Partner goes shooting almost 5 to 6 days a week

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been with my partner for a year, for the last 3months he’s been going shooting from 5pm till 11:30pm, and occasionally when he’s off work or weekend he will go all night and come back in the morning about 11am something 3pm in the afternoon. I’m not comfortable with this as I don’t feel that give us any time together.

l work till 4 and have school age kids from previous relationship so I’m the week I’m ready to chill with partner by 8pm. My partner work at home and finish mostly between 5 and 6pm and that is when he have a shower and prepare to go out.

I really don’t understand this shooting and hunting habit. When I met him I know he was into this but thought he only do it few days in a week as mostly he would be at mine by 8pm for just us to have a nice time. This is before we start leaving together about 5 months ago.

He wouldn’t take me out anywhere, anything I suggest he would make excuses so I give up asking. on the other hand I do all the cooking and most house work. I have to cook as I have kids in the house.

please let me know if this is normal relationship for him to go out almost every night and sometimes don’t come home.

Then do

Bollocks.

But as a mother you should think about your children and not move some random in that you really don't know that well

He took yesterday and today off work, so yesterday during the day he did some work in the garden and I’m assuming he feel he can do as he please today. He’s still not back yet

In the UK it's illegal to shoot pigeons. They are protected. I know this because where I live people sometimes have tried to shoot them and neighbours have made it very clear that it's against the law.

Are you from the UK and is English your first language? I only ask as it looks as if you are not familiar with shooting law.

*not familiar

Of course she can trust him around her kids - he's never bloody there!

That's the only good thing

Having lived/worked on a country estates, the gamekeepers were out hunting all the time. Lamping rabbits every night was very common, it used to shine through my windows all the time. It’s been breeding season for rabbits and that’s when they are usually culled most, to stop more rabbits eating crops.

Does he have an agreement with a farmer that requires a certain amount of time/animals to be shot?

“He might be a game keeper.”

do they work from home? 🤔

Ok - amendment to my above posts. It is legal to shoot pigeons but there are various ways it has to be done. If it's on farmland there have to be other measures tried first.

Anyway- that's not what you are worried about.

I don't believe he is shooting. well, not birds.

So when you text him to say "when are you coming back?" what does he reply?

THen get his stuff packed up and leave it outside the door. The locked door.

@JinglingHellsBells it seems your neighbours are mistaken. It is legal under general licence to shoot wood pigeons and feral pigeons if they are ‘attacking’ crops or livestock.

My husband also shoots, if you have permission to shoot on someones land and a shotgun or firearms licence then you can shoot a range of birds including pigeons in the UK, despite what others have said.

But, pigeons, crows, ducks etc are shot at dusk, when they are flying in to roost. Once they are settled to roost for the night there is no real shooting being done as you can't see them in a wooded area in the dark anymore and it would be dangerous.

So your partner going out shooting is not terrible thing, but should be home shortly after dark (unless going lamping for rabbits), so the issue is where is he from darkness falling to the morning. I suspect very much that he is not where he says he is. 😥

I assume this isn't real as surely no-one can be this thick and selfish.

Aside from all the issues the one thing that stand out is WHY THE FUCK DID YOU MOVE A MAN IN WITH YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN AFTER JUST A FEW MONTHS?

If it is true pack his bags, change the locks and block him on all platforms.

Presumably he has a mobile phone, & can receive texts?

You don't need him to come back.
You just need to pack his shit up, & text him to come & collect it by 6pm, as the 'relationship' is no longer working for you & you want him & his stuff gone. Today.

I love some of the responses on this thread 🤣

OP - pack up his stuff and change the lock 🔐

He can do as he pleases as you have let him move in after five minutes and you are getting nothing from this relationship other than being able to say you have a partner.

You don’t have a relationship. You have a lodger. That you cook and clean for and presumably service ‘his needs’.

does he pay towards rent, bills and food?

where was he living when you started dating? I’d drop his stuff off at his mates seeing as he enjoys spending so much time there.

be strong. Get it done. Don’t be so hasty going forward.

So called 'hunting' aside, moving someone in after 7 months when you have kids is really not a good idea. Change the locks, throw his stuff out...

YABU to still be with him. Being single is surely preferable to a man like this?

Sounds like you moved in together too soon and he's finding any excuse to be out.

So you let someone you barely know, with a gun, move in with your kids after a few months!

Crazy

Is he stag hunting or shag hunting?