To think this was rude?

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My friend is expecting her first baby. I spent weeks and weeks knitting baby clothes of every description. We met for a coffee in a very quiet cafe and I handed over the bulging bag excited to give them to her. She grabbed the bag, said thanks and without even looking inside put it on the floor. I was a bit taken aback after all my hard work that she had not even looked inside. I still didn't even when I left.

Yes, definitely rude of her - unless some big emergency or disaster has arisen and been occupying her every minute.

Even if somebody gives you some cheap old tat (well-meaning - not PA), you still thank them before binning or charity-shopping it, let alone something that they asked for and must know has taken many hours of your time (as well as the cost of all the wool).

Some people just aren't grateful (or bother to show it), and you sometimes just have to learn who they really are and not to bother again in future - not saying to dump them as friends, but just don't put in any special effort that won't be appreciated.

Yes it absolutely was rude. Does your friend have form for being rude? If not, pregnancy is a difficult time and I was so anxious and overwhelmed that I found the constant flow of gifts really hard and struggled to be excited about them. I wanted to pick my own things when I was ready and instead I felt I was overwhelmed by other peoples choices being handed over to me all the time. It wasn't logical and I likely was rude at times, and for that I am sorry for. But my head was a mess and I couldn't think straight. Maybe your friend is experiencing something similar.

Rude not to respond after a month no matter what your gift is.

But to me, saying I would like some hand knitted stuff would be maybe a couple of cardigans and a hat. Not a bulging bag worth. Maybe she was overwhelmed by the amount? It means more if its a special item or two made with love from a friend or family member rather than "i have knitted you 3 months worth of clothes because you dont have much money so you're welcome" which is kind of how your post comes across
Has the baby been born? Are there any photos of the clothes on the baby? Maybe she will send you some pics of the baby wearing the stuff if you ask

She certainly does not have a constant flow of gifts as she has few friends and little family, that is why I knitted the clothes. She is on her uppers at the moment. I have been there!

Very rude and unappreciative.

She ASKED me to knit a lot of clothes as she had no money.

I do not think my post comes across as you have stated. She asked me to knit for her as she is skint at the moment. I have other things to do but did it because I was asked.

I would find this rude also.

What does she do for you, OP? Is this an unequal friendship?

She may contact you later to thank you and comment on them. Some people just don’t like to open presents in front of the giver and even less so in a public place.

I think it's ruder that she asked you to knit clothes for her with no intention of paying for them considering the expense

Well to the people who do not think it is rude. The next time you give a gift to someone and they put it on the floor without even looking at it, I hope you do not feel that it was rude!

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That was definitely thoughtless of her!
I bet she's no idea how much work went into them, does she knit herself?
I'm guessing she was just thoughtless & if she's not otherwise rude I'd let it go.
Maybe text & ask her did she like them & they took a lot of work, she'll realise then.
Some people are unintentionally selfcentred sometimes.
It was definitely rude though.
I bet the baby clothes are lovely, she's very lucky.

I can't think of a single reason why she would just say thanks and put them on the floor. I agree it was rude and thoughtless. You sound like a nice friend and you did not deserve that.

Yanbu. very rude.
i think knitted baby clothes are horrible but I would still be appreciative if someone had made some for me and in this case she asked which makes it even more weird.
bin her off.

An example

I once sewed a patchwork wuilt for someone who was expecting and skint. She chose the colours of the fabrics and okayed the motif. It took so many evenings to do that and bo thank you or

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Or a picture of it with tge child, nothing. I didn't even want to sew the damn thing in the first place because I hated her chosen colours. It was the last gift I ever gave her.

People just don't know hiw much effort it takes.

Urgh fat fingers. It was a quilt. Sorry for all the typo's.

It looks lovely OP

thank you. the baby is not hers as she is still pregnant.

Unbelievable rude.

What an incredible gift and what a huge amount of effort.

I can't believe you haven't said it to her.

Unbelievably rude.

No wonder she has so few people in her life.

I would be taking a step back OP.

I just adore hand knitted jackets on babies in pastel colour's, with matching hats.

So cute.

You were both generous and kind OP.

That example is gorgeous.

What a gift to receive.

It was rude but is she aware of the time and effort involved or did she think they were just clothes ( not hand knitted ones)
Not that this should sweep away her behavior, but maybe there was a lack of communication there or something? Did she think it was something else ?
People can be a bit dismissive sometimes when it comes to gifts I think, but I can see why your hurt and fed up :(