Mum thinks this dress isn't right for wedding

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Going to a wedding in a couple weeks. Saw a gorgeous bardot dress, loved it, fiance loved it so ordered it and I love it in real life too. However I sent a pic to my mum who just texted back "I don't like it for a wedding" then didn't say why or anymore? Am I breaking some kind of etiquette? Clueless about these things. Most weddings I've been too I've been the bridesmaid or the bride and don't have a clue how guests dressed. I do remember a wedding a few years back where I wore a red polka dot dress. Don't know if that was breaking any etiquette rules. I do believe that mother likes that dress though! I will attach a pic of the dress!

I don't find it flattering on the model (shapeless, but colour is fine). I hope it looks great on you, OP, wherever you wear it.

I saw the photo and thought what a lovely dress for a summer wedding. Wedding wear attire - isn't that as outdated as actual weddings, it is 2022 after all.

And why people are asking how many times OP has been married - she's only asked for an opinion on a dress. I must say this site gets stranger and stranger, and I read a lot of stuff on here that I literally never hear anyone say in the real world.

Wear the dress OP, it's absolutely fine.

It is more casual but you could easily dress it up with heels, jewellery and maybe a blazer

It is more casual but you could easily dress it up with heels, jewellery and maybe a blazer

sorry about my repeat msgs (!!), I was getting heaps of 500 errors, couldn't load thread, should have checked more.

Too casual for weddings I have ever been to but I am mid fifties so may be out of touch. But might be ok if a friends wedding, not a church wedding and a more informal/casual affair maybe evening doo only or barn/marquee event if its not too short on you.

Too casual for weddings I have ever been to but I am mid fifties so may be out of touch. But might be ok if a friends wedding, not a church wedding and a more informal/casual affair maybe evening doo only or barn/marquee event if its not too short on you.

I'm amazed you even have to ask. You don't wear a beach dress to a wedding. I'm mid 30s, been to lots of weddings in the last ten years and have never seen anything near as informal as that. So no, it's not about MN supposedly skewing older.

If 92% of this thread think it's inappropriate, you can be sure the other guests will too (and probably the bride). It screams that you're looking for attention and it's quite disrespectful to the bride and groom.

I think it depends on how well you know the person and what sort of style the wedding is. You could definitely dress it up.

I think it depends on how well you know the person and what sort of style the wedding is. You could definitely dress it up.

It is a lovely dress but it is very beach holiday casual kind of a dress. I mean you can wear what you want obviously, that's just what I'd think if someone asked me "wear would you wear this dress?"

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I'm amazed you even have to ask. You don't wear a beach dress to a wedding. I'm mid 30s, been to lots of weddings in the last ten years and have never seen anything near as informal as that. So no, it's not about MN supposedly skewing older.

If 92% of this thread think it's inappropriate, you can be sure the other guests will too (and probably the bride). It screams that you're looking for attention and it's quite disrespectful to the bride and groom.

Okay for a beach wedding, but not a church one. It's a very pretty casual, summer dress.

That’s the whole point. It is in the description.
The wedding outfit is worn at weddings. It isn’t something that you wear normally to pop round Sainsburys in or to go down the beach in Ibiza. It is meant to be for those special occasions that call for you to be dressed up.
If it is an informal wedding then a Summer dress that is longer and has shoulder straps or covers your shoulders is perfectly acceptable.

I don’t understand why if you have been to weddings before even as a bridesmaid you don't have a clue how guests dressed*

Why not, didn’t you look at what people were wearing haven’t you got photos of the day that don’t just show you and the bridal party.
Maybe the red polka dot dress was more wedding attire in that it was longer and had something on the shoulders

if you Google Summer dresses and look at the ones coming up that have at least shoulder straps and a longer length, it doesn’t have to be below the knee but could be just above the knee if you have great legs. Just not showing inches and inches of leg above the knee.

If you scan through the pictures you can see loads of alternatives or just get the vibe of those that would be suitable and those that won’t.

That’s the whole point. It is in the description.
The wedding outfit is worn at weddings. It isn’t something that you wear normally to pop round Sainsburys in or to go down the beach in Ibiza. It is meant to be for those special occasions that call for you to be dressed up.
If it is an informal wedding then a Summer dress that is longer and has shoulder straps or covers your shoulders is perfectly acceptable.

I don’t understand why if you have been to weddings before even as a bridesmaid you don't have a clue how guests dressed*

Why not, didn’t you look at what people were wearing haven’t you got photos of the day that don’t just show you and the bridal party.
Maybe the red polka dot dress was more wedding attire in that it was longer and had something on the shoulders

if you Google Summer dresses and look at the ones coming up that have at least shoulder straps and a longer length, it doesn’t have to be below the knee but could be just above the knee if you have great legs. Just not showing inches and inches of leg above the knee.

If you scan through the pictures you can see loads of alternatives or just get the vibe of those that would be suitable and those that won’t.

That’s the whole point. It is in the description.
The wedding outfit is worn at weddings. It isn’t something that you wear normally to pop round Sainsburys in or to go down the beach in Ibiza. It is meant to be for those special occasions that call for you to be dressed up.
If it is an informal wedding then a Summer dress that is longer and has shoulder straps or covers your shoulders is perfectly acceptable.

I don’t understand why if you have been to weddings before even as a bridesmaid you don't have a clue how guests dressed*

Why not, didn’t you look at what people were wearing haven’t you got photos of the day that don’t just show you and the bridal party.
Maybe the red polka dot dress was more wedding attire in that it was longer and had something on the shoulders

if you Google Summer dresses and look at the ones coming up that have at least shoulder straps and a longer length, it doesn’t have to be below the knee but could be just above the knee if you have great legs. Just not showing inches and inches of leg above the knee.

If you scan through the pictures you can see loads of alternatives or just get the vibe of those that would be suitable and those that won’t.

Sorry about the double post, having issues with MN today.

It wouldn't bother me if you wore it to my wedding - and I'm probably older than many of the posters on this thread!

OK for a beach or a pub lunch where you want a lot of attention from men. Very short skirt for a wedding, and OTT with the bare shoulders as well.

OK for a beach or a pub lunch where you want a lot of attention from men. Very short skirt for a wedding, and OTT with the bare shoulders as well.

OK for a beach or a pub lunch where you want a lot of attention from men. Very short skirt for a wedding, and OTT with the bare shoulders as well.

Oh blimey, sorry for the repeat posts.

Depends on the wedding. If it is a top hat and tails do then not suitable. If it is a registry office do with a party on the beach afterwards then totally suitable. Hard to say off hand where the middleground is.

Also depends on your age, I'm nearly 70 so not for me but if you are 18 ideal. Again finding the cut off point is trickier.