What age did your looks start to fade?

[SalJ90]

Do we really become less desirable as we get older? Why is this?

I'd have to say... My birth.
I was gorgeous for a good ten to fifteen minutes and it was downhill from then.

I’m very happy with my nearly 59 year old face. It hasn’t faded, it’s changed.

Badtasteflump definitely hormones. My need to please and nurture other people has taken a long walk off a short pier since menopause.

43. I spent 41-43 dog tired with a non sleeping kid and so looked rough, but assumed when he started sleeping i would start to look better. Trouble was, the tiredness went the same time ageing really ramped up. No so much wrinkles but it’s like my face is droopy and sunken. To my surprise (I’ve never been that into my looks) I’m finding it harder to accept than I expected to. It feels as if men don’t have this experience.

I've never had looks to begin with. Can't say it's held me back. If i faked it with makeup, heels and false lashes i didn't like the attention. Happy to be invisible, it's very freeing.

I'm in my 50s and still look good. I have a great dh who's older so that helps I suppose if I was with someone younger I might get picky about my looks.
I didn't start using moisturiser until I was 50. I'd always been spot prone and thought moisturiser would make it worse. How wrong I was. I had a facial on a cruise and the beautician (a young male) educated me on skin care. I use it religiously now.
I've had plenty of bad times in my life and lost a lot of close family. I think if my genes for looks weren't so good I'd look worse. Health genes, which are the most important, aren't so great.

@MrsSkylerWhite

I’m very happy with my nearly 59 year old face. It hasn’t faded, it’s changed.

Totally agree with what @MrsSkylerWhite said.

I’m the opposite my face is still great at 60 - my body just isnt (3 stone overweight) —

Mid 40's

Good points:
Great skin - smooth, no breakouts
Size 10 - intermittent fasting helps
Toned legs
Trim stomach
White, straight teeth
People assume I am late 30's

Not so good points:
Under eye bags - MAC concealer works wonders
Feel more tired
Upper arms could should be more toned

@godmum56 That is my new favourite quote!!

I've never really thought of it in terms of "looks started to fade" as I just accept ageing for what it is - better than the alternative!

I really looked pretty and slim in the conventional way before I had children aged 29, since then I've been heavier and struggled a lot more to maintain a healthy weight.

In the last 15 or so years though I've become far more confident in who I am as a person and accept myself as fine, just as I am. I've really grown as a person in terms of wisdom and life experience and not just my waistline!

I have always looked young for my age. I recently renewed my passport and I cried when I looked at the old photo. No noticeable lines on my face and skin had a glow. That photo taken when I was 47. Now lines noticeable, glow gone and replaced with tired/ haggard/stressed look. I blame the menopause. I have not had any particularly stressful life events.

53 and looking good, still blooming .
Its all to do with attitude, l still get admiring looks and parped at as l' m walking out and about, l dont get highly offended like some, l smile and put my hand up as to high five them and carry on, at the end of the day our bodies are constantly changing , if you keep youself as fit and healthy as you can, (l can still outrun my two older teenage sons, and they work out everyday) its not a problem.
l work in a busy store and l see beautiful women of all ages coming in, some of them just have that glow, that effortless grace, no matter how old they are, they just shine, and that in itself is attractive.

[quote JenniferPlantain]@godmum56 That is my new favourite quote!! [/quote]
yup! I found it years ago wjhen I was a Red Hat Society member.

I don't think my looks have faded. I've changed as I've aged, of course, but am generally happy with the way I look for a woman my age (68) ... hair a nice grey (can't be bothered to colour it) and well cut into stylish short cut, size 10, very fit, good skin and often taken for much younger, dress younger than my age (I live in skinny jeans and nice tops, which suit my figure) ... so, to me, it's not about fading, its about adapting to where you are in life and getting the best out of what you have.

N idea and who cares, is it really important to who we are? Does looking pretty make us more worthy, kinder, morally upstanding, loyal, good to be around?

When are we going to move away from facial appearance being important?

About 4. All downhill from there 😆

Not yet, and I’m fast approaching 60! The secret to good looks are to look after your skin, and to be comfortable in it. People who feel comfortable with themselves are confident, I find…

2 years old?

I mean, who knows, looks in what way, how would I measure 'lose' ? I think I was cutest at about 6yo (most 6yr olds are very cute).

I can't remember ever wanting to be desirable. Given that's a state in someone else's mind, how would I know what's in their mind? I'm still being flirted with by 80+ yr olds, so maybe not lost it yet.

I noticed around 47/48 my skin started to wrinkle and become a bit saggy in places. Up until then I didn't think I looked my age.

Physically however I felt older at around 44/45.

Hard to define exactly when. I reckon it happened after I had kids. My body just never recovered and I was tired all the time. It’s didn’t really notice for ages until I emerged out of the ‘young kids’ phase. Now it’s far more about how healthy I feel rather than how I look. I’m trying to enjoy how I look now as I’m not going to start looking any younger!

Although my looks have become better, I notice a distinct knackeredness and stiffness in my body. I don't exercise and I need to. I took up jogging with couch to 5K which helped, but this is my main issue now. I notice the aging but I've just taken real care not to look old, and diet is the thing that makes all the difference - it's what our body is running off and it has the biggest impact.

I eat mainly raw fruits, vegetables, and get many fats in nuts and avocadoes.

I've not eaten meat in over 20 years and dairy in 6 years.

Probably mid 30s, I had my first child at 32 and my second very soon after, we had a 3rd last year. That was all in the space of 5 years, none of them slept (they still dont) and I've breastfed for over 4 years which I think takes it toll on your body. My husband has aged quite dramatically too (he's the same age) so I do blame having kids 😆. I am very comfortable in my own skin though, apart from the lines and bags I look and feel great.

50, I have very ordinary looks anyway but things unravelled at a fast rate when I hit 50. Pictures of me aged 49 are pretty good, still a slim size 10 and thick brown hair for example. By aged 53 I had 2 stone of weight on my bust and stomach and hair thinned by 75% and some white showing.

Working on losing the weight and then going to try for a shorter haircut when my face is less fat.

It doesn’t bother me too much, but as I say I was never a stunner and having worked in the fashion industry for years I am used to being plain.

I am 58. I looked at my best in my late 30s/early 40s. I was never beautiful, or even really pretty, so in my 20s many of the prettier girls outshone me by far. But I was lively, sexy, very good figure and fairly cute face so by my late 30s I was a contender (which was good as I got divorced at that time!). I had a baby at 45 and although I then got some wrinkles still looked pretty good for the next 6-7 years.

From about 53 things started to change. My skin is still fine (I do have undereye fillers once a year as I have terrible under eye circles which make people think I am exhausted when I am not, but that's a longstanding issue). But I just look more jowly, less cute, much fatter (thanks pandemic), and generally look like my grandmother. I don't mind that much, DH loves me as I am and I still look a bit younger than a lot of 58-year-old people, even celebrities. I do get a shock when I walk past a window and see my long-dead grandmother reflected back.