To not have bought eggs for DSCs?

[eggsbenedict82]

Long story short, DSD (10yo) and DSS (8yo) are being dropped off here later by DH's ex. The whole visit was arranged with short notice, and only briefly rushed past me, as DH knows I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.
This morning, after DS had opened his eggs, DH asked where the DSCs eggs are so they can be set up for later.
I told him I had not bought any, and when he got indignant I said it's as simple as they're not my DCs, they're his, it's not my fault he's waited until Easter day, when no shops are open. Not my responsibility, but as per usual, I've been cast as the wicked stepmother - happy Easter, hey? AIBU

@2pinkginsplease

Who normally buys their eggs?

Surely you could have picked up 2 extra eggs when you picked up your own child’s egg?

Or maybe you both should have discussed it before now.

He tried to insist that we should give some of DS' eggs to them later, I think he should give them some of the eggs MIL bought him. (Yes, he's 43 and MIL still buys him eggs. I know, right )

I think YABU sorry. Assuming you bought an egg for your child , why wouldn't you chuck a couple more in the trolley? Also how much 'preparation' does a 3 year old's Easter entail?

Yes he should either give them his eggs off MIL
Or send him to a garage to grab some for them. Not your problem

@FairyCakeWings

If he knew you had been doing things to get ready for Easter, I think it’s fair for him to assume that you would have got eggs for all the children in your nuclear family instead of just your own.

That said, he’s their parent so the ultimate responsibility is down to him.

Why would he assume that?

Why would OP buy Easter eggs for children who weren’t meant to be at her house on Easter?

I wouldn’t have bought Easter eggs for DSC in this scenario as I would expect they’d get plenty of chocolate at their mums, that their dad would buy for his DC or add it to the shopping list, that the parents of the children would not be happy with me adding to the mountain of sugar filled confectionary for their DC.

"Busy preparing Easter for our 3yo" suggests that you make quite a big deal out of it so yes of course you should've got eggs for your step dc, I can't fathom why you would exclude them actually? Even if you weren't originally meant to see them on Easter Sunday there should be eggs there for when they next visit, if Easter is something you celebrate.

For context - I'm a step mum, my step DC live abroad and they have eggs here that they will get given when they visit in two weeks time

Yabu

You're being petty. You are a family unit no? You've made a big deal about Easter prep for your own child, why would you not include his children in that? Is there some sort of drip feed coming?

I have been busy preparing Easter for our 3yo DS.

What preparation is needed for a 3 year old at Easter?!

They will surely have had their Easter eggs at home, organised by their Mother, so no need for you to have done anything.

Bad luck on being stuck with a useless twat of a husband though.

You both sound as bad as each other.

He tried to insist that we should give some of DS' eggs to them later,

I think it would be kind to suggest your three yr old shares one or two of his multiple eggs with his siblings, yes.

Alternatively, send him down to Spar or Coop or the petrol station!

@hangrylady

I think YABU sorry. Assuming you bought an egg for your child , why wouldn't you chuck a couple more in the trolley? Also how much 'preparation' does a 3 year old's Easter entail?

Well the preparation doesn't just include his eggs, I arranged an egg hunt for him, and he has some gifts too.

Yanbu

Poor kids.

These threads always sadden me - where children are the ones who are hurt because parents are busy scoring points.

I asked Dh to get an egg for our DS as he wanted a specific one from Tesco. DH came back with eggs for everyone including my son, Dh's DSS, it's surely as easy to get all kids eggs if you are getting one for your own child. That said it should have been discussed beforehand so all the kids are catered for.

Off he pops to the supermarket/local shop then!

Really not sure why “preparing Easter” for a 3 year old is a big deal taking up all your effort though!

Well the preparation doesn't just include his eggs, I arranged an egg hunt for him, and he has some gifts too.

But your step kids get nada. Got it

That should say adults who are scoring points. Yes - they have two parents but it all seems petty and unkind.

His children not yours, but I probably would have got them all eggs

Spar , coop , tesco express, sainsburys local etc will all be open

Well the preparation doesn't just include his eggs, I arranged an egg hunt for him, and he has some gifts too.

That sounds so stressful and time consuming 🙄
I couldn't not buy eggs for SC out of pure pettiness, the kids will suffer when they see daddy's new kid with a pile of chocolate affection and fuck all for them. Poor kids, you both sound pathetic.

Why would kids need Easter eggs from 2 sets of parents? It’s too much chocolate!

Assuming their mum got some, possibly grandparents too, that’s enough

I’d probably have bought all the eggs for all of the children at the same time just for ease, not divided them into your kids v ours. However, the fact that he automatically expected you to do this without any discussion so he didn’t have to and didn’t check to make sure his children did actually have an egg means that he’s the unreasonable one.

All those asking why she didn't just buy some eggs for dsc at the same time as ds - why aren't you asking why the father didn't buy any eggs got his children???

I think it's fair enough he give up his own eggs in this scenario not your ds eggs.