To feel like fucking crying?

[WeirdlyKind]

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

Buy a load of puppy training mats and put them on the carpets, underneath him etc. Get a decent mattress protector for the new mattress too.

That's a single bed in that photo - your dh sleeps in a single bed?

@TonyBlairsLover

Throw the whole house away at this point

😂😂😂 That's what I'd do!

Its awful and I can see why you are upset but its projectile with noro and yes, (personal experience) it can be completely uncontrollable and the person can be so wiped out that they can't clean up. but.....how is he behaving? Is he sorry? embarassed? I can even get that if he has never experienced it before the reaction might have been OMG got to get to the bathroom hence the trail through the house. has he been like this before about expecting you to clean up after him?

@redbigbananafeet

Why is your loo being tiny 'part of the problem' toilet bowls are the same regardless of the size of the room. Stop feeding him. He must be eating a lot to ruin bedding, a mattress and 2 carpets. Pop troll

dearie me , plainly you have never had norovirus have you ? its liquid diarrhea , you dont have to have eaten a ten course banquet beforehand to produce a lot of it , its the bodys way along with being sick of getting rid of the virus , hope you are a bit clearer on it now

@oakleaffy the pictures are clearly real

@oakleaffy

This sounds very hard to believe.

Sorry, but just not wearing it.
A small amount of mess, yes, but not how it’s described here.

Begging for funds??
Im cynical because as others have said, even people with serious illnesses don’t shit everywhere.

as others have said...noro can be awful

Even as an incontinent person, he wouldn't be shitting everywhere unless he has no bottoms on.
No way its accidental more than once or twice... get him to pay for professional cleaning of the mattress and carpet.

having an accident can be a stroke symptom

@Maireas not just throw it away, burn it

@Lilifer

That's a single bed in that photo - your dh sleeps in a single bed?

No, it isn’t – why is everyone being so weird?

I dont get it. When I have this I have two buckets ready at all times to avoid accidents or wear sturdy trousers or two pairs of pants or live in the bathroom. I dont get how an adult has made this mess unless they are 98.
WTF the things I've seen on mumsnet will stay for me forever.

@Mouldyfeet

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There's pictures with op doing a thumbs up, can you not see them ?

@stuntbubbles

OP, I’d move him off the sofa now and insist he camps out in the bathroom. The last thing you need is a sofa accident or for the sitting room carpet to get splattered too. From now until his bowels solidify, he lives in the bathroom with a duvet on top (a duvet you’re willing to burn later).

Kids can skip bath/brush their teeth in the kitchen. You can have a kitchen pit wash. DH budges into the kitchen or anywhere with a moppable floor for you and kids to use the loo, then he goes back into the bathroom. No more soft furnishings for him.

There's honestly no space in the bathroom. It's tiny. The couch is leather and we have hard flooring in the living room so I'd rather he stays there than upstairs.

I would say his behaviour is not normal. He stays in the bathroom/near the bathroom in a dressingown- buying incontinence pads is just ridiculous unless he has a disability.

@TonyBlairsLover

I’m not sure I’d clean up Tony’s shit off the carpet aha. I commend your bravery op bows

Tony who?

@Femalewoman

Surely the 'shit' is contained within his pants? They can be taken off and thrown away. Is he a cat or dog and merely walking around shitting. Use the toilet, sit on it for an hour if necessary. Wear pants to catch and jogging bottoms.

How odd for a grown man to do this. Walking around with a trail of shit behind him. Tell him to sit down and sit still. Clean up his own mess.

Presumably he was in bed feeling unwell, and not wearing pyjamas. Had the accident, dashed to the loo, which OP has already said is downstairs, and didn't make it.

I don't know why people find this scenario so unbelievable. I don't wear anything in bed either. So this is exactly how it happened to me.

Sorry OP, I do feel really sorry for you dealing with this. But I also empathise with your dh, and people are being really spiteful and seem to be claiming he did it on purpose. Which is a bit mad in my opinion.

I've had noro, I didn't fill everywhere except the toilet bowl with shite

This is just ridiculous. I had salmonella in my 30s and managed to make it to the loo each and every time before I was hospitalised.

If the loo isn't close by then he needs to just set up camp in the loo. I can remember ds sitting on the loo for hours overnight once when he was little, and me sitting on a chair next to him so he could lean on me and sleep.

Can't believe a grown man would do this.

@Name99 big ear-ed one

@Lilifer

That's a single bed in that photo - your dh sleeps in a single bed?

It's a double bed.

Tony who?

Blair obviously.