To feel like fucking crying?

[WeirdlyKind]

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

For all of you being horrid to op, just be grateful that you’ve never had noro so bad that you’ve shit yourself.

I once vomited in the car, got upstairs into bed and shat myself. No warning, it just literally happened. All over the bed. Noro gives me a temperature and shakes and luckily I had a dh who didn’t find clearing up as he realised it was out of my control.

Op, I hope it settles and you manage to get things clean.

Sorry OP, sounds a truly shitty situation

That's not fucking normal. If you're that ill you're being caught short, you just don't leave the toilet area. I've bedded down on the bathroom floor before because it pointless moving far.

No normal adult choses to risk it by going up and downstairs shitting as they go.

It is obviously real, the OP has put photos up.

Sorry OP this sounds awful. As long as he is hugely apologetic and grateful for you cleaning it up I’d chalk it up as one of those things. If he’s not you’ve got bigger problems.

I can see it happening if you’ve unexpectedly woken up to explosive vomiting and diarrhoea. Clothes struggle to contain it when its liquid and coming out with force.

Insurance claim?

[quote TonyBlairsLover]@SheAndHerAreWomen no it’s real, if u scroll back I’ve posted the photos[/quote]
Wasn't doubting the reality - just questioning why on earth anyone would take such an interest in poo. It's vile even when it isn't spread all over the house!

@Rebecca1305

Nah fuck that I wouldn’t be cleaning it wait till he’s better and make him do it. I would get new carpets and mattress too if you can’t afford it do it on finance oh my god that’s horrific poor you.

It can't just be left until he's better!

@diamondpony80

This is NOT normal. I’ve had stomach bugs and the worst food poisoning (non stop both ends) and I NEVER had an accident. Yes I spent most of the night in the bathroom, but obviously as an adult you do what you have to. DH is the same. You really shouldn’t be cleaning up after him and definitely need to be having a word with him about basic hygiene. Sick or not, there is no excuse for this.

Been there with the food poisoning. Stayed in the bathroom all night. Yet somehow managed to clean up after myself when necessary.

Norovirus is the work of the devil. He’s got explosive diarrhoea and been trying to run from where he was to the toilet. You leave the bathroom thinking you’re ok and you’re done.
I don’t think he’s going to have the strength to clean it up at the minute it’s horrible yes but it’s not deliberate he’s been trying to get to the toilet.

[quote stuntbubbles]@Hugasauras He didn’t leave the clothes in the shower, he just left them. I think the OP would have preferred them in the shower.[/quote]
Oh yes I misread. That's even worse

Is it just me who finds this hard to believe? The amount of mess he has created and lets someone else clean it up ????

No Just no.

I've had it so severe I've had the odd accident, but its contained within my clothes, so myself and clothes go into the shower, then clothes in washing machine. After that I stay within close range of the loo. There is no way that poo should be everywhere.

Can people stop with the

You're making yourselves look like utter twats.

So sorry to hear this, OP. How bloody awful for you

This isn't normal. Most people have had noro or similar but don't crap all over the house.

He sounds like his problems are not related to a stomach bug, he has a revolting attitude.

I’d be taking the carpet up and just have floorboards for a while.

Bloody hell! Even when my dogs have had the shits, they’ve made less of a mess in the house.

Why on Earth isn’t he at least trying to help clean it up either?!

I'd give 111 a call that's way past normal.

Some of these comments are a bit nasty. I get that some weird people like to make troll posts but faecal incontinence can be a symptom of certain illnesses, if he has a fever or infection or he is dehydrated he could be delirious/confused too, hence struggling to get to the toilet on time.

I get that it must be disgusting and infuriating for you OP, I have a child with ASD who went through a phase of going to the toilet in random corners and whilst I know it isn't the same, consistently cleaning up someone else's bodily fluids when you aren't being paid to do it is absolutely no fun at all.

You have done the right thing making a doctors appointment as they can discuss his symptoms further and send him for tests etc if needed. For my daughter I use the puppy training pads from home bargains on her bed, it sounds so degrading but it may help with the management of it until he can get some treatment from the doctor.

I don't mean to be flippant, but is your partner a Jack Russell? That's the only scenario I can picture where this would be reasonable (albeit still VERY annoying and would feel like crying).

This is horrible for you OP.

While I don't doubt you at all, and I totally understand a person can lose control, I feel there may be an element of your partner thinking "there's nothing I can do" where other adults would somehow manage better.

In the same way children vomit everywhere. They just prioritise throwing up rather than making it to the bathroom or at least minimising the fall out.

I hope he is doing ok.

for you, you poor thing.

Good god! How old is your DH OP? Is he particularly elderly and infirm or have a disability affecting his mobility that you haven’t mentioned? That’s the only reason I could I imagine for someone shitting all over the house in these circs. Why on earth did he go upstairs if he was having severe shit explosions and the loo is downstairs?

At least he could have had an old towel to hand and to not even have made a half hearted attempt to clean up . Do you normally have to clean up after him day to day?

There’s no way I’d forget this and any sex life (and relationship) would be over after that! Any normal person wouldn’t want their partner to pick it up which you can hardly avoid now you’re scrubbing shit and dealing with shitty clothes. Absolutely disgusting!

@AuntieJoycesPurpleSlacks

I don't mean to be flippant, but is your partner a Jack Russell? That's the only scenario I can picture where this would be reasonable (albeit still VERY annoying and would feel like crying).

Do not shame The Jack Russell. It is a very fine dog. It's more of a great humping big dog that would shite everywhere. Something like a Great Dane I would say. They have no manners unlike The Jack which is polite and only has a small chute

I hope you're at least slipping a binbag between him and the sofa.

I would also be raging at my DH for that, ill or not. Why couldn't he have waddled to the bathroom clutching the already soiled duvet or bedding to his arse? ANYTHING rather than spraying it everywhere.

Unless there's going to be some massive revelation and he actually has cholera, I'm struggling to see excuses for shitting all over your house and then leaving it all for your wife to clear up.

Then you sit in the bath ?

You don't shit all over the house

It's literally liquid, it will go down the plug hole

I had this as a kid, mum left me in the empty bath with a hot water bottle