She probably abused her sister physically, there is a Video of her sisters friends asking her if her sister gave her bruises, whether she got the better of her again
Threatened to go NC with her parents if they spoke to him
She abused at least one ex partner (and was arrested for violence in one incident)
She abused her assistant.
She appropriated the role of victim to further her career, probably using another victims story as her own.
She also bruised Depp repeatedly through hitting him, threw bottles at him and severed the top of his finger doing so, and wouldn't let him walk away from an argument.
In my eyes it is indisputable to me whether she is an abuser or not.
I don't find him likeable, I question his integrity, he does seem to be acting a role and playing the lost puppy. But, I am less certain of his character. I feel like he is just a mess, tbh. If the roles were reversed it would be so easy to think that he was the victim if he was a woman, and in that case she would have been bear baiting him to the point that if he had reacted violently it would have been reactive/ self defence as you often see in abused women who flip after many years. But their sex does complicate things somewhat, and as a feminist this case just throws up so many questions for me. It has really made me deeply question my beliefs about domestic violence. I have seen a lot of clever men manipulate the court room that it is the ex who is crazy or abusive and actually they are the victim, but with amber heard it seems like she has a consistent pattern of abuse. That doesn't exonerate Depp but it does mean that if he is manipulating the public and court room maybe he is doing so out of a desperate desire to save his career and reputation and not as a means to punish heard. Of course there is money and public opinion at stake, it is a high stakes case in that sense but no kids (thank God!)
There are so many different ways you could interpret them and the case, but in my gut I feel like Depp is not the primary abuser. If you saw the message I sent about my abusive ex they weren't terribly nice either! I wouldn't want a courtroom reading out the colourful ways I had wanted him to die. But equally these messages are very nasty and misogynistic and unpleasant, so I don't think that makes them ok but also maybe understandably.
Idk I'm so conflicted about him. Defiantly no fan girl, I've always thought he was a bit odd tbh. But that doesn't mean he wasn't the victim of abuse does it? Nor does him being male. Male on female violence is more common, and systemic, but that doesn't mean that women especially narcissistic women in a position of great power and influence couldn't abuse a vulnerable man. Yes patriarchy gives men an advantage, as does physical strength. But psychologically Heard could have been far more dangerous than him and she also had the threat over him of destroying his career by appropriating the role of victim. Which sets female victims just back so, so far when she is being shown repeatedly to be a liar and an abuser. It feeds the misogynistic narrative and pisses me off.