To not want to sit on mouldy garden furniture?

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Visit to the in laws, sat in the garden. I notice there are mould spots on the garden furniture cushions myself and DS are sat on and am a bit grossed out by this, so suggest MIL might want to clean this off, and i go change mine and DS's clothes. Cue MIL getting angry about my overreaction leading to DH suggesting we go home early - AIBU?

Just wondered why you had a set of spare clothes

You probably embarrassed your MIL. You would have been better off discretely cleaning it yourself. Changing clothes was OTT.

If someone came to my home and openly said it was so dirty they needed to change I don't think they'd be welcome again.

YABU.

In a few years time, you’ll be back on the ‘things i did with my PFB’ threads retelling this story in a slightly different light.

Call your MIL, apologise for your overreaction. Move on.

Dear lord, unchlench op !

I'm assuming first child and some anxiety issues.

Which means you are unreasonable but understandable.

How mouldy are we talking OP?

Can you find a pic on google that looks similar and post here?

If the seats were absolutely COVERED in mould then YANBU.

But, if it was just a few specks than YABU. Your MIL probably felt humiliated.

How rude. Your poor MIL.

Very pfb and....

embarrassed for you, i really am!

Oh dear!

You owe MIL an apology.

If you’re anxious about this sort of thing, best advice I have (that isn’t just don’t worry!) is to take a clean baby blanket or two with you and put it where DS is - even on your chair if need be, or sit on the grass with him.

YABVU

What do you think is going to happen to you by sitting on mould? Do you change your clothing after sitting on park benches too?

Your poor DH and MIL. I'm sure she was embarrassed as I don't know how you could mention it without coming across as rude and insulting.

What great risk did you think it was going to cause you both?

Unclench. Jeez!

I'd forgotten all about that bat.

@pizzaand and her bat is probably closer to having grandchildren (made me laugh, old timer)

The best thing for your baby's early years health to avoid asthma are the following three things
Pets
Siblings
Mud

That's from a proper respiratory scientist. Google it.
And I would add be kind to yourself and insist on short breaks from your child, confident that the alternative caregiver will step up so you can properly relax.

@PotteringAlong

Even if he ate the mould he would probably be fine! He’s 9 months old. It’s summer. He will be wolfing down soil by next week!

You have completely overreacted and owe your MiL an apology.

Ah yes. Happy days. Mum said I was very partial to soil. 😊

Oh my. You sound like you have huge anxiety issues. Yes you were unreasonable and you owe your MIL an apology. This was a overreaction of epic proportions.

You may need to get some help. This kind of thing isn’t normal.

What's a bit of mould. Honestly kids don't need to be spotless all the time.Poor MIL, bet she has a few strong opinions about you.

Yabu for not bringing a blanket to sit on.

I had major health anxiety about my dd when she was under a month old, because of her traumatic birth. But I made it my responsibility to keep her clean, not my mil's.

(And I wasn't that bad really, my best friend was way way worse with her baby - she made people change into clean trousers before sitting on her sofa, if they had been on public transport before visiting! Pfb anxiety is a spectrum!)

*that should say under a year old! I got over the anxiety by about her first birthday

Yabvu.

Ridiculous. I bet your 9 month old behaves in an more acceptable way. Grow up

This behaviour is not normal. Either you finished school way too soon, or you’re just unhinged.

I need to make it clear : babies exposed to pets, siblings and mud are less likely to develop asthma.

Take comfort from the science.