'Messy' guest room sheets

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I'm pretty sure I'm not being U but also want to check I'm not being a fusty old cow.

Had some friends round, three couples, one who isn't local asked if they could crash at ours rather than not drink or get a taxi. We said, sure! We have a guest room, all good.
They're mid 20s, my DH and I are early 40s. We have an 11y DS.
We'd told them that evening that we're early risers, just as a heads up. All good.
Next morning, they're up, showers, come down around 9.30, we all have breakfast together. They head off around 11am.
I go up to change the bedding as we have other guests due. Pull back the duvet and see a wet patch on the sheet. Pull off the sheet, the wet patch is through to the mattress. It's jizz. No doubt.
So, AIBU to think that's a bit rank? Or am I being fusty and should be a bit more chill? I don't care about the sexy time, do what you like, but clear it up. 'Finish' so it's tidy iyswim. We're likely to have them round again at some point but there's no way I'm letting them stay, is that mean? Obviously, if they asked, I'd have to say 'you know, my cleaning up jizz days are behind me and probably in front of me with a boy in the house so no thanks. Go do that in the taxi home and receive the bill instead.'

I am in the its disrespectful camp too.

Their age doesn't excuse them either. They aren't animals, they could have gone without for one night. It's about decency and they clearly are lacking in it.

And OP, in case you didn't get the memo, get a mattress protector!

It is gross, they should have either not made a mess or stripped the bed themselves, that being said, I think waterproof protectors are a must for any bed which would have prevented mess getting on to the mattress which can't be cleaned off.

But also my house has a tiny landing and badly fitting wonky doors so there is very little privacy even when the doors are shut. Maybe if I lived in a huge mansion with massive bedrooms I would feel differently. I'm imagining it in my house!

Well yes. I’m guessing few people would have heard Tony and Cherie Blair banging away at Balmoral the night Leo was conceived.

It really isn't. I've had countless guests to stay and have stayed at many friends houses. Noone has ever stripped a bed and loaded the washing machine 🙄

@Thepeopleversuswork Sex in itself is fine. Under the covers, quietly, it's just one body part in another. It gets disrespectful when you leave traces for you host to see. I don't want to know what you get up to, or scrub it off with my hands🤷🏻‍♀️

Had they done it with no mess, I doubt anyone would give it a second though

I'm not sure why anyone would feel comfortable picking up bedding and potentially touching someone elses cum. It's gross.

According to this thread many are perfectly fine with doing exactly that.

Had they done it with no mess, I doubt anyone would give it a second though

I agree. Do what you like but don't expect me to clean up after you. FWIW I would feel the same about skid marks around the toilet. Who thinks it's fine to leave that for someone else to deal with?

Sex in itself is fine. Under the covers, quietly

This couldn't sound any more stereotypically and Britishly repressed!!

This couldn't sound any more stereotypically and Britishly repressed!!

But the discreetness is due to being at someone else's home. Perhaps thin walls, small rooms, no mattress protection etc etc

At home everyone can be as loud and messy as they want!

Probably cool with it because it isn't their mattress.

OTT. OP did not complain about the noise level you have added that onto the story to make this a huge issue. OP seems to have a lot of guests so she should have a mattress protector or don't have the guests in future

If the word sperm was replaced with snot or shit would those saying it's fine still be okay with clearing that up? Sex is the red herring here. The real problem is people acting like 🤷🏻‍♀️ not my problem.

Who was it that stayed with you OP, Amber Heard?

It's similar to having a period it can't be helped sometimes! Leaks happen it's normal.

It's similar to having a period it can't be helped sometimes!

A period can't be prevented, but having sex can wait one night.

You're in someone else's house @Kat1953. You can be sexually liberated in your own house so yes, under the covers. Ick.

Who knew that having sex while not covered by a duvet counts as sexually liberated 🤣

@Norush4 it's nothing like a period. And I'm sure if it was a period and the guest apologised to the Op and was upfront about it the Op would be totally fine.

Is this because the guests are in their 20s? Is this thread split by opinion by age?

Its nothing like shit either. Dramatic 🤣

@Norush4 bet your friends love you leaving your sex stains everywhere. Like I said, some people are 🤷🏻‍♀️ and rude.

Meh, I'd be grossed out at finding it, but I would forgive if they're otherwise good people.

You're proving my point @Norush4 at how rude some posters on this thread are. It's not dramatic to not want to clean up someone's bodily fluids. As an adult I know how to clean up after myself. What a strange stereotypical thing to say. You think 'uptight' women need dick? Bizarre.

Epeople aren't ignoring it! Why do you think people are saying she should have a mattress protector!!!?!?!

Yes but she didn’t so I get that it’s disgusting to have someone’s jizz on an unwashable item of furniture. Nobody wants that.