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Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

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confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:28

Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

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purplecorkheart · 26/04/2022 15:10

Sorry that is a beside the pool in the sun kind of dress and is not suitable for a wedding, unless it is a beach wedding and even then not really suitable. It could come across a bit disrespectful to the Bride and Groom and I would think that other guess could be talking about you in not a nice way.

ItsYabbaDabbaDoTime · 26/04/2022 15:26

it’s a pool dress OP and fine for an informal wedding.

If you’re keen to wear it for a church or formal wedding, can you team it up a long sleeved coat to go over it (like Kate Middleton) and wear a hat/fancy headband or fascinator?

sausageandbeansx · 26/04/2022 15:30

I wouldn’t wear it for a wedding. Boohoo is rubbish quality for dresses like that. Have you received it yet?

PerfectStormsinTeacups · 26/04/2022 15:32

That’s a dress for a beach holiday not a wedding, I think you’d get a lot of raised eyebrows wearing that!

Anonymous48 · 26/04/2022 15:33

Several people have commented that it would be appropriate for a beach wedding. NO! I had a beach wedding. I wouldn't have been impressed if someone showed up wearing a cheesecloth cover up. My guests were all beautifully dressed and looked like they had made a bit of an effort. Pretty sundresses or cocktail dresses.

sausageandbeansx · 26/04/2022 15:34

Sorry just read you have received it and like the way it looks. I don’t really think it necessarily breaks etiquette rules I just think you’ll stand out a bit too much as looking too informal

tkwal · 26/04/2022 15:47

If the shoulders are shirred then you could cover your shoulders for the ceremony and take them down again later. It is a bit casual and flimsy for my taste but for someone up to mid 20s in age it would be OK for an informal wedding

WheekestLink · 26/04/2022 15:51

It looks more like a cover up for the beach, are you sure this isn't swimwear related?

22Giraffes · 26/04/2022 15:59

It's lovely op. All I wanted at my wedding was for people to be comfortable, why on earth would I expect them to dress a certain way? There is nothing disrespectful about it!

MigsandTiggs · 26/04/2022 16:02

@londonmummy1966

www.frenchconnection.com/products/arta-lace-ruffle-dress-pink-opal?gclid=CjwKCAjwsJ6TBhAIEiwAfl4TWGtd5zp_QD4f5XPeTqQF48Shc-IEGRvuGnwFcLgm7RCSz14qNNhpvxoCNIwQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

This dress you recommended is both beautiful and elegant! not frumpy at all.

Krakenchorus · 26/04/2022 16:08

If you are 18 or over, that dress is not suitable for a wedding. It's 'you', just you at a bbq in a friend's garden, not you at a wedding. Avoid anything made of the same fabric as a t-shirt.

Hilites · 26/04/2022 16:09

I would wear it to a wedding 🤷🏻‍♀️ I bet we’re similar of age! Especially a summer wedding
but different people have different views

SpiderVersed · 26/04/2022 16:12

Suitable for a BBQ, not a wedding.

Jconnais1chansonquivavsenerver · 26/04/2022 16:17

confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:45

It's not a church wedding. I like that someone commented that I should wear something that's more "me" . If I bought something specifically like what I'm supposed to wear I wouldn't wear it again.

Surely you can find something that is both "you" and appropriate to the wedding you're going to? Unless, of course, the wedding is actually taking place on a beach, in which case, you'll be fine if the weather holds.

MigsandTiggs · 26/04/2022 16:25

*Kennykenkencat · 26/04/2022 02:44

If it was a beach wedding on a Caribbean Island then it is perfect.*
Sorry, but I've been to a couple of beach weddings in the Caribbean and that dress would only have been suitable if the wearer was under 10 yrs old!

maddiemookins16mum · 26/04/2022 16:29

I’ve turned into my (your 🤣) Mum and grimaced as soon as I opened it, it’s way too casual.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/04/2022 16:33

I’m sorry, @confusedmummy123 , but I agree with your mum - I think this dress is way too casual and beach-wear for a wedding, even one that isn’t in a church. I hear what you are saying about wanting something that is ‘you’, but I’m sure there are dresses out there that would be suitable for a wedding, and would still make you happy to wear them.

For me, your dress is too low cut, too short and too much arm showing - but I think you could get away with making some changes, and keeping some other aspects of the dress. For example, if you wanted a short dress, you could change the neckline and sleeves - I’ve done a quick search on Next, and found at least three dresses which are short but still suitable for a wedding, and hopefully might suit you and your tastes.

www.next.co.uk/g70304s1/m86049#m86049
www.next.co.uk/style/st759043/M65014#M65014
www.next.co.uk/g70241s1/t64131#t64131

SleepingStandingUp · 26/04/2022 16:34

LetHimHaveIt · 25/04/2022 22:45

A £16 Boohoo dress is not wedding attire, no.

Is it the Boohoo you object to or OP buying a dress she can afford rather than shoving a £100 Derrick on her credit card?

CounsellorTroi · 26/04/2022 16:48

Or this
lwww.joebrowns.co.uk/pretty-butterfly-tea-dress-we534#colour=709

Whatever00 · 26/04/2022 16:51

It's not formal enough for a wedding. If you want something short this would work.

www.johnlewis.com/french-connection-calandra-puff-sleeve-abstract-print-dress-blue/p5538603

Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding
meadowbleu · 26/04/2022 16:54

confusedmummy123 · 25/04/2022 22:45

It's not a church wedding. I like that someone commented that I should wear something that's more "me" . If I bought something specifically like what I'm supposed to wear I wouldn't wear it again.

Are you saying that you do know the type of thing to wear for a wedding? Or, that you’ve been a bride and a bridesmaid and still don’t know? I’m confused now too @confusedmummy123

What would you do if you always wore ripped jeans and a tartan lumberjack shirt?

We don’t know how your friends dress, or what kind of wedding it’s going to be, but I’m with your mum. It’s pretty, but not something I’d buy for a special event.

ExMachinaDeus · 26/04/2022 16:56

Beach dress & looks a bit cheap & tacky.

LetHimHaveIt · 26/04/2022 16:58

SleepingStandingUp · 26/04/2022 16:34

Is it the Boohoo you object to or OP buying a dress she can afford rather than shoving a £100 Derrick on her credit card?

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Thanks so much for asking. I'm assuming 'Derrick' is a particularly weird typo for 'dress', as I thought a derrick was a crane.

It's the Boohoo bit, yes. These fast fashion, 'destined for landfill' sites have a lot to answer for, and I think the dresses look fairly faithfully like that what they are - cheap. I see most posters are 'nice for the beach/BBQ' whereas I actually think it's neither suitable for a wedding nor very nice at any rate. I'm sure OP can find something much better.