To ask you what stops you from living how you want to?

[billes]

Im mid thirties, no real career, no financial success, i am not living the life i so badly long for.

Which made me curious....

A) What is it you want for your life that you don't have?
B) What do you think the reason is?

I'm talking realistic dream life, nothing unattainable.

Well I guess when it comes down to it, confidence probably

Stage 4 cancer. So if you don’t have that GO FOR IT. Life is short.

Shit mental health, and being on benefits.
If I could sort either of them out, I think I would be fine. The system does not work out that way though.

I expected I would have a career rather than a job. I don't have it cos I had kids young and just had to take whatever jobs I could to make ends meet.

Our house is too small - we bought it 13 years ago, pre DD, when money was scarce. It's a two bed flat in London (zone 2).

Now we're paralysed by indecision about where to move, and when to do it.

DD loves her school, but we can't afford a proper house (4 beds to allow DH and I to both work from home comfortably) around here (starting price £1.5m) so moving to the type of house that would improve our quality of life would mean uprooting ourselves and starting again somewhere new.

It's a first world problem, I know.

Needing to be near the right school for DD.

Materialism and ambition

Debt, anxiety and PTSD following one crappy engagement where I let myself be taken advantage of financially, and one awful, abusive relationship with a grade A narcissist that led me to the verge of suicide. I am clawing my way back but I don’t feel like I’ll ever have a semblance of the life I dreamed of

Ah shit, just read your post @mowly77 (cross posted) I wouldn't be bitching about my stupid lack of bedrooms if I'd read that.

Chronic pain and various ailments. Not enough energy to achieve everything I want

Money. I’m on my own, and burned through savings, trying to have a baby with my ex. Didn’t work…

Also my health. I’ve developed a disability in my late 30s. It’s meant my mobility is quite seriously affected - and that I can’t travel as I used to, for example.

So very sorry 🌺

Sorry for your situation @mowly77 that’s very tough.

Money. I am full of creativity like art, making clothes, music, drama, reading and poetry and travel but no time or money to do it all.

In all honesty my children.
I have my own business it could and when I get the chance is so successful but my children are young. I have very little childcare and I won't put them into childcare so it's only when grandparents help out. I'm so lucky they do help, they're so lucky I'm here most of the time for them but they take up so much of it. my business could have already have achieved so much I see it when I do get to work at it for a solid week but then they're only little for such a short period of time and when they're in school I can work more.

£.

And confidence.

Two disabled children. Life revolves around them and I can't ever see a time when it won't. This is it for us.

don’t worry @Throwawaytoday yelling “stage 4 cancer!” can quickly kill any thread. I normally stick to the cancer support board! Slinks off

Ah man don't slink off!

I wish we didn’t have to stay so close to where DSC’s mum lives. If that weren’t an issue, I would live somewhere completely different.

Start-up capital for my eBay business, yes their is plenty of competition, but I'd like to give It a go, but need investors to fund it.

I like the life I have, but I would also like different lives and I can't have all of them. I have a husband and children and live in the UK, but in another life I'd like to be free and single and permanently travelling the world. I have one career, but I'd like different ones too (not something I can realistically do, especially now I'm in my 50s).

@Ionlydomassiveones I'm so sorry I can only imagine how you feel my worst fear is losing my job

My Autism.