To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?

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The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

I think the point is that ‘consideration’ with neighbours goes both ways.

I generally didn’t let my kids out till 9 when they were little. I don’t generally do loud diy in the morning, don’t have big parties etc.

But I also have consideration for my single parent neighbour with 2 young boys. If she needs to let them out for her sanity then she should and if it wakes me up then so be it.

I’d honestly say anything after 7:30/8 is fine, if they are just playing until the garden. I work nights and manage to sleep through the day just fine with people mowing their lawn, kids screaming, dogs barking so I don’t really understand the issue. I’d rather them be out in the garden in the fresh air, I’ll often sit outside too with my morning tea at that time.

10am for us too ds was never awake till about 9.30 on a weekend

My local council put up a Christmas tree at 4/5am once with what sounded like a circular saw. People worrying about children at 830 need to get a problem.

I go with 9 am on the weekend. 8:30 in the week. Apply the same rule to outdoor chores, and to vacuuming or running the washing machine when I live in an attached home.

8.30 is too early. My toddler is only just waking up at that time, often later. I'd be annoyed at mine being woken by someone else's tbh. 9am is early enough.

If your child isn’t a screecher letting him play in the garden at 8.30am is perfectly fine.

If it's considered fine for the postie to ring the doorbell at 8 - mine has been known to ring at 7:45 even on a Saturday - I don't really see the biggie about kids playing. The birds get going even earlier 😁

How noisy is your postie if he disturbs your neighbours?

Well for some reason we share a postie so I assume he sometimes rings them at the same time!

Point being that if 8am was such an antisocial time, our national postal service wouldn't think it was appropriate to ring doorbells then

8.30 am is fine. It it was a gaggle of toddlers, all vying for attention, then maybe later, but a solitary child out in a garden, 8.30 is perfectly ok. It's not going to be every week, may just be on those lovely weekend mornings when the sun's out, let the kid enjoy their day!

I don't think when you use your garden should depend on anyone but you. I mean its rarely nice enough in the mornings to enjoy the garden anyway.

When people have builders starting at 8.30 at a weekend they are thinking of no one! Nobody will thank you so do what suits you!

9.39am on Saturday, 10am on Sunday.

Thems the rules

8.30 is too early. My toddler is only just waking up at that time, often later

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Stealth bragging?!

If only it was humble bragging ...

So annoyed i didn't get paid for my piece of journalism 😢 (intentional brag)

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Depends what the kid is going to be doing and potential to disturb people I suppose. If you've got two or more boisterous kids who are going to be running around shouting then I can see the sense in waiting a little. On the other hand, if my only wanted to go play in her sandpit or just potter around the garden, I wouldn't see that as potential to annoy or disturb anyone.

Mine has never naturally woken before then. As a baby she wouldn’t wake until 10am-11am most days. I’ve been very lucky but I’m dreading the teenage years.

Children sleep similar amounts to each other that is largely based on their age. When a child gets up at 10am, it just means they went to bed really late, so the parents didn't have an evening. If that works better for you then great, but it isn't "lucky", it's a daily plan you've chosen.

I'm quite shocked by this thread to be honest. I would have said 8 or 8:30 on a weekend was entirely appropriate at this time of year to be letting children outside!

But then, I'm a violin teacher and start at 8:30 on Saturday morning (at home).

I'd definitely rather listen to kids than violins!

You're all crazy, 9am is late, 8am is fine anything before that WBU.

8.30 is fine. In the summer we often have breakfast outside, so the door is open and we are pottering around outside from 8am ish.

Ds is 2. He isn’t any more noisy than an adult outside imo. It’s not a huge garden he can run about screaming in, so he’s usually just in sandpit or pottering with us.

I wouldn't before 9.30/10am on the weekend personally. Our next door neighbours have children but everyone else close by doesn't.

Also, where I live it’s 30+ degrees most the summer. I would much rather a child was outside 8-11am, then again 5pm onwards than only being allowed out when it’s really too hot for any length of time if not in the shade.
School starts 7.30am, so most people are used to being up pretty early with children Mon-Friday. So 8.30am is a huge lie in

Next door builders started with jack hammer at 6.50am not long ago!

We've been woken up at just past 7am this morning by neighbours kids, who are not small, about 11 or 12, shouting and shrieking while bouncing on the trampoline. Looks like another sleepover because there are five of them, so your 8.30 seems reasonable. Ideally though, I think 9am is good but after living at the back of these really selfish people, I've lowered my expectations.