My mum is going to die

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Posting for traffic. Cannot believe I’m writing this but my mum is very probably going to die today. I’m on my way to the hospital now. I have no idea what to do. Please can anyone offer any words of comfort? She’s my best friend and I feel so alone.

Being there will bring you great comfort with time. You've a lot of people holding you up virtually. Sending love

I have no advice, but thinking of you and sending love and strength to you all x

I am so very very sorry. I lost my sibling young unexpectedly and he was on the other side of the world when he died alone in hospital. I wish I’d been able to tell him how amazing he was and how much I loved him. You don’t have to think of any special words, just the sentiment. I hope you’ve got people close to support you x

So sorry to hear this. I lost my dad when I was 21 and my mum when I was 38. It was especially hard with my mum as I have no siblings. I just sat with her, holding her hand, talking nonsense, read to her, stroked her hair. I tried to care for her like she did me for so many years.Said all the things I felt I needed to and, strange as it may sound, told her if she needed to go I would be ok. Sending you lots of love

My parents were killed unexpectedly in their 80s, relatively good death, rta. 5 yrs ago.
Take care of yourself, be prepared for shock, that tok me by surprise.
Do what you need to do

She will know you were with her at the end.

Just adding love and best wishes at this terribly sad time

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She sounds like a lovely mum.

I’m so sorry to hear this, sending thoughts and prayers to you ❤️

I’m ever so sorry for you and your family, such a tough time-be gentle on yourself and you’ll instinctively know what’s the best for you and your mum. Sending love and hugs.

I’ve put a quote below from physicist Aaron Freeman. I think it’s lovely and comforting. Our energy doesn’t die, it just moves on. We will always ‘be’ and I find that a great comfort.

You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed.
You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.
And at one point you’d hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you.
And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her eyes, that those photons created within her constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.
You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they’ll be comforted to know your energy’s still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you’re just less orderly.

You are so very much in my thoughts this evening.
💐

OP

My biggest fear is leaving my daughter. You sound like a wonderful daughter. Your mother’s love will always be with you. ❤️

Sending you all the love and prayers I can. Your mum sounds lovely. I lost my mum in 2011 when I was 33, and I think of her with a smile every single day without fail. I was blessed to be able to hold her hand with my dad, brother and closest auntie. Life robbed me of the most amazing human but granted me her in the first place.

I loved what Hugasaurus posted. I also advise that you cherish the moment, let the pain wash over you when it needs to. It never goes away completely but it does become manageable and it reminds us just how much we love and were loved. One day you’ll realize that a memory of her causes a smile and not a sob, and you’ll wonder when it happened.

My dad took a while to compose what he wanted her epithet to be. It is “Her light shines on in all that we are.” It sounds like you mum shines a wonderful light in you.

Thinking of you OP

I have been in your position, at your age. It is so, so tough. I am so sorry. But there will be light again one day.

I’m so sorry OP. I felt so sad when I read you are only in your twenties, so unfair. Sending you love.

Sending you love OP x

I was lucky enough to have my mum until she grew very old. Even so I miss her every day. The very last time we spoke I told her she would be with me forever in my heart.

There's a lovely song called "I'll See You Again" by Noel Coward that you might want to look up.

I'm so sorry OP I hope that when the time comes your Mum has a peaceful passing, that you can take comfort from knowing that and you have someone to comfort and console you. If you can,hold her hand and talk to her as hearing is the last sense to go and tell her anything you want to say. All you can do after that is remember her and talk about her often. 💐

Sending so much love your way xxx

Oh I’m so sorry OP

My Mum is 80 and I’m 62. I also class her as my best friend. We’ve had a whole lifetime together. I can’t begin to imagine losing my Mum at such a young age. I have have no words of comfort as I haven’t been through it and am dreading the day I do. I can only echo the words of others and hope they bring you comfort.

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Oh dear, I’m so sorry to read this. It’s awful. Just awful. I lost my dad last year very unexpectedly and being on a flight knowing he’s probably going to be dead when I arrived was I like anything I’ve ever experienced. It was surreal and I don’t think I cried for a few days out of the surrealness of it all. I still can’t think too deeply about that phone call letting me know and my mums cries and screams.

I have no words of comfort other than that you the pain gets a bit lesser. It doesn’t go away but it’s not so consuming anymore.

Here if you need to chat.

Thinking of you and your beloved mum tonight, OP

Hello OP. This is so sad. I have no words of support.
I’m sure she knows it, but tell your mum how much you love her.
Take care of yourself

Just keep holding her hand and talking to her, even after you think she is dead. She will have that comfort, as you will knowing you were there for her.

I feel so much for you. I was young and single when my parents died, and the sense of aloneness was overwhelming. I do hope you have loving friends, relatives, maybe a partner, who will hold your hand during the coming weeks.

Sending love and sympathy