Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

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Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

It’s just the name for an off-the-shoulder style.

No! Evening do yes.

Wear it. Does it really matter what anyone else thinks? I hate pointless made up ‘dress codes’. Ridiculous nonsense and only serves to make some people feel unnecessarily superior. 😂

Surely it’s quite obviously a beach cover up?

Sorry OP, I usually roll my eyes at the angst wedding wear causes on here as it's not my reality. But that dress is not nice for a wedding, it looks really cheap and flimsy
I would not wear it and think it is more suited to throw on over a swimsuit on the beach

This is nice for the beach but not for a wedding. Mum is right on this occasion.

It's ok OP, but not wedding attire. It's quite casual and more suited to an informal occasion, unless it's a very informal wedding where no one will be in formal wear I would choose something else.

Keep it for summer days/evenings!

I went to a wedding where one of the guests made a similar faux pas and it was obvious they were rally uncomfortable the whole time. Everyone else in 'wedding' type outfits (nice dresses/suits etc) and this one guy showed up in jeans a very hideous casual baggy, deep v shirt sort of thing. He was very obviously self conscious all day, nobody said anything but there was definitely some second looks.

I've seen a couple of those people at weddings to, no one said anything to them, but lots of people thought it was really disrespectful of them to not make an effort to dress appropriately.

Thats a silly comment, because you can't guarantee people will compliment you on the dress at all, and unfortunately there'll be more people judging about being so under dressed for a wedding.
I think you'd end up feel self conscious in this at a wedding.

@Chickychoccyegg agree. I get that there are of old fashioned etiquette rules that don't apply anymore and I've been happy to break them, but for a special occasion like a wedding how you dress isn't about you, it's about the couple getting married. If you can't suck it up and show respect for importance of the occasion, then you probably shouldn't be going.

I agree with previous posters, and with your Mum. The dress is not appropriate for a wedding. It looks like you haven't made much of an effort, so is disrespectful to the bride and groom.

It's a gorgeous dress but it looks a bit skimpy and too short. If you do wear it, throw a stole round your shoulders in church, or wear a jacket.

It's a really lovely dress, but too casual. Great for the pub or drinks out but not a wedding.

What is the dress code?

I would keep in mind, you may feel incredibly uncomfortable wearing a casual dress to a cocktail or black tie wedding and you realise how under dressed you are. Unfortunately people will make comments as they do.

it looks a bit casual and skimpy for a wedding! Maybe better for the beach?

Nice for the beach, but definitely not suitable for a wedding. Your mum is right.

You can wear it if you want but I think it looks more like a daytime summer dress for the beach. And I wouldn't wear if it's in a church/somewhere formal.

The material and shape is maybe too casual and beachy than what would normally be expected at a wedding, you could try look for something similar in a more structured fabric/shape if that’s the type of dress you’re after!

Mum's right.
Beach dress or mooching around the house dress.

Word of the thread = beach.
It's the latest cancel the cheque.

Yes this.

It's a lovely pretty dress for a BBQ or holiday in Greece.

Totally not what I'd wear for a wedding. You could get away with it for a wedding in a barn not a church, but For me, it would also feel a real waste of an opportunity to be able to wear something more formal / glamorous as there's so few opportunities to wear a "proper" dress these days...

I mean she's asking for opinions on whether it's suitable for a wedding, a lot of people saying the same thing is surely good to know what most people will be thinking? Not really the same as a million people giving the same piece of advise

Where did the OP go? Shopping…?

@PerditaNitt - I think we were meant to say "nah, your mum doesn't know what's she's talking about! What an old fuddy duddy! Wear it OP!!"

But we didn't.

So she's packed her BooHoo bags and scarpered.

The thing to ask yourself op (if you are still reading these replies…) is what do you think the bride will feel when she sees you?

If you know she’s chilled out and wouldn’t care less, then crack on. If you think she might be upset seeing you in an extremely casual mini dress (on one of the most important days of her life, the one where EVERYONE should be commenting on her dress, not yours), then maybe go for something slightly more traditional.

were you not alive in the 60's/70's? and yes I am a C of E occasional church goer, brought up C of E and married in church.