Comment after oral sex (this may be TMI for some ppl)

[Limebazil]

I am seeing a guy the last few weeks we are both early 30s. He seems like a nice guy, and things were going great. Last night we slept together for the first time, it was great he was very generous in bed but after he had gone down on me he said "I think you should drink more water you taste kind of strong". This was really hurtful to me, I'm sure he didn't mean it to be hurtful and maybe I'm overly sensitive but why would you say that when it is widely known that women/ girls are paranoid about how they look/ smell/ taste down there. He's not a gynaecologist so the health advice was not appreciated. He could see he had upset me and tried to back track saying "he didn't mean it like that" and "I'm crazy about you the last thing I want to do is offend you I was just trying to help" but now I'm just seeing it as a red flag. AIBU?

You've swerved a fucking arsehole there OP!

Good for you for having proper standards, I hope he leaves you alone now.

The comment was a gift-horse for you to see who he is.

You did the right thing, it is an incredibly rude personal remark and however you analyze it, it does not show any kind of good characteristic.

He revealed himself.

You let him go so he can pair up with one of the women on here who find a comment like that totally acceptable after the first night of intimacy.

I ended it with a guy around your age who shared that he and his mate giggled over a woman who had nipple hair- one of them had had an experience with. Ended it there and told him he had revealed himself and I was done because in mocking that woman he mocked me and every other woman and it revolted me. I bet he thought twice before he spoke about women like that again-I pity whoever ended up with him and you are applauded by me for knowing your worth and knowing this comment reveals deep coal seams of shitty character in this man.You dodged a cock shaped bullet-kudos to you.

Nice one op, you had the measure of him👍

Only on mumsnet would you have a 'my bodily fluids taste better than yours!' conversation 🤣

(I was going to say 'my fanny tastes better than yours' but from your posts I don't think you're female so...)

My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard..
Damn right.. it's better than yours! 😬

That email gave me shivers! I'm glad you have people staying with you. x

Omg 😂😂😂😂😂

Still an unpleasant email to receive out of the blue, but I hope it reassures you he hasn't done anything exceptionally clever to find your email address.

I was confused when I first read your messages. I know that how much you do or don't drink genuinely affects the smell of your urine, but I wasn't sure if it affects anything else, and I was trying to work out whether it was a real comment or a neg. You knew instinctively straight away. I think that should be the takeaway from this experience with this pathetic bloke - not that he sent you a horrible email, but that when your gut tells you something isn't right, your gut is spot on. Listen to it.

It was after we had a penetrative sex so it was a lot of his fluids down there too. Maybe he should take his own suggestion.

You had unprotected sex with a man you have just met?

a good guy

🤮

Have you seen "A promising young woman"?, OP? I think it would cheer you up.

🤣🤣🤣

Sometimes I thank my lucky stars that I am in my late 50s!!!🙄

It was perfectly reasonable for him to request you drink more water as to him your taste is strong

No it isn't, cripes. Some people would do anything to please a bloke, ew.

Why? Don't you have sex?

More evidence, if it were required, that men who say 'I'm a good guy'...aren't.

Well done OP! You handled the arsewipe like a queen!

He sounded like he was a shit lay anyway. Got his and nothing for you until 2am and the bell end insulted you when he was tasting his own fermented jizz.

I love how everyone was saying oh it's good he was "honest".
And you're supposed to buy crates of pineapple and consume 20l of water to please him.
I love how you were honest with him about why you didn't want to see him. I guess "honesty" is one way street with him after his last abusive email.

Hope he decides to fuck off and stop harassing you.
Hate for the police to show up at his door and all those vile messages end up with his family members, boss, etc.
👑

If you’re going to go to the effort of attending an STI clinic together before the first bang though, maybe have an actual discussion about what it’s important to you to feel emotionally secure after the deed’s done too?

I personally feel that the day you find yourself trying to explain civilised, non-entitled, non-misogynistic behaviour to a grown adult is the day you show him the door instead.

Well at least now we know why the Del Monte man says yes.

Did you wash eg with water and non-perfumed soap, before he went down on you?

I’d always expect a new man to wash first if oral was on the cards (DH does it automatically although we’ve been married so long I don’t care as I like his natural pheromones).

If you didn’t wash, it’s possible he was referring to the taste of wee or bits of loo roll stuck to you?

(We keep a jug by the loo for quick washes).

It was probably his own semen he was tasting!

Im with you OP, i would have been mortified. He more than likely has tasted himself tho if you had sex before then, does he not realise that or was it to purposely make you feel self concious.
I would have ended it there and then like you, i wouldnt have felt comfortable at all going to bed with him again, and would be waiting for the next bit of 'helpful advice'

But now seeing your recent posts and his lovely email, what a lucky escape you have had!! Gut feeling is always right.
What a nob, well rid.

It definitely sounds to me like he was tasting his own semen after reading your timeline of events. Maybe he was referring to that in his comment or maybe he is just plain stupid and came out with something very insensitive.

His loss.

You beat me to it, @Babyroobs...😜

For me I would feel the same, did his willy taste like heaven, feck him off as that would always play on your mind and right after you were intimate. He could have said something later on but not while you were in bed. Go with your gut instinct anyway.

Wow. I have learnt some stuff today. Sounds like you dodged a bullet OP.