What age did your looks start to fade?

[SalJ90]

Do we really become less desirable as we get older? Why is this?

PS hair thinning after menopause did not help.

I had two distinct 'drops' in my looks. The first one I was in about 33 but it was mainly due to having my dd and a lack of sleep and time. Once she started sleeping through and I went back to work i then had the time, and money to spend on my appearance. I think my early 40s was a stage I looked 'good'. In my very late 40s I put on a bit of weight and started to really feel 'old'. Menopause hit, my joints started playing up, eyesight started to deteriorate and I lost myself in my style and looks. I'm hoping for another resurgence in my mid 50s like I did in my mid 40s

Blimey, its scary what sort of world are we living in that you have questions like this in your head!
What do you mean by "looks starting to fade"?! We evolve and change all the way through our lives, from birth to death. You obviously wont be looking like a 20yo at the age of 40, if thats what you are aiming at.

I find it sad and disturbing all this. Women are not here to please men.

Had my baby mid-forties. My body is a bit slack, now I’ve lost the baby weight. My bum’s dropped (it used to be a peach!). But my face is still good. And my hair (no grey). Need to work on my teeth. And use eye drops. I’m not as bright & shiny as I used to be (obviously), but haven’t gone to pot (yet). I don’t have any particular routine, but I eat less shite, walk loads & try to wear nice clothes (I was like a rag bag post-baby / while BF).

Oh I have no concern about pleasing men, DH claims I haven't changed (and when I point out I was thin and am now fat he just just squeezes my bum and says more to love...). But I had an image of myself and I don't look like that any longer, which I find rather disconcerting.

53ish possibly menopause although I look ok for my age.

It’s just my neck has gone a bit crepey at certain angles.

I miss my defined jawbone and my hair is thinner.

2dogsonmysofa I am hoping for the same and trying to make that happen!

My mother is 85 and she did have a resurgence (having been very tired in her 40s and early 50s) in her 60s and 70s she looked good and did a lot. She is still well able to walk and swims weekly. Use it or lose it as they say.

I'm 56 and my looks haven't 'faded' , but I've aged. I still look good and have adapted my make up and clothes to suit the changes. I've got wrinkles and age spots and crinkly hands, but I have a fab haircut, clothes that suit me and I stay fit, even if my boobs have sunk a bit .

Attractiveness is so much more than looks. It's personality, energy, attitude, a glint in the eye. If you've got that you'll never 'fade', just evolve into a fabulous middle aged /old lady.

The most fabulous elegant and beautiful woman I know is 100. She's awesome.

Over the last 2 years. Lost a parent to covid very early lockdown, 2 older teens both with huge MH issues and then more recently I have been really ill with covid. I look back at photos of 2 years ago and the difference is quite marked 😟

My face changed in my mid forties. I think a combination of 2 DDs in quick succession and the ensuing years of disrupted sleep. I just looked middle aged all of a sudden. I’m mid fifties now and I’m happy with the way I look. I haven’t had any fillers, Botox or procedures and would like to see how far I can go naturally. My Mama is about to turn 80 and she still looks amazing. I take a lot of care of my skin, regular facials, lots of moisturiser and eye cream. SPF make up every day - no smoking or alcohol. I also drink lots of water …

katepillar nothing to do with pleasing men here, never tried to do that! I have a DH who fell in love with me when I was 8 stone, I am now over 11 stone and look dumpy to be honest but he still treats me with great love and kindness and we make each other laugh.

I want to lose weight and smarten up for me and my self esteem, nothing to do with men.

I never had any looks to fade! Always been a plain Jane (at best). But I care less now about society's beauty standards, and it's never stopped me finding love.

katepilar misspelt your name, sorry.

I've always looked younger than my years but at 46 I can see the start of the jowls and under chin descent and it makes me weep.

Whenever you have kids. L

Looks change with time.

Some things are better.
My skin has become softer, and has lines.
My posture is better than in my 20s, partly because of daily yoga for decades, and partly because I have a greater sense of self.
My hair is glossier than it ever has been.
I will be 60 next week.

And I care a lt less how I look than when I was younger

I don't need validation from random people.

@theemmadilemma hello! Same-same. Sucks doesn't it. I think I'm making the first steps towards acceptance that my young face wasn't my forever face.

I’d say in my late 20s I still looked attractive but looked more tired. 30s skin got a bit dull. 40s put on weight and hair thinning.

I’m not the same as I was when eg a teenager but I still get male attention so can’t be that bad!

About 12 I would say, when my features started to become adult.

I'm 64 and look great. I'm wrinkled and weather beaten, my hair is white and grey, but I'm slim and fit and young at heart which helps. I don't wear any make up, but I do have a sense of style when I scrub up and aren't walking the dog.

In my 50s, I'd say. I've been blessed to come from a family where everyone looks much younger than they are, and have good, thick hair. However I developed hypothyroidism and that quickly thins your hair, makes your face puffy and generally wreaks havoc. However by that time I was in a long-term good relationship so it really doesn't matter to me that much now. I just accept that it's the ravages of health and time. Bizarrely my hair hasn't gone grey (I'm 66), even though I have about a third of its original thickness. I wonder if people think I dye it!

I had 3 funerals in less than 3 years for my daughters and son. I swear, I aged so much within those years.

40, such as they were

[quote Scianel]@theemmadilemma hello! Same-same. Sucks doesn't it. I think I'm making the first steps towards acceptance that my young face wasn't my forever face.[/quote]
@Scianel Do you do the two finger pull it tight... 'oh, there I am...'

I had to take a new passport pic last year and I have no idea who the wonky person was looking back at me.