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AIBU?

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To feel like fucking crying?

419 replies

WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:15

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

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Crikeyalmighty · 06/04/2022 16:41

I’ve had this twice and it’s horrendous— first time I fainted and was trapped in bathroom — crapped all over floor as fell off loo when I fainted. He needs to stay close to bathroom OP and get him some adult pads and stay dressed!! Not lounge around in boxers etc. I totally feel for you both .

oakleaffy · 06/04/2022 16:45

@SpaghettiNotCourgetti

I hope you're at least slipping a binbag between him and the sofa.

I would also be raging at my DH for that, ill or not. Why couldn't he have waddled to the bathroom clutching the already soiled duvet or bedding to his arse? ANYTHING rather than spraying it everywhere.

Unless there's going to be some massive revelation and he actually has cholera, I'm struggling to see excuses for shitting all over your house and then leaving it all for your wife to clear up.

Cholera would be the only excuse in these circumstances. But it looks more like a case of “ Lazy ass” on the husband’s part

Making your wife clean up?
Shameful on his part and disgusting ditto.

OvOvO · 06/04/2022 16:46

Worse thread I've ever seen on here and am astonished that it's not yet been zapped - real or not - that photo is fucking gross Envy

20viona · 06/04/2022 16:48

Oh no that is just awful.

ClaudineClare · 06/04/2022 16:50

I am still suspicious. The poster who asked for a thumbs up photo which OP obliged them with has either namechanged today or joined MN today.

I would be very wary of sharing stories about experiences with diarrhoea...

chaosrabbitland · 06/04/2022 16:53

@ClaudineClare

I am still suspicious. The poster who asked for a thumbs up photo which OP obliged them with has either namechanged today or joined MN today.

I would be very wary of sharing stories about experiences with diarrhoea...

hmm to be fair to the op she only put the photo up because a few ppl were accusing her of being a troll though ,
BobHadBitchTits · 06/04/2022 16:54

I knew what the photo was of and yet I still clicked it...

ThisisMax · 06/04/2022 16:56

@AuntieJoycesPurpleSlacks

I don't mean to be flippant, but is your partner a Jack Russell? That's the only scenario I can picture where this would be reasonable (albeit still VERY annoying and would feel like crying).
I love this thread and I love this comment the best. Grin Sorry OP. It sounds mental and I can never unsee the pictures.
angieloumc · 06/04/2022 16:57

That's absolutely vile OP. Once I could understand if he didn't get up from bed quickly enough but on the floor right up the under bed storage 😳I just don't understand how a grown adult can't clean their mess up even if they're ill. I expect many of us have had norovirus at one time or another and have managed to clean up. As for leaving his soiled clothes, that's another level of disgusting. I really feel for you.

nonsensicalmess · 06/04/2022 16:59

Lol at those who don’t believe it’s “normal” to poo this much - aren’t you the lucky ones to never have experienced this. The one time I have I genuinely thought I was dying, it didn’t let up from either end for 48 hours despite consuming nothing but water.

What I didn’t do however was move from the bathroom - I didn’t dare! In between “episodes” I just cleaned and bleached the best I could.

Whattodoniw · 06/04/2022 16:59

As an emetephobe, this is my worst fucking nightmare.

Fuck posting on mumnset about it with subsequent pictures of bodily fluids to back it up ( no pun intended ) .... I'd be ofsky, packing an overnight night bag and legging it off to stay for a few days elsewhere.

No joke.

Thank fuck I can't access any pictures.

This sounds ( if real) fucking horrendous.

Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 17:00

@ClaudineClare

I am still suspicious. The poster who asked for a thumbs up photo which OP obliged them with has either namechanged today or joined MN today.

I would be very wary of sharing stories about experiences with diarrhoea...

No, that was me and I’ve been here for ages, you can AS me to check.

I still think this thread is bollocks though, and I’d agree people should be wary of sharing stories.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 06/04/2022 17:03

@ClaudineClare

I am still suspicious. The poster who asked for a thumbs up photo which OP obliged them with has either namechanged today or joined MN today.

I would be very wary of sharing stories about experiences with diarrhoea...

Exactly.

I'm always surprised how much people are willing to share on these threads.

BashfulClam · 06/04/2022 17:03

I had this on Friday and my loo is also downstairs. I lay in the hall between vomiting and shitting just I got it nowhere except for the loo. At one point it was flying from both ends and I sat on the loo with a bucket. I had the runs from Friday until Sunday night and at no point did I shit anywhere apart from the loo. Then DH had it with the same behaviour as me, a friend man can surely ensure he’s not shutting the bed!

AnxiousHeffalump · 06/04/2022 17:06

The OP hasn’t been back for a while. Maybe she’s scrubbing a grown man’s shit, or maybe she’s slipped on it…

monicagellerbing · 06/04/2022 17:06

What the fuck. How has he managed to shit all over the house that's ridiculous I'm raging on your behalf op. I'd have taken the kids and left him to clean it himself why the fuck should you clean his shit off the carpet! Can he not run to the toilet has he literally just shit where he stood? Ltb hes fucking disgusting

biscuitbreak · 06/04/2022 17:06

So sorry you're having to deal with this OP. I don't doubt you either, people on MN are weirdly suspicious and childish about anything relating to poo.

I think the worst thing here is that he's expecting you to deal with it which isn't just disgusting but also puts you at incredibly high risk of being the next one to be struck down with it. But if he's too ill to function he's not going to be able to manage to clean up himself is he? Sounds like a truly horrendous situation.

ClaudineClare · 06/04/2022 17:10

Pumperthepumper I am so sorry I fucked up when I searched.Blush

Perhaps OP is genuine then, as would be hard to fake a photo like that!

ClaudineClare · 06/04/2022 17:12

biscuitbreak it is because of the poo troll(s) that frequent these boards, rather than being childish!

Newyearnewme2022 · 06/04/2022 17:12

Bloody hell op, I feel very sorry for you, sincerely hope you don’t catch it.
Bleach everything, not much else kills Noro, Dettol is useless at breaking the virus particles down.
Some weird replies on here. There’s a world of difference between a tummy bug and Noro, I had Noro abroad, literally one minute I was fine and the next I was not. Really nasty virus.

Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 17:16

The link still isn’t working for me.

beautifullymad · 06/04/2022 17:18

Get to Tesco and hire the rug doctor.
Buy nappies whist you are there and cut the flaps and the elastic bit off.

These then go inside his underpants.

Cheaper than adult nappies and will protect from the leaking.

Dioralite for your husband the rehydrate him. No solid food at all but lots of small drinks of water.

If you can get a waterproof sheet for the bed. Although it sounds ruined already.

I'd put a waterproof sheet on the sofa along with towels to protect it.

🤢 yuck. You poor thing. I hope you don't get this.

ItsJustASimpleLine · 06/04/2022 17:19

I dont understand.you saying the toilet is too small surely he can sit on the toilet? In which case he stays there.

biscuitbreak · 06/04/2022 17:20

@ClaudineClare what even is a poo troll? Someone who gets off on stories about shit? I remember once posting about my IBS issues and being accused of being a poo troll. I would think there are more cases of people having genuine issues with this very normal bodily function than there are weirdos who get perverse pleasure from it Hmm

WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 17:24

@AnxiousHeffalump

The OP hasn’t been back for a while. Maybe she’s scrubbing a grown man’s shit, or maybe she’s slipped on it…
Or maybe I was putting the shopping away and walking the dog...
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