredictable weather, higher costs for eating out and high cottage rental costs which went through the roof the last two years I also love a holiday abroad.

nalabae · 12/05/2022 07:51

Ok so don’t

maturestudent74 · 12/05/2022 08:08

I love the idea of holidays. However, when I am there I always feel unsettled and don't know why!
I only stop feeling unsettled on the way home

LuckySantangelo35 · 12/05/2022 10:23

maturestudent74 · 12/05/2022 08:08

I love the idea of holidays. However, when I am there I always feel unsettled and don't know why!
I only stop feeling unsettled on the way home

That’s strange isn’t it

LuckySantangelo35 · 12/05/2022 10:42

“A resort doesn't mean you are chained to the sun lounger, force fed and the gates are closed until your departure date.”

some people genuinely believe this don’t they? I prefer air b’n’b s to resorts but I know and appreciate full well that resorts are nothing like the above!

Some people I think just really like change and don’t like leaving their home but that must get so boring! No matter how lovely your home

AuntTwacky · 12/05/2022 10:58

Holidays are great!

Charlavail · 12/05/2022 11:02

I've only been on holiday 4 times in 31 years. It feels very much like something that other people do but not us. I would love to go but have never/will never be able to afford it. Do get some pangs of jealousy now people are able to travel again.

IrisVersicolor · 12/05/2022 12:26

Charlavail · 12/05/2022 11:02

I've only been on holiday 4 times in 31 years. It feels very much like something that other people do but not us. I would love to go but have never/will never be able to afford it. Do get some pangs of jealousy now people are able to travel again.

Have you considered house sitting? Then you only have to pay for travel.

CounsellorTroi · 12/05/2022 13:25

MsTSwift · 12/05/2022 07:45

Made it to Venice in summer 2020 - empty. Something as a family we will never forget

Yes made it to Florence in 2020. Ditto empty. It’s busy as hell in Venice right now

CrisPbacon · 14/05/2022 13:38

Me.
I travelled extensively as a youngster. My husband did not but he is very much "on the spectrum" and hates leaving home.
We live in the holiday cottage that we used to rent 5 times a year and particularly since covid, we hate to be away even overnight.
We feel we "should" travel and we "should" explore the world but we just don't want too. Everytime we go More than 50 miles away we spend it looking forward to coming home

Shunter350 · 14/05/2022 22:49

maturestudent74 · 12/05/2022 08:08

I love the idea of holidays. However, when I am there I always feel unsettled and don't know why!
I only stop feeling unsettled on the way home

I can relate to that. I get to a certain point in a holiday that I look forward to going home.

LuckySantangelo35 · 15/05/2022 14:24

Shunter350 · 14/05/2022 22:49

I can relate to that. I get to a certain point in a holiday that I look forward to going home.

@Shunter350 and @maturestudent74

what kind of holidays have you had out of interest?

Just thinking they must have been pretty crap ones for you to feel like that.

Home is the last thing on my mind when I’m on holiday.

Shunter350 · 15/05/2022 18:49

@LuckySantangelo35 I've always enjoyed holidays but when I get to about the tenth day I just feel a bit restless.. I start thinking about cutting the grass etc. I know that will be sneered at but that's the way I am.

ReadyToMoveIt · 15/05/2022 18:56

Shunter350 · 15/05/2022 18:49

@LuckySantangelo35 I've always enjoyed holidays but when I get to about the tenth day I just feel a bit restless.. I start thinking about cutting the grass etc. I know that will be sneered at but that's the way I am.

Just go for a week then? Or 10 days, even! We’ve never been able to afford a holiday longer than a week so no idea if I’d feel restless by day 10 or not!

Silverswirl · 19/05/2022 10:42

KnitPurlKnitPurl · 11/05/2022 08:13

This sounds like huband's brother and sister-in-law. They have been abroad once - a package deal to Tenerife. Didn't like it, so therefore holidays are rubbish.

For them, it's not anxiety. It's a symptom of having a VERY narrow outlook on life. They both live within 5 minutes of where they grew up and went to school. Both working in the same companies that they first joined when they left school. They don't have days out, or hobbies, or nights out with friends. They go to work, go to Tesco, watch the telly. And that's it. No curiosity about the world. In fact, not even curiosity about other parts of the UK. They've never been to London, Northern Ireland and went to Scotland once (they weren't keen on that either).

It makes them very very dull to be around because they have literally NOTHING to talk about apart from Tesco's special offers that week and the acts on Britain's Got Talent.

It is SO true about travel expanding the mind.

I know so many people like this. Literally just happy to stay in their own very small bubble. Don’t drive or if they do only drive 20 mins from home. Never experience anything except work and home and a few shops. Whenever I mention ‘have you been to x place (somewhere fairly local that the kids would love) they said no- to pretty much everything! It boggles my mind because them and their kids are missing out on so much life and fun!
I think it comes from the previous generation. If your parents don’t take you anywhere (for whatever reason) and show no interest in fun experiences / historical places / beautiful landscapes and countryside / cities / beaches or anything then you probably won’t either and neither will your kids - unless you manage to break the cycle of course!

Soffit · 19/05/2022 10:50

We have just come back from an amazing UK break. It was important to break out of the two year self- imposed rut. We stayed in a four star ( which was just ok really) and we ate out at marvellous places every day.

Today, I woke up at home and everything feels reset. I even feel a bit like a tourist in my old house where I have lived for years and years! There is no need to take on the stress of a full on long haul after a break from travel. As a history buff, UK holidays are endlessly fascinating to me and I could probably do them exclusively and forever.

I will not go abroad to places with nonsense covid mandates still in place which means that my family alone is no longer contributing tens of thousands to global tourism. If you multiply that by the number of people who are also abstaining on similar grounds, then you can see why a major contraction in global tourism is just around the corner.

DressingGownofDoom · 19/05/2022 10:58

Yeah I travelled quite extensively when I was younger and now I have two kids and am settled down i am perfectly content with my lot. Maybe when I'm older I'll venture further but not at this stage.

I am enjoying the sneering from the 'proper' travellers on this thread though.

NotEnoughTime · 19/05/2022 11:27

I haven't voted because I don't think you are unreasonable as if that's the way you feel then that's the way you feel Smile

Personally I love going on holiday, in this country or 'abroad'. I do 99.9% of the planning so it can be a little stressful but I love it once we are in the car/train/plane.

I have memories of wonderful holidays. Either as part of a couple with DH and then when our children arrived. I feel nostalgic for the bucket and spade holidays that we spent in their childhood years in Cornwall, Devon, Dorset etc.

I enjoy travelling with my DC now that they are older and showing them new places. It is also fabulous 'quality' time (I'm not keen on that phrase but can't think of better) as we are all busy with work, university and school that it is so lovely to be together.

We are going on a city break this year to a city none of have visited and I am so excited. I have tried to arrange it that there will be something that we will all enjoy doing on the holiday and that way everyone is happy (hopefully?)

After saying that I do love coming home too. My own bed and a proper cup of tea in my own cup-bliss. It also makes me appreciate more the beautiful area in which I am lucky enough to live Smile

Hellsbe · 20/05/2022 19:26

I love coming home! We always get a take away on the day/ night we arrive back it’s a bit of a tradition.
However, I’m soon restless and planning my next getaway. My hobby is looking at sky scanner😀

Soffit · 21/05/2022 14:27

Hellsbe · 20/05/2022 19:26

I love coming home! We always get a take away on the day/ night we arrive back it’s a bit of a tradition.
However, I’m soon restless and planning my next getaway. My hobby is looking at sky scanner😀

I'm the opposite. I am gagging for my own homecooked food by the time I enter the front door!

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