To ask MIL not to bring alcohol to my house again?

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Regular poster, NC as this is potentially outing.

DH is an alcoholic, dry now and on the wagon for over 18 months, he's doing amazingly and I'm so proud of him. I have never been a drinker, only really enjoying the odd weak G&T, so was happy to get rid of all the alcohol in our house and stock up on non alcoholic stuff.

DH's sibling is also on the wagon now, much more recently, and also doing amazingly.

Both siblings are from a family that like a drink. I mean, like a drink a lot. As in 'gin o'clock' signs all over the kitchen and start drinking every day at 5pm until you pass out in bed. A very middle class functional alcoholic household, with Prosecco, gin and red wine consumed as opposed to cider and cheap vodka. In their home so I obviously say nothing, not my business.

We had a family party at our home recently and MIL bought a bottle of Prosecco for herself, knowing it would be a dry party and that DH and sibling are on wagon. Nobody said anything but DH did admit it made him feel a bit 'weird and uncomfortable' having alcohol in the house.

I wouldn't turn up at an alcoholic's house with a bottle of booze, even if it was just for me. IDK if I am BU though.

Would I BU to have a polite word and ask MIL not to bring booze round here again?

it’s your house but you should of said at the time and prior to the party if it was dry and absolutely no alcohol in the house . I think it’s pointless mentioning it now as it’s done .
Saying that your dh said he felt weird , does that mean he felt tempted? I think it proves how far he’s come that you had alcohol in the house but he didn’t touch it . There will be always temptation op it’s not as if you have it in the house in the fridge say tempting him it was brought in solely for her to drink . I think it’s up to the person who is recovering to decide not you .

Ofcourse yanbu! Who brings booze to an recovering alcoholics house??
To her own sons??
It’s also your party, your rules!
Yanbu,.
Best wishes for your husband.
If he falls, get back up again.

I told my mil I thought my dh was an alcoholic. She opened a bottle of red wine that same evening and poured him a glass. Insane.

Who are these people saying you cannot not have guests bringing alcohol into THEIR OWN HOME?? Absolutely mental.

OP, you are not wrong to firmly request (and enforce) this of your MIL. Your partner is in early recovery and if it helps him and he consents to it, then so you should.

@ithinkitsadhd

I told my mil I thought my dh was an alcoholic. She opened a bottle of red wine that same evening and poured him a glass. Insane.

My parents were like this when one of their friends said he was an alcoholic (having lost his job and his driving licence due to alcohol abuse)- they kept offering him drinks and giving him bottle openers and glasses as gifts. Absolutely mind-boggling. The extent of people’s cognitive dissonance around alcohol is remarkable.