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To not want to sit on mouldy garden furniture?

144 replies

hippohippohippo · 16/04/2022 21:45

Visit to the in laws, sat in the garden. I notice there are mould spots on the garden furniture cushions myself and DS are sat on and am a bit grossed out by this, so suggest MIL might want to clean this off, and i go change mine and DS's clothes. Cue MIL getting angry about my overreaction leading to DH suggesting we go home early - AIBU?

OP posts:
jokalyn · 17/04/2022 04:40

I get that over reaction. My FIL smoked so I had to suck it up but second we left event item of clothes was in the wash, was polite to my family but second we left the smell was too much and everything was in the wash and kids straight in the bath . But didn't want to be rude so would Never be anything but polite and lovely to my mother in law. Even 10 years later we can have a laugh but will never be disrespectful to the parents in law because we have been brought up better

MalbecandToast · 17/04/2022 05:00

You were incredibly rude to your MIL, imagine if someone came to your home and criticised your cleaning and then CHANGED THEIR CLOTHES in the ultimate act of passive-aggressiveness. WOW! if I was your DH I would be so cross with you, he must have been mortified for his mum and your behaviour!!!

DockOTheBay · 17/04/2022 05:08

Why would your baby be "eating" the back of your trousers?

PinkSyCo · 17/04/2022 05:17

Fucking hell how rude are you?!!!

starrynight21 · 17/04/2022 05:20

Instead of making a big thing of changing your clothes, why not offer to clean the stuff off ?

SnappleInTime · 17/04/2022 05:35

but DS is 9 months and spends most of his time eating my and his clothes.

And??
Total overreaction.

SnappleInTime · 17/04/2022 05:35

I'm sure he's licked worse than that especially if he is allowed on the floor ever!

BlackberrySky · 17/04/2022 06:12

What a ridiculous, rude overreaction. And why did you have a change of clothes with you as an adult? That in itself is rather odd.

Arewethebadguys · 17/04/2022 06:30

Jesus Grin PFB by any chance?

Porcupineintherough · 17/04/2022 06:38

Just dont let your baby lick your backside, which is good advice on any occasion tbh.

Billybagpuss · 17/04/2022 06:41

@Porcupineintherough

Just dont let your baby lick your backside, which is good advice on any occasion tbh.
This made me laugh.

Sorry op you are being a bit crazy. Im thinking you may not be back though.

MintyMoocow · 17/04/2022 06:41

Was there actually mould there, or just staining from previous mould, maybe MIL had already washed them.

Seasidemumma77 · 17/04/2022 06:43

Your behaviour was appalling op, your poor mil. What I can not understand is why your dh did not intervene, why did he not point out to you that you are both OTT and rude?

Madre123 · 17/04/2022 06:49

RUDE

Hercisback · 17/04/2022 06:53

This is very PFB. I'd apologise to the inlaws and hope they put it down as a one off.

Beseen22 · 17/04/2022 06:54

I would not react well to someone suggesting I clean something if I've asked them round. If it bothers you that much go and get a cloth by the sink. Also my inlaws are ridiculously clean, borderline clinical and their garden cushions have small mould stains on them its a natural process when they are stored over the winter.

Tulipsandviolets · 17/04/2022 06:57

You sound a bit precious it's not the end of the world op

Cosmos123 · 17/04/2022 07:03

You are just plain rude and precious.
It is just a bit of mould.

The whole world it would appear evokes around you Madam.

Cosmos123 · 17/04/2022 07:03

*evolves

Cosmos123 · 17/04/2022 07:04

You should apologise for your spolit tantrum behavior too.

MintJulia · 17/04/2022 07:10

OP, children play on the floor, they eat dirt, they climb trees, they play with dirty pets, and invariably come into contact with all kinds of dirt, bacteria and fungal spores. That is how children build their immune systems. It's normal.

You over-reacted and you really need to apologise to your MIL. Do you have some kind of anxiety or phobia?

SpaceFarce · 17/04/2022 07:14

😂 I just woke up and this was the first thread I opened. Peak mumsnet! That’s enough internet for today… and it’s only 7am!

containsnuts · 17/04/2022 07:15

If the mouldy furniture was inside the house I would have been a bit grossed-out but in the garden surely you can expect a bit of mould and bird poop etc too. We sit on mould all the time - whether it's perched on mouldy walls or stree stumps, or eating at mouldy picnic tables! However, if we've been outdooresy, I do change clothes coming into the house and don't allow DC to sit on my bed etc with ourdoor clothes on.

Bigdreamer9 · 17/04/2022 07:31

Although you do sound batshit, as your original post says “in laws” why would you tell your mother in law it needs to be cleaned. Your father in law could have given it a clean.

Still incredible rude of you though.

AchillesPoirot · 17/04/2022 07:42

Yikes.