Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

[confusedmummy123]

Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

exactly what I thought, that looks perfect for a wedding

As long as the bride and groom don't have issues with it, it doesn't matter what some stupid etiquette says.
I'm wearing a black dress for my wedding and a crown lol and, I want my guest's to wear anything comfy.
Do what makes you happy. The dress is cute!

Fabulous!!!

@confusedmummy123 are you going to come back?
Have you had a rethink?
Are you sticking with the floral number?

Come back. I know AIBU can be brutal, but in the main, I have found Mumsnet good for constructive advice on fashion dilemmas

Hello! I think weddings are a matter of personal choice generally unless the couple have requested a dress code. Don’t worry what your mum thinks. A friend of mine came to my wedding many years ago in a bubble gum pink dress and looked great. Maybe match with a jacket to cover the shoulders and high courts rather than sandals to formalise a little.Xx

Love it OP. Very pretty and it looks "dressed up" and gorgeous for a spring or early summertime wedding to me. Just lovely. And I wouldn't worry about it being off the shoulder - how many brides' and bridesmaids' dress designs are the same? As for length, it only looks 2" above the knee
(Australian here). Maybe we're more casual/laidback to point of being horizontal down here! Hehe! Have seen photos of wedding parties (brides, grooms, etc) wearing thongs/flipflops - not sure what you call them in the UK - with their special outfits! The horror! 😄 You go girl - wear what you're happy in. Final thought: maybe a good person to ask is the bride if still unsure. Though it's a 10 from me!

I think tbe first one would be fine for a casual barefoot beach wedding

Too casual, bare shoulders and above the knee.

It's not appropriate for a formal wedding; it's short, it looks like a dress for going to the beach. Even if it's a beach wedding, it doesn't look in keeping with what would normally be expected of guests to wear.

I remember being a guest at a wedding where the bride wore a beaded red dress -- you should have heard the gasps when she walked in! (They were not gasps of admiration).

Is there an indication on the wedding invitation of a dress code for the wedding? Normally a wedding guest wears something that does not overshadow the bride (i.e. not white, not too 'fancy', not too revealing).

Thread was stated in April and I suspect the wedding has been and gone……@confusedmummy123 - can you update us as to that you wore in the end!!

I hope it wasn't the pink off-the-shoulder one. Not read the entire thread, just first few posts, but looked way too informal to me and I've long had a bugbear about bare shoulders in church. Though I've seen lots of brides with bare shoulders too. But I still think it's wrong.

Are you a regular church goer? Bare shoulders are normal amongst the younger generations in my church and they many churches I've attended.

If you look at OP post she wore a blue floral super casual crawling around with kids dress.

some people make no effort. Maybe all guests were dressed like this? If not I wonder how out of place she felt?

Definitely not - far too casual - more suited for a beach in Marbella.

too casual. That’s a dress for throwing over a swimming costume on holiday

This. It isn’t appropriate. It’s way too short and informal. It’s very “look at me me me me me” It isn’t your day

Oh gosh I didn’t realise it was a zombie thread but the dress chosen was also dreadful and way too short.

why do people resurrect zombie threads?!!

If I were the bride I’d be a bit put out that someone wore something so casual to my wedding.

If I were the bride I wouldn’t care less. I’d rather my guests feel comfortable in what they’re wearing or wear something they already own than spend money on a dress they’ll hate wearing and never wear again.

It's a zombie thread. Wedding has been and gone.

I know this is old but both dresses were far too casual for a wedding!

What does your mum think of dress 2, @confusedmummy123?

it wa posted originally in April

This is not something to wear at a wedding.

Too informal, short and a bit odd for a wedding in October.

It would look fine on a beach.