To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?

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The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

It's nothing to do with child haters and more to do with a bit of respect for your neighbours I really do not understand why some people find it difficult to entertain their children for a couple of hours, take them to the park or take them for a drive or keep them busy without waking everyone up.

I'd say 9am at the absolute earliest. Especially on a weekend.

A happy, playing child should NEVER need to be silenced IMHO and your garden is your's alone to use and if I was your neighbour it genuinely wouldn't offend me if they woke me at 6am never mind 8:30 which is practically lunchtime in toddlerland. If it was kids/adults being horrible or foul-mouthed or shouting at each other or obnoxiously loud music being blasted out on the other hand then it would p%£s me off whatever time. Just let your kid play how they want. You can always set restrictions if neighbours complain if you feel it's warranted x

Well that's told us 🤣

Or you can just teach children to be considerate and mindful of other people without infringing on their freedom and imagination.

8am is fine on a Saturday or Sunday.

8.30 would be absolutely fine here. Who would object to hearing a child having fun?!!

People get really judge-y about early morning noise from children but I've got neighbours who do DIY at all hours and when I posted on here I was mostly told to suck it up as when we're they expected to do it if they were at work in the week! We also get loud music and people get home in the early hours having loud conversations outside our bedroom windows. One neighbour has young adult DC who still scream in the garden when they have friends round!

I'm making it sound worse than it is as it's all occasional. My point is a bit of toddler noise is just part and parcel of living in a residential street surely?

I agree with your husband. When ours were little we waited until 10am/10.30am even both your immediate neighbours have little ones noise carries.

Any time after 8am.is fine imo, and my kids are all grown up.

Idea neighbours!

Pre 9am would make me murderous

I’d have no reservations going out in our garden anytime after 7ish. People will sit in their gardens having BBQs and seining until 9.30/10pm. Whilst not playing loud music or anything unreasonable, it’s still noise that can be heard in my house when my kids are asleep. In the same way I wouldn’t expect them to restrict the use of their gardens after 7.30pm for fear it might wake my children, I wouldn’t expect to have use my garden restricted at 7.30am. As long as the noise isn’t unreasonable (child screaming at top of his lungs, playing loud music) I’d go for it.

God no. It's a Sunday, the only day off some people get. I always waited till 10 to let mine out to run riot. It is just basic respect. Fecking them out into the garden at silly o clock on a Sunday morning because your own head is mithered with them is being one of those neighbours.

I usually wait till 9.30am on weekends, recently there has been building work right behind the houses where I live and that work has started at 8am, so today all my children were in the garden at 8:30am. ( I have 4 children)

8:30 is perfectly acceptable. I get up at 6:15 most days and today my lie in was 7:15 when my boys got up to go out bird spotting. My boy is 11. Our neighbours make noise day in day out cutting grass at 8:16 last week and cutting a bush down at after 9pm so if it’s a nice day let the little one go out. If anyone is horrid enough to complain tell them you’ve been up hours and they need to get a grip. If they want peace they can go live in a gated community or if they are old a retirement village. However they will find they aren’t quiet there either and they will be begging to come back to suburbia as I’m told they are woken each day early for breakfast and or medication. I live somewhere where people think it’s acceptable to argue day and night with no thought for when we have to get up. They are only little for a while and I can assure you fortnite full blast through true walls is noisier :)

I can honestly say it's something I've never even thought about. We're often out on the hot tub at 7am for our morning coffee before going to work!

Basing it on the fact that that most councils allow building, garden work etc to start from 7am I wouldn't have a problem with letting my kids out at 8:30am. If it's nice weather and they want to go out then why on Earth shouldn't they?

We have builders next door banging away at the moment at 8am on a Sat so no, I would not feel guilty about an 8.30 start!

I remember someone on holiday yelling out of the window to "keep the fucking noise down" at 8.30am once after I finally went outside with the kids after being up for three hours with them indoors. Later, to his credit, the man did apologise and say he hadn't realised it was 8.30am and had thought it was much earlier.

So I think yes, 8.30am is fine, YANBU and I wouldn't be upset by hearing kids playing at that time.

Your child, your garden, your rules (after 8am)

My kids can go out in the garden from 7am weekend and week. They are 6 and 7. They have a trampoline, ninja line and swing. They burn up energy before they go to school or start weekend activities.

Are you my neighbour?
Every weekend their kids are out at 8.30 - now they have a dog too and it’s the noisiest dog ever!
No alarm needed that’s for sure 😕
Just to add, we have a dog and he doesn’t bark every time he goes into the garden unlike theirs. They just leave him to it too 😔

“Attached neighbours”?

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It’s your garden. Go for it. Obviously keep noise to a minimum. My 2 year old likes to be out and just enjoys exploring. It’s not noisy.

To add to above, I don’t feel bad at all about this. My neighbours have been blasting music all day having a bbq. Last night they had all the windows open and started what sounded like a wrestling match at 11.30. My other neighbours do DIYA at all hours. He is sometimes hammering when my kids wake up at 6.30am so honestly I couldn’t give a crap. One once complained and I stared at his dog who barks at mine all day, smiled sarcastically and walked away.

I'm so surprised at all these messages saying 9.30/10am! Id feel I was living on eggshells (excuse the mixed metaphor!) waiting until I thought there was no risk I might wake a neighbor having a lie in! It's your garden, if it would do him (and you) good to get outside, just do it. As you say he's playing quietly, not doing anyone any harm. If he starts screaming his head off then yes, bring him inside. (Ps I realise the irony of my user name as I write this message!) Do what you need to do OP. Xx