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Comment after oral sex (this may be TMI for some ppl)

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Limebazil · 30/04/2022 16:06

I am seeing a guy the last few weeks we are both early 30s. He seems like a nice guy, and things were going great. Last night we slept together for the first time, it was great he was very generous in bed but after he had gone down on me he said "I think you should drink more water you taste kind of strong". This was really hurtful to me, I'm sure he didn't mean it to be hurtful and maybe I'm overly sensitive but why would you say that when it is widely known that women/ girls are paranoid about how they look/ smell/ taste down there. He's not a gynaecologist so the health advice was not appreciated. He could see he had upset me and tried to back track saying "he didn't mean it like that" and "I'm crazy about you the last thing I want to do is offend you I was just trying to help" but now I'm just seeing it as a red flag. AIBU?

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Overthewine · 30/04/2022 22:27

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Goldijobsandthe3bears · 30/04/2022 22:28

Fit50 · 30/04/2022 22:23

I’m not bothered about being disagreed with that’s life we all choose how we live our lives. I honestly thought I was offering an insight into how I would have handled it at the time trying to reassure the OP that imo it’s it something to take personally. However, some of you are so bullying and judgmental when somebody has a different opinion than your own! Shocking!

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You clearly are! You are not being bullied however desperate you may be to claim that and frankly it’s insulting to people who have actually experienced it.

Fit50 · 30/04/2022 22:29

Goldijobsandthe3bears · 30/04/2022 22:28

You clearly are! You are not being bullied however desperate you may be to claim that and frankly it’s insulting to people who have actually experienced it.

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I respectfully disagree.

bumpy22 · 30/04/2022 22:30

Nooooo I’d tell him to f* off 😂

JollyWilloughby · 30/04/2022 22:30

@Justkidding55

hmm, maybe because sexual violence against women is more of an issue worldwide than the other way around? Sexual shame often starts prior to the violence.

Suggesting that the 70 percent of people who voted YANBU have smelly Fanny’s tells me all I need to know about you.

Thick as mince.

PingPages · 30/04/2022 22:31

Giraffesandbottom · 30/04/2022 20:56

Once I tried to end the relationship suddenly I tasted like Hagen Daas.... he was begging and begging me to let him go down on me again. Why if I tasted so awful to begin with?

he didn’t say you tasted awful. He said you had a strong taste.
If you had actually had sex beforehand you could have just said “lol that’s your own sperm”.

maybe you do have a strong taste?

this is just another AIBU where the poster doesn’t think they are BU so it’s pointless. I’m also getting pretty tired of men being picked apart and turned into villains when they don’t deserve it. At worst he’s been a thoughtless tit. You’re painting him as some sort of monster because he’s hurt your feelings (whatever you say to the contrary).

This aged badly, very quickly didn’t it 😂

Goldijobsandthe3bears · 30/04/2022 22:32

Fit50 · 30/04/2022 22:29

I respectfully disagree.

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Ok

katrizia127 · 30/04/2022 22:32

@Fit50 perhaps you can make your own AIBU thread to settle the matter?

Giraffesandbottom · 30/04/2022 22:33

@PingPages

😃 it did

JollyWilloughby · 30/04/2022 22:34

@katrizia127

That would be amazing. 🍍

Justkidding55 · 30/04/2022 22:35

You guys were saying he was off to say it even before he turned out to be a wrongun.
so my point that it’s one rule for men and another for women Stands.
noone should have to do something in bed they don’t enjoy and I’m a guy tastes off I will tell him and expect him not to whinge about it and vice versa.

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JollyWilloughby · 30/04/2022 22:36

@Justkidding55

which proved us right. That’s the definition of a red flag, in case you didn’t know.

ldontWanna · 30/04/2022 22:36

and I’m a guy

Freudian slip?Grin

Annoyedandirritated · 30/04/2022 22:37

Bloody hell, does he know where you live?

Justkidding55 · 30/04/2022 22:38

Also it’s true about pineapple. Clean eater here and taste amazing everyone remarks on it so..

JollyWilloughby · 30/04/2022 22:38

@Justkidding55

wow, really? Do you shit glitter too?

Justkidding55 · 30/04/2022 22:39

What page is the email?

Blossomtoes · 30/04/2022 22:39

Justkidding55 · 30/04/2022 22:38

Also it’s true about pineapple. Clean eater here and taste amazing everyone remarks on it so..

Blimey, how many people are you having oral sex with?

JollyWilloughby · 30/04/2022 22:39

@Justkidding55

everyone? Lmao 🤣

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 30/04/2022 22:41

Justkidding55 · 30/04/2022 22:38

Also it’s true about pineapple. Clean eater here and taste amazing everyone remarks on it so..

How lovely. Tell your mum to put that one in the family roundup in this year's Christmas card.

'Amanda has been widely complimented on the taste of her fanny'.

Hatinafield · 30/04/2022 22:41

Jeez, no wonder the man from Del Monte said yes! 😜

PeachesToday · 30/04/2022 22:41

Well done OP. Too many women are accepting of mens shitty behaviour.

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RogueV · 30/04/2022 22:42

Err I bet he could taste himself.

well done for blocking him!!!! Prick