Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

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Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

Definitely not for a wedding!

Off the shoulder dresses should only be for the bride if that is what they choose.

I agree, it's a pretty dress but looks more like something you'd wear to the beach.

It's a cute dress. For a beach holiday.

Something longer, with shoulders covered would be a good idea

Not sure why it's difficult for adults to decide what's appropriate to wear at a wedding. I see so many photos of women in too short, too tight, too low cut outfits at weddings who look like they're out on the pull in a nightclub.

To casual for a wedding.

I usually wear dresses like that in the summer on the beach.

I love it , but would wear it as a beach dress!

I wouldn't dream of wearing that to a wedding.
It's a beach dress

If you are over 16 years old your mum has no say. If its a church wedding then maybe a pretty shoulder cover up for the actual ceremony? I was married in 1974 and loads of people including brides wore mini dresses then. I have no idea where this sudden "not suitable for a wedding" thing has come from unless you ant to wear an actual wedding dress and are not the bride. I think this is lovely for a summer wedding.

Unless this wedding is on a beach, then definitely not. It’s a casual beach cover up, certainly not wedding attire. I’m amazed you can’t see that yourself.

I agree with your mum. Too informal and casual for a wedding.

What is the thing with shoulders and church? I hear it mentioned a lot, but i have yet to attend a church where it was a thing? Lots of uncovered shoulders in churches on hot Sundays, noone cares.
It seems to be a belief held by non attenders.

If you're happy with it then it's perfect for any occasion. Go for it.There is no right or wrong. Only fussy peoples opinions.

Show me the rule book that says how you're meant to dress at a wedding. There isn't one!

I guarantee if you wear it to the wedding, people will compliment you on it

In the UK, its not held to so often these days but traditionally its a matter of respect.

In Catholic countries, its a big no-no. In fact, many Catholic churches in such countries won't let you enter with exposed shoulder or if you're exposing too much leg (or midriff).

I guarantee if you wear it to the wedding, people will compliment you on it

Possibly. Depends who's getting married. I guarantee there will be others who judge the op for it.

Given that her mum doesn't think it's appropriate, I doubt the wedding is informal enough to get away with it.

Mum is right.

I would wear it to a cafe in Italy but not to a wedding. Too short, too beach holiday. I suspect you'll feel a bit out of place if you turn up.

I wore a dress that was just above my knees to a very informal wedding and wished I'd gone for something a bit longer (actually knee length).

Surely if you’ve been to a few weddings and been married yourself you’d have an idea of what’s generally acceptable for wedding attire?? I thought you were very young and hadn’t been to any from your first post. Generally a wedding outfit isn’t something you’d often wear elsewhere. If you found something a little bit longer or that covered you a little more you’d get away with it.

Ahhh ok, i am in my late 40s and have never come across a church that cared, fortunately. I was raised in the Methodist church which was more concerned with who you were than what you wore. I may have pushed that to extremes as a teen....

Not for a wedding. Unless it’s a casual hippie beach wedding abroad where you have specifically been told the dress code is very casual.

Nice dress, but there is a bit too much "flesh" on display for a church where you are supposed to dress a bit more conservatively. Most churches would not like shoulders/arms/midriff/legs on display and consider it respectful to cover these. (Years ago a hat would have been worn to cover the head as well).

Dress would be good at a summer outdoor evening event.

Bardot Dresses

When I read Bardot dresses, this is what I thought of and though why on earth would anyone say not suitable for a wedding. Nothing Bardot about the dress in question and totally not suitable for a wedding, sorry.

Looks more like a beach coverup

It looks a bit casual for a wedding to me.

I like that you want to dress like 'you' - the pink dress is cute and would look fab on a beach holiday.

I actually have a wardrobe full of things that I've bought for weddings/funerals that I wouldn't wear day to day.

But that's the point isn't it? You're not going to an everyday occurrence. You going to a wedding :)

I would say the rule for a wedding would be, if you can't imagine the Princess of Cambridge wearing it, it's probably not classy enough!

What about something like this? Seems like the same kind of style - just more appropriate for a wedding imo.