After a very traumatic and emotionally draining 18 months that have pushed us to the brink, my partner and I plus our 6 year old daughter have rented an apartment in a European city for a month this summer. We just need somewhere to escape to, to regroup and unwind. We absolutely need this 'getting away from it all' opportunity to allow us to heal and begin to move on. The looking forward to it is already beginning to have a positive impact.
Now, there is a child involved and that child has adoring grandparents. You probably know where this is going...
Doting grandparents don't live near us (4 hours away) and we typically visit each other every couple of months for a weekend. Come visit us in * instead, we say. The usual 3 days, we say. Remember, we're getting away from everything, we say.
10 DAYS THEY'VE BOOKED.
Don't worry, we won't intrude, they say. We know you need space to recuperate so we'll keep a low profile, they say. You'll never know we're here, they say.
Their apartment is round the corner. She is very demanding and needy. She thinks there's a life rule book and she wrote it. Everyone around her dances to her tune - it's easier as she is a sulker and stropper. We have all been guilty of pandering to her in the past as we are never in her company long or often enough for it to be worth challenging.
I've hit rock bottom. We were so looking forward to a whole month of a different normal and the space and sanctuary to begin to live again.
AIBU?
'Escape from it all' holiday gate-crashed
Ismellspring · 08/05/2022 06:54
Am I being unreasonable?
2011 votes. Final results.
POLLSW1amp · 09/05/2022 19:01
In the OP, where she says “Come visit us in * instead, we say.”
Beauty3102 · 09/05/2022 18:58
Where did OP say she invited them?
SleepingStandingUp · 09/05/2022 19:43
As in July, not June I think she meant. Not as in Naples instead of Scunthorpe
SW1amp · 09/05/2022 19:01
In the OP, where she says “Come visit us in * instead, we say.”
Beauty3102 · 09/05/2022 18:58
Where did OP say she invited them?
ivykaty44 · 09/05/2022 18:54
I would actually tackle this before you go away
Firstly message them and say
I am somewhat dismayed that you've booked a place around the corner, we are going away to get away for the month and you need to understand our phones will be off and we will be out doing our own stuff. I want to communicate this to you now as I don't want you to arrive and have other thoughts about us all getting together when you arrive as that just not going to be the case. I'm being as up front and honest as I can as so not to upset you further down the line.
By letting you know this is our plan it gives you chance to establish whether you still want to pursue this holiday and also make your own plans if you continue. I can't be fairer than that, at least now you'll understand why we are not going to be seeing you whilst away and not take offence.
ApolloandDaphne · 08/05/2022 07:20
You invited them to visit. They are entitled to book 10 days rather than just 3 given it probably involves flights from what you have said. You can't dictate how long people plan to go on holiday. You have a whole month there so still plenty of time to relax and they are not going to be staying with you. Why don't you plan sightseeing for when they are here so you can all be out and about leaving the rest of your time there for being more relaxed?
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