'Messy' guest room sheets

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I'm pretty sure I'm not being U but also want to check I'm not being a fusty old cow.

Had some friends round, three couples, one who isn't local asked if they could crash at ours rather than not drink or get a taxi. We said, sure! We have a guest room, all good.
They're mid 20s, my DH and I are early 40s. We have an 11y DS.
We'd told them that evening that we're early risers, just as a heads up. All good.
Next morning, they're up, showers, come down around 9.30, we all have breakfast together. They head off around 11am.
I go up to change the bedding as we have other guests due. Pull back the duvet and see a wet patch on the sheet. Pull off the sheet, the wet patch is through to the mattress. It's jizz. No doubt.
So, AIBU to think that's a bit rank? Or am I being fusty and should be a bit more chill? I don't care about the sexy time, do what you like, but clear it up. 'Finish' so it's tidy iyswim. We're likely to have them round again at some point but there's no way I'm letting them stay, is that mean? Obviously, if they asked, I'd have to say 'you know, my cleaning up jizz days are behind me and probably in front of me with a boy in the house so no thanks. Go do that in the taxi home and receive the bill instead.'

Have you got one of those CSI type UV lights OP or did you give it the sniff test?Could've been spilt water.

Everyone should. It's gross not to.

Exactly my thoughts too. I couldnt give a rats arse if someone has sex in my spare room- crack on, but come on, dont leave me jiizz stains all over the place to have to clear up- thats just gross and rude.

I'm baffled by the outrage

Wash the sheets, give the mattress a clean. They either didn't realise or were too embarrassed to say anything

No big deal.

Also baffled by the idea of mattress protectors being essential.

fine with the sex but they should have brought their own towel and taken it home or rinsed it or anything.

Absolutely - it's just really bad manners - and disgusting. Or a bit of self-restraint for 24 hours wouldn't have killed them.

Why should the op get a mattress protector for doing them a one night favour?She wasn't getting paid bed and board. Inconsiderate, rude twats.

Also this.

Mortified for the jizz bandits.

I'd just laugh and shove the sheets in the wash.

No, they really aren't ignoring that, as you'd have seen if you'd read the billion or so replies telling the OP she needs to get a mattress protector.

I wouldn't give a damn if someone had a shag in my spare bed. Couples have sex. I'm going to wash the sheets anyway if someone's stayed over so it makes no difference to me. And yes, I would always have a mattress protector on a spare bed. And on my own bed, to be honest.

It is also, however, possible that the bloke just had a wet dream. Plenty of adult men do have them; it's not just a teenage boy thing. And there's not really anything you can do about it.

This is a whole other debate. Very personal choice on weather you expect guests to strip the bed.

Personally I do not and I think it's awkward for the person holiday the bedding or asking where you put your laundry poor buggers.

Just don't have guests stay over in future OP. Surely the bed would have dried I mean FFS.

Surely the bed would have dried I mean FFS.

That's even worse.. 🤢

I don't want to be crude and get into fine details.. but these things do happen.

Mattress protector is needed because not everyone uses condoms perhaps the mattress was stained from OP herself!

I'm with you OP, bad manners and they should have stripped the bed. I always do this/offer to do this when I stay over. You should have a mattress cover though, that's also a bit rank.

I really couldn't care less about this. I'd not even look to be honest, just strip the bed and put it in the wash.

I am baffled that people on this thread are fine with the wet patch!

It's gross and I can only assume they didn't realise because if it were me, I'd wash my hair and ask to borrow your hairdryer, giving the bed a quick blast too!

It was one night, they could have held off in my opinion.

Also, lol @ sex towel 😂.

Disgusting? Never invite them again? Overreactions. Has anybody looked underneath the mattress protector on a hotel bed?

I would have at least caught it/done a strategic roll off the bed to avoid leakage, though.

The OPs home is not a hotel.

Very bad form to shag in a friend's house and the leave your jazzy mess in the bed.

Jizzy not jazzy!

You had people half your age over to stay, made it clear they had to leave early morning. And now stressing out over jizz sheets . Stick to people in their 40s give them a lie in and a nice breakfast.

This reminds me of the time myself and my ex stayed over at my auntie's place. She said to put a towel down first if we wanted to have sex 🤣🤣🤣 we had no intention of having sex in the same house but I liked her forthrightness.

How uncouth! I always pack my travel penis beaker next to my sex-towel

They should have stripped the bed as is common courtesy when you stay at someone else's home. I'd do so regardless of whether I had sex or not. If they do stay over again just ask them to strip the bed in the morning doesn't have to be a big deal.

No point telling op to get a mattress protector now! The mattress is already damaged.

This is like those threads where people get stressed out because people use the toilet to poo in.
They're a young couple. They had sex, they probably assumed there was a mattress protector because why wouldn't you have one on a guest bed.

No, you can't compare the two! Having a poo is a basic, necessary function that everyone has and it cannot be controlled or avoided (nor should it). Toilets are designed for that very function!

Having sex when staying as a guest for one night in somebody's home is entirely optional and CAN be controlled or avoided. And it absolutely should!

SMH.

fine with the sex but they should have brought their own towel and taken it home or rinsed it or anything.

You expect guests to bring a jizz towel, really?

I think it's strange that you would investigate the sheets to be honest I find that intrusive. YABU and a prude.