To think this was rude?

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My friend is expecting her first baby. I spent weeks and weeks knitting baby clothes of every description. We met for a coffee in a very quiet cafe and I handed over the bulging bag excited to give them to her. She grabbed the bag, said thanks and without even looking inside put it on the floor. I was a bit taken aback after all my hard work that she had not even looked inside. I still didn't even when I left.

Appealing behaviour.

She sounds like the absolute dregs.

I most certainly would not be silent on the matter with mutual friends.

It took me a week to make a real mess of knitting a scarf....and yet I was rather proud of it.

The skill required to make those baby bits!

Awful behaviour.

She sold them?! Just wow....!

It looks like she never wanted your knitting for herself but to make some money out of it.

She is absolutely vile. No wonder she has ‘very few friends’.

Well I messaged her for pretend measurements and she said she can not find the items I made, she thinks they may have been stolen!! I asked how could they have been stolen and she said they had a break in a week ago.
Me "oh no did you call the police?"
Her "no there is no point nothing else was taken as they were disturbed"
With friends like this who needs enemies. I am gutted that she would do this to me and then lie about it.

Not rude in my opinion. You were in a cafe, gave her a bulging bag and wanted her to look through everything? I would have said thanks, I'll take a look at them later and put the bag down.

I never said I wanted her to look at everything and if you had read the post you would see that she sold everything I made so very bloody rude.

She was definitely being rude, I would of loved to have something like what you knitted as I could keep it forever afterwards, I've had people knit stuff for my upcoming baby and they are so lovely. I bet she asked you to knit stuff so she could sell it on eBay. How cheeky!!! All your hard work and money 😡

What????

Unbelievable.

I hope she is now an ex-friend.

I would call her out on it. What a horrible human.

Wow so she's a liar too. Imagine pretending you've been broken into and thinking all they took was some knitted baby things, even though at the time of said break in you hadn't realised they'd been taken.

I mean, it's not even a good lie.

The worst part is you sound like such a good friend that if she'd have said she was on the bones of her arse you'd have given her the money rather than wasting all your time and energy.

Yes I am sorry to say she is now an ex friend. Was she ever a friend in the first place to do this?

“Oh no ex-friend! Your house was burgled and the only thing that was stolen was baby knitwear? maybe you should check eBay, they might turn up on there…”

Maybe she was genuinely really desperate but I she's still managing to pay her phone or WiFi bill so she's probably just a user. I don't know that she ever was a friend.

Yes she is skint but I have given her money in the past and she has bought silly things before buying food or putting it towards a bill. That's why when she asked me to knit for her I thought well at least they will be useful for the baby.

How disappointing this must be for you.

She definitely deserves to be an EX friend.

I would not let this go. I'd message her.

"We both know you are lying about the break-in. You asked me to knit you items and didn't even have the good grace feign interest or gratitude. It was very time consuming and I felt used and taken advantage of. You are selling my items which you tricked me into making. I am disgusted."

I am not good at confrontation. I will just put it down to experience. She knows that I know and she also knows that her other (now only) friend knows. Her other friend was at her house when someone came to collect some of the items she had sold on ebay so that is how she knew she had sold them.

That's fair enough OP. She didn't deserve your friendship but at least you know you did nothing wrong here. What a horrible woman.

Very rude and very hurtful. If this happened to me, I'd tell her what I thought of her and never speak to her again. I enjoy a good confrontation though (I know you don't) You did a very nice thing for her, and she's a poor excuse for a friend 😡

WTAF! So she basically duped you into manufacturing goods for her to sell on eBay at 100% profit for her!!! I’m speechless! I would absolutely call her out on her lies, end the ‘friendship’ then block her. There’s no coming back from that.

Sorry if I have missed this but how does she know that you know? And why hasn't she apologised after being called out?

This is appaling behaviour from your friend.

I'm not surprised she has very few friends then.
And, yes, she was rude to just dump the bag on the floor.

That is truly appalling.

If she was so hard up I would happily have given her wool & patterns to knit stuff herself to sell.

When I said she knows I know, its just a sense but you can tell when someone knows you are aware of something bad that they did even if you have not told them that you know. Its hard to put into words.