To think SD mum is mental?

[hangtangzang]

My partner has a 9 year old daughter. I had been with him for 3 years until lockdown when we split up.

My SD mum had been hard work for a year, she then got used to the idea of me and was okay for the last few years.

We split and I never heard from her again. 2.5 years later, me and my ex are trying things out again. And once again SD mum is being an absolute nightmare.

I honestly don't think it's anything to do with my partner as they have has 2.5 years to get together whilst they were both single.

She seems to have an issue with the fact that I left SD life without saying goodbye. What was I meant to do though? Say goodbye and draw it out? I couldn't do that.

So apparently she now wants me introduced into
SD life as if it's the first time I've met her and she is being really nasty again. Doesn't trust me, why would I trust her etc.

AIBU to think since I've already been a part of SD life it's fine?

Op has gone and she didn't say goodbye.
probably sulking as she's been out straight and rightly so.
that poor little girl.at least she has a fabulous mum.

I bet OP will come back here in 2.5 and be lovely to us all as if nothing happened.

she didn’t even say goodbye.

I hope she doesn’t, she’s mental.

Yabu. Although I don’t suppose op will be back, they always run away when things don’t go their way.

I also hate the way people use partner rather than boyfriend. It sounds silly unless you are living together as if married. I suppose someone who refers to a child they don’t care about as their step daughter would use this term.

You walked away from his daughter after being in her life for 3 years, without a backwards glance.

What kind of person are you? Sound like a monster.

tee hee

OP: 'AIBU?'
Everyone: 'Yes'
OP: 'No I'm not!'

<flounce>

TBH she sounds like a wise woman.

Your history shows that you’re a flight risk, so to speak. She wants to protect her DD’s feelings. I actually think this is one of the most sensible things I’ve heard about step parenting dynamics.

No you’d have been encouraged to be a grown up and say goodbye. Those of us who are parents know how confusing this situation would be for a young child and drawing a line is a kinder thing to do than saying nothing

Is his ex saying this directly to you or how are you hearing about all the requests she has made?