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to not want to go on holiday ever again

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noborisno · 08/05/2022 16:47

Anyone else just not bothered about going on holiday and would rather be home?

Just wondering if how many others feel the same way. I'm just not bothered and even find it a hassle. I could not care less if I was never to go abroad again in my life. I do like weekends away but anything longer I just want to be home again.

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Crikeyalmighty · 10/05/2022 09:33

@Lincslady53 totally agree-

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/05/2022 11:04

noborisno · 10/05/2022 09:31

I agree that's brilliant if that's what you want to do. You're not wrong, it is young, it's just how I feel. Maybe I'll come out of it but I went to Greece in 2018 and enjoyed it but even before that, when the last time I went abroad was 2010, I loved going to America but now I just want to be home with my family instead of out meeting new people.

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@noborisno

what do you mean meeting new people? You don’t really have to do loads of that on holiday really. Unless things like speaking to staff in hotels and such like is too much for you.

We’ve had the last couple of years having to stay home with family! Seems a shame not to get out and about and explore the world now that we can!

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/05/2022 11:07

@noborisno

also I guess the question is, does family want to stay home all the time and not go away anywhere, talk to new people etc. Because if they did, your preference for staying at home all the time could be pretty stifling for them

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/05/2022 11:11

@noborisno

does your family I meant to say obviously

clarasara · 10/05/2022 11:23

exaltedwombat · 09/05/2022 21:43

I went on a holiday once. Must have been about 1972. Haven't felt the need to repeat the experience.

Ha ha! My mum last went in 1978 and never went again. A rainy week in Great Yarmouth put her off forever!

BigSandyBalls2015 · 10/05/2022 11:51

I love holidays but I wonder if part of the stress and anxiety for some people is the fact that a lot of the hard work is left to the mum.

I really enjoy doing all the research/trip advisor/weather to plan and book a holiday so I'm happy for DH to leave that to me. He irons and packs his own stuff, and DDs have done the same since late primary school age - I think the last time I packed a case for them was their year 6 trip.

I have a lovely friend who is expected to do absolutely everything, ironing and packing for the entire family, despite her DCs being late teens/early 20s. Then they're quick to point out any 'faults' ... the cab being late, the hotel not being in quite the right place, the food isn't great. I remember one of her DCs moaning that she hadn't packed enough shorts .... he was 18! 😡 It really winds me up and I wouldn't bother with holidays if I was her, or I'd stick to girly city breaks without the rest of the family.

Jajana · 10/05/2022 11:54

Why would you be unreasonable for that? It’s your life OP…

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noborisno · 10/05/2022 12:28

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/05/2022 11:04

@noborisno

what do you mean meeting new people? You don’t really have to do loads of that on holiday really. Unless things like speaking to staff in hotels and such like is too much for you.

We’ve had the last couple of years having to stay home with family! Seems a shame not to get out and about and explore the world now that we can!

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If I'm going abroad I want to fully experience the place, via the people. Resort holidays seem especially pointless to me, as I can sit around at home, where all my things are.

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noborisno · 10/05/2022 12:30

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/05/2022 11:11

@noborisno

does your family I meant to say obviously

Yes they will and I may go. The post is about that I could take or leave a holiday, not that I refuse to ever travel again.

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Biddie191 · 10/05/2022 12:49

I get you - I feel there's so much expectation to have a great time, that they nearly always disappoint, you save all your spare money for a year for this treat, to then be underwhelmed.
I do also think it depends hugely on who you go with. My husband wants to be busy the whole time, visiting different areas, looking round museums, galleries, climbing up hills looking at buildings etc etc, so I always feel like I've not had a break - too much time either travelling to somewhere, just to tick it off a list, if you get what I mean. I love to see stuff, but I also really want a break, and relaxation too. If I want to spend a day just sitting, or having a lazy picnic, he drives me nuts fidgeting.

Lincslady53 · 10/05/2022 13:11

Biddie191 · 10/05/2022 12:49

I get you - I feel there's so much expectation to have a great time, that they nearly always disappoint, you save all your spare money for a year for this treat, to then be underwhelmed.
I do also think it depends hugely on who you go with. My husband wants to be busy the whole time, visiting different areas, looking round museums, galleries, climbing up hills looking at buildings etc etc, so I always feel like I've not had a break - too much time either travelling to somewhere, just to tick it off a list, if you get what I mean. I love to see stuff, but I also really want a break, and relaxation too. If I want to spend a day just sitting, or having a lazy picnic, he drives me nuts fidgeting.

I had my first holiday abroad in 1976, when my then newish partner, now husband, persuaded me. We worked through that glorious summer, and in Sept went to Lake Como in Italy where it rained all week. However we had a brilliant time. We have had a holiday every year since, except Covid years, and I can honestly say we have never been disappointed and never had a bad holiday. Holidays have included Florida with the kids, uk caravan parks, Butlins, Spain, Greece, California, UK hotels with the kids in Devon and Dorset, hotels, packages, and organising flights and accom independantly. A good mix. Perhaps we do not expect more than what we have booked. I remember one year in Mallorca, we had picked an apartment in a small block owned by a larger hotel. At the reps meeting the complaints were all from people who had booked a superior room, and thought that the extra cost was not worth what extra they had paid, so since then we stick to a standard room. The Internet makes it much easier to select what is right for you, and don't build up your expectations too high.

Moon22 · 10/05/2022 14:24

Love love love love love the hassle! Love the organising, the booking, the packing, the travel day EVERYTHING about going on holidays (except, obvious the dreaded covid test for some destinations!)
But... to each their own, can totally understand it not being enjoyable for everyone!
I would say it's probably my favourite thing to do life.. just wish I could afford more!!

DSGR · 10/05/2022 15:09

Moon22 · 10/05/2022 14:24

Love love love love love the hassle! Love the organising, the booking, the packing, the travel day EVERYTHING about going on holidays (except, obvious the dreaded covid test for some destinations!)
But... to each their own, can totally understand it not being enjoyable for everyone!
I would say it's probably my favourite thing to do life.. just wish I could afford more!!

Totally agree, travel for me is one of the great things about living

prettyteapotsplease · 10/05/2022 16:53

I prefer to stay at home these days. It's too much hassle. I have everything which I need in the comfort of my own home.

UniBallEye · 10/05/2022 17:09

@Moon22 me too!
After making sure we keep a roof over our heads and food on the table travel is our main priority in life.
Dh is self employed so depending on how his work is panning out we have the freedom and income to travel frequently.

We're not fans of beach / resort holidays, though sometimes a couple of days relaxing is good but more than that, we get twitchy. So sometimes we combine it with a more active / seeing stuff break.

In recent years we have really come to love the 4 / 5 day city break. That way we can have more of them than one longer 2 week break somewhere.

We aim to travel about 4 times a year. So no, no dreading it here - more relishing it

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/05/2022 21:08

prettyteapotsplease · 10/05/2022 16:53

I prefer to stay at home these days. It's too much hassle. I have everything which I need in the comfort of my own home.

Don’t you ever wish for something more though?

For something beyond just what you need?

you have a bed at home, a kitchen, garden etc there’s a lot more to life than that!

Shunter350 · 11/05/2022 08:01

prettyteapotsplease · 10/05/2022 16:53

I prefer to stay at home these days. It's too much hassle. I have everything which I need in the comfort of my own home.

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KnitPurlKnitPurl · 11/05/2022 08:13

This sounds like huband's brother and sister-in-law. They have been abroad once - a package deal to Tenerife. Didn't like it, so therefore holidays are rubbish.

For them, it's not anxiety. It's a symptom of having a VERY narrow outlook on life. They both live within 5 minutes of where they grew up and went to school. Both working in the same companies that they first joined when they left school. They don't have days out, or hobbies, or nights out with friends. They go to work, go to Tesco, watch the telly. And that's it. No curiosity about the world. In fact, not even curiosity about other parts of the UK. They've never been to London, Northern Ireland and went to Scotland once (they weren't keen on that either).

It makes them very very dull to be around because they have literally NOTHING to talk about apart from Tesco's special offers that week and the acts on Britain's Got Talent.

It is SO true about travel expanding the mind.

ReadyToMoveIt · 11/05/2022 08:34

KnitPurlKnitPurl · 11/05/2022 08:13

This sounds like huband's brother and sister-in-law. They have been abroad once - a package deal to Tenerife. Didn't like it, so therefore holidays are rubbish.

For them, it's not anxiety. It's a symptom of having a VERY narrow outlook on life. They both live within 5 minutes of where they grew up and went to school. Both working in the same companies that they first joined when they left school. They don't have days out, or hobbies, or nights out with friends. They go to work, go to Tesco, watch the telly. And that's it. No curiosity about the world. In fact, not even curiosity about other parts of the UK. They've never been to London, Northern Ireland and went to Scotland once (they weren't keen on that either).

It makes them very very dull to be around because they have literally NOTHING to talk about apart from Tesco's special offers that week and the acts on Britain's Got Talent.

It is SO true about travel expanding the mind.

Reminds me of when I went to Tenerife with my ex boyfriend when I was 19. We got chatting to a couple a little bit older than us who were moaning that the TV in the room only showed Spanish TV and if they’d have known they’d have brought their DVD player as there was nothing to do in the evenings (this was pre smart phones). Said they didn’t think they’d bother going abroad again because the of the TV issue and because ‘all the food is cooked funny’. They were in their early 20’s.

KnitPurlKnitPurl · 11/05/2022 08:38

There is a negative TripAdvisor review for the hotel we have booked for the summer saying "too many French and Spanish people".

Peaseblossum22 · 11/05/2022 08:40

‘It is SO true about travel expanding the mind.’

someone also said that ‘travel doesn’t broaden the mind it merely confirms one’s insular tendencies ‘

Badbadbunny · 11/05/2022 10:19

‘It is SO true about travel expanding the mind.’

Indeed. But we spent 30 years having 2/3 holidays per year, including America, Canada, South America, Africa, Middle East, Russia, Northern and Southern Europe. There comes a time when you've seen and experienced enough. Even before covid, we were finding the stress/anxiety of airports and travel generally, very off-putting. Over the years, it's become harder, more obstacles, less enjoyable, etc and we were already wondering "is it worth it?". If we could go back 30 years to how simple and enjoyable the travel side of it used to be, we'd be back to 2/3 holidays per year, but sadly it's just become one pain in the neck after another, and our stress/anxiety levels just can't cope anymore.

notagamer · 11/05/2022 10:28

I don’t go on holiday to “expand my mind”

I go away for guaranteed sun, being treated, not cooking or cleaning and, most importantly, spending proper inrushes quality time with my two children

KnitPurlKnitPurl · 11/05/2022 10:36

Yes but just being away from your home town is expanding your mind - you're experiencing different things, eating different food, hearing a different language.

"Expanding your mind" doesn't just mean schlepping around galleries and historical sites.

CounsellorTroi · 11/05/2022 10:44

It can be stressful getting ready for a holiday, bit that feeling when you're finally packed and on the way, there's nothing like it.