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To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?

422 replies

Theresamagicalplace · 07/05/2022 08:08

The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

OP posts:
Sisisimone · 07/05/2022 11:26

How on earth do you keep a toddler entertained at home until 10:30?
Are there seriously some people that have to have their kids out of the house every.single.day early in the morning for entertainment? Something seriously wrong if you can't think of any way to interact with your child in your own home.

I think 8.30 is too early but we are a family, pup and kids included, that all enjoy a lie in at the weekend. We're all up really early in the week and need that bit of a sleep catch up

Picklypickles · 07/05/2022 11:27

YABU. After a week of early starts and school my 8 and 10yr olds don't get up early at weekends and neither do we and I'm sure the same can be said for plenty of people in the village, I wouldn't let my children out that early as they can be so noisy!

DoItAfraid · 07/05/2022 11:28

100Roses · 07/05/2022 08:10

Our house rule is 9 on a Saturday and 10 on a Sunday.

Agree

Coffeegirl75 · 07/05/2022 11:28

In our house it’s 9am onwards.

Our neighbour are from 7am! Most days.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/05/2022 11:30

Whisp3r · 07/05/2022 08:45

9 on a Saturday, 10 on a Sunday. It's the law.

Ha - that’s my law too !!

PeekAtYou · 07/05/2022 11:31

I am a household with teens and my neighbour who has 3 under 8s and I told her 9am is fine.

motogirl · 07/05/2022 11:33

At least 9, ideally 10. Whilst your immediate neighbours have young children, beyond that there are likely to be those who don't have children/grown up children who relish a bit of a lie in. My neighbours are very thoughtful and we never here them early, and we are in return considerate after 9pm at night

Queenoftheashes · 07/05/2022 11:34

Why is 8.30 too early? I am no early riser but even I am awake by then at the weekend. And like a PP , I’d rather have noise in the morning than unable to sleep at night. I used to live over a bar and it was hell.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 07/05/2022 11:36

i think it is fine

Everydayisabadhairday · 07/05/2022 11:36

and unfortunately I have bad SPD at the moment so park trips are normally when passing in the car for other reasons (really can't bring myself to drive there for just that when it's only a mile away

Why would you not drive a mile to make your life easier? Your child will be in a safe contained space to burn energy off outside. Seems like a great idea to me. Unless you physically can't drive due to spd.

but anyway yeah 9am id say and that's only because my neighbor is very crotchety. Otherwise id let them out at 8.30 thankfully mine are a bit older now and happy to watch tv.

motogirl · 07/05/2022 11:37

@Svara

That's exactly what we do - and we invited the neighbours with kids to the only party we had outside last year, they didn't leave until 10pm anyway. We do stay up late on weekends but out not making a noise at home

PollyDarton2 · 07/05/2022 11:37

My tenancy agreement says we are not allowed to make any noise (including hoovering or singing) between 11pm and 7am so I would consider 8:30am totally fine. Why do children have to be treated like their needs aren't important?
I agree with this really. After 9am is probably the gold standard here, but people can’t expect it that end of the day and not the other i.e. if the “rule” says “after 9am” then I wouldn’t expect neighbours to be making noise after 9pm… which is all too common. Most rational people would think “live and let live” if neighbours were socialising in their garden until 10-11 at night, and I think the same needs to be said for children playing at 8am.

Sirzy · 07/05/2022 11:40

I think if your in a residential area then you should aim to keep outside noise to a minimum between 11pm and 7am weekdays and 9am weekends unless you have spoken to the neighbours in ear shot.

mumda · 07/05/2022 11:44

Let them out. If they're full of energy they're probably making more noise bouncing round inside the house.

JinglingHellsBells · 07/05/2022 11:45

But where does it stop? Kids? Cars? Deliveries? Dogs?

Today I was woken by my neighbour's dog which is let out and then barks to be let in. It was 6am. Repeat at night sometimes at 10.30 after we've gone to bed.

On weekdays/weekends it is between 7- 7.15. Sometimes earlier.

We have asked them to consider other people and it's been ignored.

Cazziebo · 07/05/2022 11:54

Kids next door are out at 7.30am at weekends - regular as clockwork! I picture them standing behind their back door waiting on the unlocking as the clock hits the half hour.

As the other neighbours three very noisy dogs are in their garden from before 6am, the children are welcome.

ApolloandDaphne · 07/05/2022 11:57

Blimey in the summer mine were out at around 7/7.30am if they were up! It's their garden and as long they are not screaming I don't see why they shouldn't be out enjoying themselves.

bcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyza · 07/05/2022 12:15

Mine go out from 8.30 but have to use an indoor voice, however last weekend he went out and one of the houses at the back of us started cutting grass and then electric saw .

My next door neighbours have said to us not to worry about the noise he makes as these are family houses.

My other next door neighbours kids are older so I hear them get in about 3 am their mum says it's payback if mine is outside in the morning.

MajorCarolDanvers · 07/05/2022 12:15

its a bit early

9am is the earliest for noisy stuff like children playing and lawn mowers

Beautiful3 · 07/05/2022 12:15

I'd say 9.30 on a week day, and 10 at the weekend. Otherwise, you are those neighbours.

RoostasTowel · 07/05/2022 12:20

ZenKaleidoscope · 07/05/2022 08:12

How on earth do you keep a toddler entertained at home until 10:30?

I don't think 8:30 is too early at all.

Seriously? A child is incapable of staying in a house for 2/3 hours at a time?

Bettyboopawoop · 07/05/2022 12:21

We used to have a selfish sh bint round here that would let her kids out at half 6 every morning was not amused luckily it's stopped now but I would say 10am on weekend there's people that have been working all week that may want a lie in but can't because of kids squawking.

RoostasTowel · 07/05/2022 12:29

I can't imagine one little toddler makes that much noise

Well you're very wrong indeed.

Goldfishjones · 07/05/2022 12:33

Wow so many child haters! "Shock horror - child plays in own garden!!!!" 😱😂

It's fine OP. Use your common sense, 2 x 8 year olds shrieking like banshees on a trampoline should reign it in till a bit later in the day but generally I don't see the issue. Kids always play out early near me, I couldn't care less.

silentpool · 07/05/2022 12:38

I'm awake from 6 but I enjoy quiet weekend mornings, as do most people. It's pretty selfish to disturb them. Why not go to the park?

Seeing as I'm awake, I could also decide to tip a bunch of recycling (bottles, cans) into the bin and disturb my neighbours but I wait till later. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should...