To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

Yabvu.those two children are part of your family.the fact you bought only for your dc and not them says a lot about you.none of it nice

[quote CandyLeBonBon]@aSofaNearYou well if you genuinely think that, that's up to you. [/quote]
What, that generally parents decide how to raise their kids?

@aSofaNearYou no it’s a shitty point because it deliberately hurts his children rather than him. I don’t agree with most of your post, you are just making assumptions about their relationship like the rest of us are. If she wasn’t enjoying it she wouldn’t have spent literally all day posting on here making herself look worse.

@eggsbenedict82

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS. This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later. I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

This is awful. They are your children by marriage. You should have considered them as your own DC. The poor kids. DH and you should organise things for all the children collectively; shouldn’t be your responsibility alone for any of the children.

Why are people blaming OP? She didn't know til Wednesday, after she had had her shopping delivery, that the DSC were coming. How was it her responsibility to get eggs for his children? Why isn't it his job? Stop the misogyny.

@aSofaNearYou

*No she has three children - although from her actions she obviously sides with you.

If, God forbid, something happened to their mum she would share full parental responsibility for those children as delegated by her partner. Would she object to them living under her roof? Honestly, some people need to seriously check themselves before entering into any form of blended family if they can be so selfish and heartless towards children.*

No, she really, really does not. Unless she adopts them they are not her children.

Honestly, some people need to seriously check themselves before talking out of their arse about something they clearly do not understand.

Obtaining Parental Responsibility may be important if you have day-to-day care of your partner’s children, especially if your partner might not be around for periods of time and another person needs to be available to make important decisions. For example, in an emergency, consent may be required to give medical treatment to a child. In practice, most step-parents wouldn’t need to share Parental Responsibility as they act under that delegated by their partner, the parent of the child.

^^ taken from Step Parent Rights - Family Law.
I have no time to talk out of my arse thanks

I would have bought eggs - even off they weren't coming over. Do you normally do the shopping in your family? Do you normally buy/make cakes gif birthdays snd buy the cards? Then it is not unreasonable for your husband to have expected you to buy eggs for you child's half siblings. Or you could have said when told they were coming 'great but I haven't bought them eggs so you better do it'.
Our local Sainsburys Is open today and they had a few eggs.

The laughable thing is OP was the person that ended up doing an egg hunt for the SC. And people are STILL saying she's the one who clearly doesn't give a shit.

It's a strange thought to me not to buy an egg for all the children you care about, if you can afford to.

@funinthesun19

Well unless men can gestate babies, and bodily autonomy was not a thing, then yes, she chose to have a baby. Her body, her choice etc.

I know exactly what you’re insinuating here. Wow.

What am I insinuating? Op said she didn't choose to have a baby with her dh. But she did because she apparently made a conscious choice to continue with a planned pregnancy, wasn't coerced into it and wasn't the subject of pathogenesis. Not sure what you think I meant, but that's the nub of it. Nothing nefarious.

If their mum was to pass away, she would not automatically have parental responsibility of the children. Her position in their lives would be exactly the same as it is now. Even if they came to live there full time.
She would have to adopt them in order to become their parent.

If, God forbid, something happened to their mum she would share full parental responsibility for those children as delegated by her partner. that's not how it works

@Moochio

If, God forbid, something happened to their mum she would share full parental responsibility for those children as delegated by her partner. that's not how it works

Obtaining Parental Responsibility may be important if you have day-to-day care of your partner’s children, especially if your partner might not be around for periods of time and another person needs to be available to make important decisions. For example, in an emergency, consent may be required to give medical treatment to a child. In practice, most step-parents wouldn’t need to share Parental Responsibility as they act under that delegated by their partner, the parent of the child.

Taken from Step Parent Rights - Family Law

But she did because she apparently made a conscious choice to continue with a planned pregnancy, wasn't coerced into it and wasn't the subject of pathogenesis. why are we now discussing if the OP's child should exist?!! That's disgusting.

Op was being spiteful and she knew posting this thread she would have folks frothing at the mouth. There's nothing but glee in her posts especially when she mentions preparing for Easter and getting nieces and nephews gifts. She was vindictive.

I do wonder if - as each DSC has 2 eggs each that were originally DHs - if those eggs were in fact meant for her DGC rather than grown up DS.
I mean I can see OP not buying eggs for her DSC or even reminding her DH to do so but it seems unlikely that a DGM would buy chocolate eggs for grown ups but not for her DGC.

@nearly8 none of that says when mum dies OP becomes responsible for them.

@Moochio

But she did because she apparently made a conscious choice to continue with a planned pregnancy, wasn't coerced into it and wasn't the subject of pathogenesis. why are we now discussing if the OP's child should exist?!! That's disgusting.

No. We're not. Op made a point of questioning whether or not she had 'chosen' to be pregnant. It was discussed upthread.

@nearly8 and it also says shit all about Easter eggs

Do you even like the children @eggsbenedict82?

At the end of the day it looks like the dsc got some water eggs, ds got his Easter egg hunt and 'easy on the eye' dh is cooking a family roast. All in time for the close the thread!

Easter not water!

[quote Moochio]@nearly8 none of that says when mum dies OP becomes responsible for them.[/quote]
So if her partner was at work and she has the children at home and one of her SC hurts themselves, gets sick etc would she not be the one who decides on medical treatment ..... She does become responsible for them even if she is not the birth parent. Hence the reason I said people should be wary of entering into a blended family without being aware of the responsibilities you are gaining. Yes, for now, the children have both of their birth parents who have automatic parental responsibility but that can change in a heartbeat and it is not fair for the children to suffer because the OP wants to play silly games of my kids his kids

I havent rtft but i've read OPs posts to get the idea. What I don't understand is, whether or not you thought they were visiting on Easter Sunday or not, why didn't you have eggs in for them? Like at Christmas or a birthday when you may not see someone on that exact day but you still buy the gift for when you see them around that holiday/birthday?

Did neither of you account for buying them an egg at all?

My kids got Easter eggs from their gran and aunt as they visited yesterday which were put out this morning with our eggs for them. we gave our niece hers yesterday too as we won't see them today. This is what I can't get my head round, that neither of you thought of them at all and then it was a last minute thought? It's not like the shops haven't been filled with Easter eggs since January and between then and now, i've seen kids easter eggs for 75p/£1. Despite the cost of living crisis, you should have been prepared that at some point over Easter you would see them and then give them their eggs.

Surely you could have got eggs for them when you got some for your DS? I would have done that, whether they were coming for Easter or not. Why did getting Easter ready for your DS take so much time?