I hate dummies !!!

[EsmeDavina]

I have a real hatred for toddlers with dummies! It actually irks me so much.

I totally get there is a time and place for dummies to soothe and settle babies.

My own son had a dummy as a newborn but I took it off him/he gave it up at around 6 months.

I could not bear for him to be one of these children you see with a dummy you cannot part them from.

My friends children his age still have dummies and every photograph you see of them they have this unsightly thing plugged in their mouths.

Even when we are out, they are given the dummy for no reason. Not upset, not settling to sleep just automatically put in the mouth.

I never used to have such a thing about dummies until I became a mum and I don't know why they annoy me so much 😂 !!

I know it's stupid because they aren't my children however does it bother anyone else as much ?

I particularly hate watching a newborn rooting for its mother’s breast and having a piece of plastic shoved in despite trying to push it out

Next time I'm at the checkout in Tesco and DD starts getting upset as she needs feeding il be sure to wap a boob out immediately and make everyone else wait

Should she have traded in her human being status when she became a parent because nothing else matters except being Super Mum 24/7?

Buying yourself five minutes peace does not make you a bad mum.

I'd rather sit with her than the judgemental mums.

Dummies don’t bother me. Judgemental mothers on the other hand do.

You sound like my mother and my MIL.
That is all.

Went to an upper class French holiday resort a few years ago and noticed all the posh French kids have them until at least age 5. Now I just feel super chic when I give one to my two year old.

@Confrontayshunme

I work with 5 and 6 year olds and I agree with you. I wish more people understood how much they harm speech and language development if they are used frequently in the toddler years.

Watching my NDNs toddler try to talk to her then she just shoves a dummy in his mouth is so sad to me. Plus, their tantrums are then worse because they can't communicate their wants and needs as effectively.

How does that translate into KS2?

@RegardingMary

My thoughts exactly. 🙏

@esmedavina i echo what other posters have said, i rarely get reiled up by a thread but your comment of "a time and a place" really irked me to be honest, my Autistic son uses a dummy and not always i imagine in your judgemental opnion the right time or place, but then being Autistic doesnt often slot into "a time and a place". Live and let live there are many atrocities in the world to judge, a child seeking comfort from a dummy.....come on. I shall resume by tea and biscuit now

Dummies don't bother me. Other mums and relatives who judged did bother me. I tried to lose the dummies early for ds1 because I felt everyone around me hated them, but it didn't work. He needed his dummy so we kept it at night til age 4 or 5 in the end. Life would've been a lot easier as a new mum without having to worry about the judgement of dummies (this seems to be the only country where dummies have such a bad wrap too! Especially as they can prevent cot death. Ds1 who loves his dummy has lovely teeth as a 10 yr old!! His younger brother who wasn't so fussed and dropped the dummy very young has terrible teeth now he's 8! So not sure the argument about damaging teeth holds!! However, the research into them preventing cot death is very compelling I think dummies are great!!

Just seen the comments about speech -

DS1 - dummy til 4/5. Spoke very early and been incredibly articulate (and a real chatter box) since, continuing to present! (Age 10)

DS2 - dropped dummy about age 1. Took a while to pronounce some words as a kid. Now speaks fine.

Nephew - no dummy ever. Was under SALT til age 4. Could not say one word til age 3 (but now age 7 is absolutely fine!)

Not sure I buy the 'damages speech' argument.

I love all the knowledge about other peoples children's needs as well.

You definitely KNOW who has them. Even though I didn't know when DD was that age. And it turns out her dummy use was part of a larger sensory issue.

Everyone is such an expert in everyone else's children needs.

@EsmeDavina

😂 aw I do love the keyboard warriors.

As opposed to the dummy warrior...

What a lovely thread! Mine didn’t have them because they didn’t want them. I don’t know which of their friends did as I don’t see them with them now they are teenagers so don’t think it was a long term problem. Anyhoo just thought I’d let you know I also don’t judge my mum for using her electronic fag as a dummy for all her waking hours (she hated babies with dummies)

@MrsTerryPratchett

I love all the knowledge about other peoples children's needs as well.

You definitely KNOW who has them. Even though I didn't know when DD was that age. And it turns out her dummy use was part of a larger sensory issue.

Everyone is such an expert in everyone else's children needs.

Because it's never about the children's needs. Or the other parents' needs. It's about OP's(and others like her) need to be validated ,acknowledged (hence the threads and comments) and "be" better than all those other parents.

Weirdly we have just gone cold turkey with our dummy this week! Thrown them all away but kept 1 for emergencies. My son is 2 so yes up until Monday you would have hated me too!

'I particularly hate watching a newborn rooting for its mother’s breast and having a piece of plastic shoved in despite trying to push it out'

I particularly like it when my baby cries at night looking comfort and I can pop in a handy bit of plastic instead of lifting her out of her cot and getting my boobs out for a comfort suck every hour and a half. I'm sure that makes you very sad but sleep makes me so very happy

I can't get wither up about it. Most young children have some sort of comforter whether it be a toy, blanket or dummy. DD1 didn't have one. DD2 LOVED hers. Managed to wean her off it aged 3.

@EsmeDavina

😂 aw I do love the keyboard warriors.

You are a keyboard warrior.

Life is too short, let go of this judgy behaviour it is ridiculous.

It used to but about the time ds turned 10 I couldn’t care less!! This goes for kids in strollers, kids in nappies, etc too. You never know someone’s story and even if there is no reason for it trust me wait a few years; you won’t care at all!

Mine's a thumb sucker.

A dummy would be far simpler.

@SmellyOldOwls

'I particularly hate watching a newborn rooting for its mother’s breast and having a piece of plastic shoved in despite trying to push it out'

I particularly like it when my baby cries at night looking comfort and I can pop in a handy bit of plastic instead of lifting her out of her cot and getting my boobs out for a comfort suck every hour and a half. I'm sure that makes you very sad but sleep makes me so very happy

Nah. You're supposed to sob as your poor nipples bleed even though the baby isn't actually hungry. All the while hating and judging yourself and other mothers.

And get no sleep. Because that will prove you aren't 'lazy'.

Nope! Whenever I see a toddler with a dummy I assume they're tired as that's when my son always asked for his once he got to 2 yrs. I weaned my youngest off his at 1yr and I wish I hadn't to be honest. He loved it and it was so soothing and now when he wakes I haven't got much to offer that settles him.

Also, a mum recently congratulated me in Sainsburys. Kids were crying and I was so stressed and she was so kind and said I was doing a good job.

It was so refreshing in a world where we are too keen to judge someone else.

I had more trouble stopping the boob than the dummy, bloody annoying!

Why do people care about this shite

I agree completely! Awful looking things.