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Friend not giving me a lift ...

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crunchiebut · 17/04/2022 09:57

Last week it was my friends birthday and I organised a night away.
I paid for everything coach /hotel etc as it was her birthday.
The coach was a early 6 am coach.
I live 5 min (if that ) drive from coach station and a 15 min walk away.
I had to leave the house at 5.30 am to walk there and grab a coffee from greggs.
She got a lift from her husband.

That morning I woke up and it was chucking it down and cold.
I tried to get a taxi but no luck.
I text her saying the time I was leaving and that I couldn't get a taxi.
Her response
"Oh no your gonna get soaked,we are leaving soon,see you there"

Aibu to think she could of easily picked me up?
Literally 3-4 mins from town so would only have added less than 10 mins altogether.
I arrived soaked

OP posts:
Marynotsocontrary · 17/04/2022 12:04

Baffled by all the people who have an extra 8 or 9 minutes to spare at 5.30am, when making a coach at 6am Grin
I guess I'm more disorganised than most, but I could still be getting out of the shower at that time.

steff13 · 17/04/2022 12:05

Is your house on her way to the station?

MrsR87 · 17/04/2022 12:05

I get where you’re coming from but you don’t know the circumstances of why she didn’t offer. Perhaps she did ask her husband but he refused. Perhaps she was running a little over schedule and the four minute detour could have made you both potentially miss the bus.

Overthinking22 · 17/04/2022 12:06

Have you got form for not thinking ahead? If you had asked the night before she could have planned to get up 10mins earlier. If you had pre booked a taxi the night before you would be on time.

steff13 · 17/04/2022 12:06

@Marynotsocontrary

Baffled by all the people who have an extra 8 or 9 minutes to spare at 5.30am, when making a coach at 6am Grin I guess I'm more disorganised than most, but I could still be getting out of the shower at that time.
I certainly wouldn't. If I had to leave that early I'd have my trip planned to the last second. I'm not an early riser by nature, so I stay in bed as long as possible.
Marynotsocontrary · 17/04/2022 12:07

@steff13

Is your house on her way to the station?
OP says she's a 3 or 4 min drive from town so less than 10 min detour altogether.
Shinyandnew1 · 17/04/2022 12:08

@Overthinking22

Have you got form for not thinking ahead? If you had asked the night before she could have planned to get up 10mins earlier. If you had pre booked a taxi the night before you would be on time.
This.
Gonnagetgoing · 17/04/2022 12:09

Bit too last minute to ask for a lift to be honest.

But if she’s a good friend she could’ve factored in a last minute lift.

KarmaStar · 17/04/2022 12:10

Yanbu I would have automatically arranged to have picked you up beforehand.

Luredbyapomegranate · 17/04/2022 12:11

Sure but you should have just asked her.

You have to speak up for yourself.

BorderlineHappy · 17/04/2022 12:11

Ah i can see both sides.If you paid for everything i think she should have just offered you a lift.
But it should have been organised a few days in advance.

beachcitygirl · 17/04/2022 12:12

Honestly. The world is full of shitty people, your friend seems one of them.

CambsAlways · 17/04/2022 12:13

You paid for her coach hotel for her birthday and she didn’t offer you a lift ! A good friend there

HiJenny35 · 17/04/2022 12:14

Firstly she wasn't driving her husband was, he was already doing her a favour what makes you think he was willing to pick you up? Secondly you left it far to late, I'd be pissed as the friend that you'd left it till that close to the coach to sort out a lift, book a cab, organise how to get there and put extra stress on me to feel like I either had to worry that you'd be late, not arrive in time, ask my lift to do an additional favour and risk being late myself, take some self responsibility, this wasn't their problem to sort.

whynotwhatknot · 17/04/2022 12:15

Mybe her husband didnt want to do a detour who knows you didnt ask so.....

AllOfUsAreDead · 17/04/2022 12:16

@Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious

I think it's pretty shitty she didn't offer a lift tbh. I would offer my friends a lift especially in bad weather if I knew they were walking and couldn't get a taxi.
Agreed. A decent person would have offered to pick op up. An actually good friend would have offered to pick her up before today as well though.

Sounds like she is neither a good friend or a decent person op.

airrrrAIRRRRiELLLL · 17/04/2022 12:17

Can't believe so many posters saying that the husband was doing a favour already and shouldn't be asked! Dp would be the one to offer first likewise as would I if the situation was reversed.
If I was the op, I would have suggested being picked up when the arrangements were made. Seems daft if they only live 10 mins or so apart.

SarahBellam · 17/04/2022 12:19

“Here, Audrey, it’s pissing down and I can’t get a taxi. Any chance you could swing by on the way to the station and pick me up?”

Why is that so hard?

Mary46 · 17/04/2022 12:20

Its nice to offer was it much out of his way? But for a good friend you would collect her

WalkerWalking · 17/04/2022 12:20

You organised everything, including the 6am start. I'm guessing that your friend has been pissed off about that early start since the beginning.

Wife2b · 17/04/2022 12:21

It’s pretty shitty of her not to offer tbh.

user1471538283 · 17/04/2022 12:21

I would have offered you a lift and expect one from my friends. She sounds selfish.

steff13 · 17/04/2022 12:24

OP says she's a 3 or 4 min drive from town so less than 10 min detour altogether.

I would be unlikely to have an extra 10 minutes personally. But I probably would have asked before the day of if she wanted a ride. Y'all get weather reports there, right? So OP would have been likely to know it was going to be raining in the morning?

Marmite17 · 17/04/2022 12:25

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Blondeshavemorefun · 17/04/2022 12:25

Weird she didn’t offer. Weird you didn’t ask

Why a coach journey away

How far from you

As you drive, why didn’t you drive to venue and not have to leave at 6am

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