To not want to sit on mouldy garden furniture?

[hippohippohippo]

Visit to the in laws, sat in the garden. I notice there are mould spots on the garden furniture cushions myself and DS are sat on and am a bit grossed out by this, so suggest MIL might want to clean this off, and i go change mine and DS's clothes. Cue MIL getting angry about my overreaction leading to DH suggesting we go home early - AIBU?

I would have asked MIL for a cloth to wipe it off myself if I was worried it would transfer to my clothes (white jeans for example).
I’m not sure how changing your clothes helped (or where you got a full new outfit from!).

I think you should apologise to your MIL and hope to move past it.

Blame baby brain. I assume it’s your first baby and we’ve all been there, you can go a bit crazy. I know I was sometimes OTT when my first was little. I mellowed!!

All garden cushions can get those spots. They’re harmless. It’s fine. You will wake up to see another day tomorrow

Best they don't ever babysit then. There'll be other uncleanliness in the house you don't know about.

Yeah have to agree unless you have some kind of anxiety or germ phobia then you were massively rude. Imagine the situation reversed and someone coming to your home and being so critical over something so insignificant. It sounds like you are a bit precious about your baby and your self coming into contact with anything in the real world. Mould outside is completely natural and unless you plan on keeping your child in a bubble I think you are going to have to relax.

Goodness, what were you thinking bringing that up? A huge overreaction to something that didn't need a reaction full stop. You're going to be really embarrassed about this in the future. I hope you've already apologised but if you haven't, do it ASAP as you've been so rude.

You massively overreacted and should apologies. You will defiantly look back at this s a few years and feel ridiculous.

On another note, I always had a spare set of clothes for me when my dc were babies. They used to throw up a lot, after a feed, so I’d keep a spare set in case so I could change if I needed to.

The Princess and the Mould and her Precious Firstborn, a modern Mumsnet horrortale.

If the mould really bothers you, why not just ask for a towel to sit on?

Why do you have a change of clothes with you, for yourself?

If the mould is bad enough to constitute a health hazard, why aren't you rolling up your sleeves and helping your family to scrub it clean?

Honestly, OP.

Your baby eats clothes ? Wow
Yabvvvu

And not all moulds are a health hazard...

You owe her an apology

The anxiety about mould has been created by tv programmes filmed inside houses where entire walls are covered in mould and where residents’ health was affected. That situation is undoubtedly a health hazard. But a centimetre of mould on bath sealant or a few dots on garden cushions isn’t going to do anyone any harm. There was a thread here recently from a mum who’d discovered some mould in her washing machine drawer and was terrified her baby might have been harmed.
You overreacted OP.

Oh my heavens I am glad you don’t visit me!

You told your mother in law to clean her garden furniture 😂😂.

How rude and how sexist. Why could thou? Why could your husband? Was your father in law there?

Your poor mother in law. She has years of the batshit behaviour ahead of her.

To anyone surprised why OP has spare clothes with her. Has your child never been sick on you or spilled a drink?
I always have a spare set of clothes for me and kids in the car.

The mold is a complete overreaction though.

Is this a joke?

Tiny mold spots and you want to change clothes and your DH wants to leave early?

Hahaha!

Oh OP I’m cringing for you. Please call and apologise to your MIL.

You need to apologise straight away OP

I'm a germophobe drama queen and I think you overreacted 😔 sorry.

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Outside it is unlikely to be mould as the air circulation would prevent it. It is more likely to be algae.

I see OP has vanished...

YABVU. Christ. Your poor MIL, I'd be fuming too.
I assume you had spare pants because you shit yourself at the slightest thing?

@MyrtlethePurpleTurtle

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Oh bless you, OP. I’ve now looked at your other threads - ok, not the done thing to admit this - and I see you have severe anxiety about the health of your little one / health anxiety. And that your MIL may also take the brunt of this. I hope things get better for you and you learn to relax otherwise you will burn yourself into a frazzle / never leave the home

I think it would be more polite to say "have you got a cloth there is some mould" or just went and got baby changed if you had to (a wipe would have been fine for me).

I would never tell/suggest anyone should clean anything. I would expect most people would clean it themselves once you asked for cloth but really rude to direct them to.

Discreetly get a damp cloth, wipe off the bits that offend you, put child on blanket that you must surely have with you if you also have changes of clothes.

I used to have spare clothes for me as well, but that’s because visiting my mother involved a long car journey and vomiting children ( always just a mile away from her house after a 5 hour drive with breaks) ) and a change in my hand luggage because that involved a very long flight and ditto vomiting children.

(They are brilliant travellers now)

OMG a woman with a baby who actually visits her MIL as opposed to hiding at home bonding and refusing to see anyone else and breastfeeding it for 8 years - this has to be a new one on MN !