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AIBU?

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To not want to sit on mouldy garden furniture?

144 replies

hippohippohippo · 16/04/2022 21:45

Visit to the in laws, sat in the garden. I notice there are mould spots on the garden furniture cushions myself and DS are sat on and am a bit grossed out by this, so suggest MIL might want to clean this off, and i go change mine and DS's clothes. Cue MIL getting angry about my overreaction leading to DH suggesting we go home early - AIBU?

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Adeleskirts · 17/04/2022 09:23

Absolutely loving that you “suggested she might want to clean that off” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Who does that ?

Luredbyapomegranate · 17/04/2022 09:29

Yes it’s bonkers. 9 months old spend their time crawling around the floor and putting god knows what in their mouths. It’s good for their immune systems anyway.

Personally I would ring and apologise for a mad moment.

Xxxx123456 · 17/04/2022 09:30

I have OCD and I would have reacted the same if I was feeling particularly worried about my baby. I remember crying when I was pregnant because my dad gave me a biscuit which was only one day out of date 😂 everyone thought I was being ridiculous but I would have done the same as OP if the mould was particularly bad

CurlyhairedAssassin · 17/04/2022 09:31

No short term worries but DS is 9 months and spends most of his time eating my and his clothes

Presumably he’s not biting your arse constantly so I can’t see why you’d be bothered about what you’re sitting on. It’s not like your sitting in mud or on dog shit.

You’re going to get a lot of people’s backs up if you’re that fussy about a few tiny mould marks on garden cushions. Honestly. Not nice to put your DH in that position either. He probably thinks you’re way OTT and caused a scene for nothing, probably thinks his mum is right in this case, but has to be loyal to you. Not fair. I would apologise to both your MIL and your DH, and try and get your anxiety sorted out.

And give your child something to eat other than your clothes

CurlyhairedAssassin · 17/04/2022 09:32

Do you never sit on park benches?! Often there’s a bit of green on them. Sounds like you would look at a park bench distastefully.

OverByYer · 17/04/2022 09:32

Honestly get a grip

doggyweewee · 17/04/2022 09:34

Not sure it would have killed you! Next time grim and bear it for the sake of souring the relationship.

The DS excise it totally PFB, the crawl on the floor- not sure how many changes of clothes you will be needing then

Kitkat151 · 17/04/2022 09:38

You handled it very very badly....shame on you

MrsMangelsPortrait · 17/04/2022 09:40

Your poor MIL

nameisnotimportant · 17/04/2022 09:41

You changed your clothes 🤣 give it a few months and he will be licking the floor, lamp posts and lift buttons. Get ready op

Stravaig · 17/04/2022 10:18

Is it wicked or lovely of me that I now want to whisk our hapless hero bairn away for a muckily magical playdate?

I spent the first few years of my life toddling around barefoot and mostly naked, making mud pies, touching leaves so they'd curl up, eating handfuls of soil and bugs and worms and at least one butterfly. My friend Gecko lived in a crack on my bedroom wall.

OP? OP! Are you okay? Quick, the smelling salts!

Libertybear80 · 17/04/2022 11:10

Ha ha oh my gawd you would hate our garden furniture!

jytdtysrht · 17/04/2022 11:16

It's not PFB - I am 44 and don't want to sit on mouldy furniture myself. Neither do my teens. It's grim! They need to store garden cushions properly, like adults!

Brefugee · 17/04/2022 11:17

Blimey, though. This is my answer too:

If you were my DIL I'd suggest you go fuck yourself.
But thankfully my DIL doesn't think she's lady of the manor and if a bit of mould bothered her, she'd get up and clean it herself as she understands I'm not her servant.

And as PP said: why didn't you tell FIL to do it?

VyeBrator · 17/04/2022 13:10

That's a really good point a PP made about park benches.

Do you never sit on any public benches at all? Not even if you're out shopping and need a quick rest?

Cherrysherbet · 17/04/2022 13:10

Overreaction. Pfb by any chance?

LightDrizzle · 17/04/2022 13:12

You were very rude! Would you have done the same at a friend’s house?

CorsicaDreaming · 17/04/2022 17:12

OP you really have got OCD if that worries you so much.

For a bit of perspective (and foretaste of what's to come)...

My friend's toddler stuck his finger in some bird poo on the pavement and licked it. When she said,

"Ewww no, don't do that with your finger!"

He looked at her very thoughtfully then got down quickly on his knees and licked the pavement (and poo) before she could stop him.

Apparently he did this more than once!

He is now 8 years old and totally fine

HELLITHURT · 18/04/2022 06:32

@CorsicaDreaming