To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

And banging on about all this preparation yet you've been
sat on your arse on mumsnet. Get gone 😂

You really want to distance your husbands children from your family, referring to them as 'ex's dc'

Hopefully you and your husband will take some time to discuss if you can actually work as a family where everyone is treated with respect and you communicate with each other.

Your setup sounds horrendous for everyone right now.

Seriously - do yourself and everyone else involved a favour and just separate. It's clearly a miserable relationship and you're obviously unhappy.

None of that is your stepchildren's fault though.

Previous children FFS! What's wrong with you.

Nah…. I’m never going to win any awards for step mum of the year but at the very least, on the day dh told you his dc would be coming at Easter, it would have cost you precisely nothing to say you have finished getting stuff for Easter so he needs to make sure he picks up eggs for his dc.

OP - you are one of those posters who asks AIBU - and when you have lots of posters saying they think YABU - you just argue with them and tell them YANBU. I don’t get why you bothered to post if you need are just going to keep telling everyone you did the right thing!

Bollocks that it was incredibly short notice. I only got back from the US on Wednesday afternoon but managed to sort an egg hunt and Easter eggs and bunnies for my DC. My DH organised a full on Easter Sunday lunch and tried to buy more eggs for the kids - I had to rein him in! We bought gifts for each other plus I got chocolate bunnies for my oldest DS to take to his friend who he had a play date with. That was all in FOUR days whilst jet lagged. Above everything, no child would come to my house and be left out whether they are related to me or not

This this this. MIL is here she had a dark chocolate Lindt bunny and an egg this morning. Also anyone here at Christmas would get a gift. The lindt bunnies were 2 for £5 in Morrison's on Thursday, there were other eggs for £1. I think the financial argument is a red herring.

@DuckPuddledJemima

Do you actually know what a cost of living crisis is? Because that sentence along with a planned Easter egg hunt for a 3 year old who wouldn't know it was Easter without being told, implies you don't. And those kids you ignored out of spite are your DSs siblings. I hope you raise your precious angel to be kinder then you have been. It wouldn't of taken a few minutes to just make sure THE CHILDREN had something at a place which is THEIR home too.

Agree. Those children are part of the family not totally separate from op’s PFB.

I really hope this is a wind up because it would be awful for this type of person, who buys for everyone except DSC, to be real.

Apparently it's not a wind up!

@Anonymoussssss

And banging on about all this preparation yet you've been sat on your arse on mumsnet. Get gone 😂

DS is napping, DH's DCs are now quietly enjoying his easter eggs from MIL, now they have two each.

While you are right that it is ultimately their df's responsibility, I cannot imagine getting easter eggs for one dc out of a set of siblings - how unkind!

Give over - this is a reverse or a just plain hairy handed poster trying to hammer a point that makes stepmothers look evil.

Your MIL is overbearing? Gosh, you are surrounded by awful people, aren't you? Poor you.

It doesn’t take 2 parents to prepare the egg hunt and buy the eggs though, just takes one adult. You sound worse with every post, I feel bad for all the kids here. Also they arnt his previous kids, they are all his current kids.

Hang on, you mean he's still in a sulk? Unless this is very out of character for him (which it doesn't sound like it is, from your other posts) can I ask what redeeming qualities he has that you are staying with him for?

@Tillsforthrills

If I had DSC I’d absolutely buy them eggs regardless of whether DH had.

Feel so sorry for these children with their useless dads and SM’s making their point.

This ^^ and like so many others pointed out.

You knew he had children when you married him so you actually have 3 children whether you like it or not. All this 'his children not mine' talk is toxic and petty and damaging to the children involved.

If you wanted just your own children you should have married and co created with someone who didn't already have children.

You made it even worse by admitting you bought for your nieces too (who I'm assuming didn't even visit today) because your sister buys for your son - so say your sister doesn't get your son one next year - are you going to punish your nieces by not getting them any either.

I worry for your son and feel sorry for the step children who have three maybe even four parents who don't seem to give half a shit for them.

You're spiteful.

C'mon mumsnet!

3 .... 2.....1...

Gone!

Biggest wind up ever!

@ittakes2

OP - you are one of those posters who asks AIBU - and when you have lots of posters saying they think YABU - you just argue with them and tell them YANBU. I don’t get why you bothered to post if you need are just going to keep telling everyone you did the right thing!

Tbf plenty of people do not think OP is being unreasonable and think a lot of people on here are being laughably dramatic.

@WonderfulYou

I'm not going over it again but yes. Creepy. Intrusive. Butting her way into the 2nd family.

WTAF!!

Some people have serious issues if they think someone including their child’s siblings are creepy.

I do have serious issues with the ex wife yes

Your language towards these kids is an indication of how you view them - "current child and previous children". I think you really resent them being in your life and this isn't really about Easter eggs.

@Soringhaze

Give over - this is a reverse or a just plain hairy handed poster trying to hammer a point that makes stepmothers look evil.

Nail on head. This has been going for 6.5 hours now. And we’re supposed to believe a three year old is napping at nearly bed time and Mil bought her son four Easter eggs. Too much @eggsbenedict82.

Hi OP - honestly this is so sad. I get that your husband is a man child, your MIL enables him & you don’t like your husband’s ex - probably no one does. I agree this is ultimately your husband’s issue. BUT you did choose to marry a man child with two other children, so you have taken on responsibility for this situation. The short notice is a red herring, Wed-Sun is plenty of time to pick up two eggs, plus surely your household would be getting the SCs eggs whether not they were going to visit on Sun? The cost of living thing is a red herring too as you had enough cash to buy presents for your son & stuff for your nieces, both of which should be lower household priorities than eggs for the SCs. MIL & the ex have nothing to do with it. The truth is that you chose this particular moment to draw a red line with your husband even though the people that would be hurt are the SCs. I think you know really that was the wrong thing to do. My suggestion is that you either tell your husband to shape up or you will leave, or accept him as he is and deal with his shortcomings - but either way, while you are in this marriage you have some responsibility for the SC and you shouldn’t be unkind to them. Wishing you all the best

You knew he had children when you married him so you actually have 3 children whether you like it or not.

Eeerm no. There are 3 children in the family, OP has 1.