To feel like fucking crying?

[WeirdlyKind]

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

Ffs why are you giving this lass a hard time?!? Don't you think she's got enough on today, without dealing with the Mumsnet twat brigade.
It's pretty clear what he's done OP. He's had an accident in bed, he's then stood up and took his pants off at the side of the bed and the contents have soaked through the carpet (hence the big circular mark where they've landed), he's then tried to make it downstairs with no pants on while continuing to have accidents En route.
It's absolutely normal to have explosive shits to that extent with noro, but unfortunately your H hasn't thought through his actions at the time. I feel sorry for you, and he would be in the serious doghouse if it was my DP, ill or not.

Do you have home contents insurance? You can claim for the mattress on that.

Who on earth faced with crap all over their house would stop cleaning in order to post a thread on Mumsnet? And then post pictures of a shit encrusted carpets with a thumbs up sign.
This is disgusting - OP is as weird as her DH.

This is disgusting - OP is as weird as her DH.

I think the people clicking on links to view these pictures are pretty weird too! I mean seriously, just why

That's awful. Thankfully I managed to coordinate the toilet and a bucket with noro 🤢 But I always figured if I was caught in a bind and it was one or the other, I'd rather clean up sick than poo!
If I genuinely couldn't control my bowels, I'd stay either in or very close to the shower. Vile, but if it's that bad I'd rather clean and sterilise that than carpets, bed, rugs and so on...
I would struggle to look at my partner in the same way if he did this, I don't think I could be sympathetic through the blind rage!

@Pumperthepumper

It's not working for me - did you click on it?

Worked fine for me sorry you're dealing with this op it does seem anormal I think he needs to stay downstairs near bathroom even if he would rather go to bed

Is he potty trained? X

This is awful. OP your husband is a grown man, of I was shorting like this I wouldn’t leave the toilet: he’s absolutely foul and there’s no excuse I don’t care how sick he claims to be, did your kids make this much mess?! I’m move in with my parents and leave him to sort his own shit out (literally!!) and not coke back u til he’s done it.

@mamamia1234

Is he potty trained? X

that was really rude, this woman is clearly struggling !

I can't quite believe that I a) am reading this thread, all posts b) am replying c) viewed those photos.

I can absolutely imagine a stomach bug so severe that one would be caught unawares and have an accident. One single one.

Thereafter you come up with some - any - plan. It might be undignified, uncomfortable and impractical but normal human instinct is not to continue merrily defecating everywhere.

Also, unless he's dead or unconscious, I would be discussing it with him and I would be out of that house, even if I had to stay in a hotel.

You have to address this with him.

I've had a couple of horrendous bouts of Norovirus in the past, each time I couldn't eat anything at all for at least 4 days, even just sipping a teaspoon of water would result in about half a pint immediately coming out the other end, God knows where it was all coming from!

I ruined a few pj bottoms but still managed to avoid making that much mess.

What the actual. That seriously doesn’t look like an accident. It would be caught in the trousers/pjs and run down the leg, it genuinely looks like he has actively done a dump on the floor.
There is no way in hell I’d clean up my DHs shit like this, you are either a saint or a push over.

Are you absolutely certain he hasn’t done this in a weird way some grown adults don’t flush the loo on purpose. Is there a possibility he is getting a kick out of knowing you have to clean his crap?

It’s just so much. My DH would be mortified.

Ltb

@Whiskersonkittens21

Either this isn't real or he is deliberately shitting around the house.

Omg I may have just shit myself laughing at this

I don't care how ill he is, he should be cleaning up after himself.
He should definitely not be incapable of getting to the bathroom multiple times. Does he expect to have a sex life with him after this?

Some viral infections are horrific. I've worked in health for decades. If you have one of the more explosive types there is next to no warning, shit just explodes everywhere.

C-Diff is ghastly. I've seen people spray their bed, the walls, the floors and everywhere else you can imagine when they have it. If its something similar, simply having clothes on doesn't help because it leaks everywhere - like running water.

Ideally he needs to stay in the bathroom! Hell, give him a blanket and let him camp out in the shower/bath for a few days! If he isn't feeling it coming its horrendous and I'd feel terrible for him.

Is he feeling it coming? Is he in pain or just it just happen? He should really get looked at, this isn't normal and most adults would be mortified and humiliated enough not to do that intentionally. It could potentially more sinister so he needs to get looked at. Either way its not normal to have THAT much shit coming out of you unless something is seriously wrong!

I feel for him. I find it concerning how so many people lack compassion and concern here. Men aren't inherently unpleasant and to jump to the conclusion he is doing it willingly is rather nasty.

@jk987

Its not all about sex.

also if he is ill make sure he is hydrated. This can screw you over seriously if you aren't getting hydration in.

@chocolateorangeinhaler

Put an adult pad on him.

Hire a carpet cleaner

Buy a new mattress

It's life. I once cried when the dog tipped over a bowl of water in the kitchen after I had washed the floor. It dried, it wasn't the end of the world. Your house won't stink forever, he didn't do it on purpose.

Water? On a clean floor? Hardly the same thing

for you

@monsterflake

Some of these comments are a bit nasty. I get that some weird people like to make troll posts but faecal incontinence can be a symptom of certain illnesses, if he has a fever or infection or he is dehydrated he could be delirious/confused too, hence struggling to get to the toilet on time.

I get that it must be disgusting and infuriating for you OP, I have a child with ASD who went through a phase of going to the toilet in random corners and whilst I know it isn't the same, consistently cleaning up someone else's bodily fluids when you aren't being paid to do it is absolutely no fun at all.

You have done the right thing making a doctors appointment as they can discuss his symptoms further and send him for tests etc if needed. For my daughter I use the puppy training pads from home bargains on her bed, it sounds so degrading but it may help with the management of it until he can get some treatment from the doctor.

It's no fun when you are paid to do it either. In all my years working as a nurse women tend to be able to cope when ill, men sort of lose the plot, have no idea how to cope and inevitably make the situation worse, even their attempt to clean up after a mess like this makes it worse..poor bloke. My husband had campylobactor and ended up in hospital on IV fluids as he was so dehydrated he couldn't even stand...and he's never ill and doesn't own a dressing gown of doom! Gloves and mask may help, but in hospitals Noro spreads rapidly despite precautions....small particles flying through the air. Look after yourself and if you are ill, he needs to step up!

I don't understand either OP. My DH had a weird bug once and was doing it in underwear but not all over the floor and he was washing them. I've got ibs and sometimes been too late but never on the floor. And surely he should be cleaning it up himself.

Oh @weirdlykind that sounds horrible. I feel so sorry for you. It must absolutely stink . Could he not take a bucket up to bed with him? We used to live in a house with a loo downstairs tucked away in a lean-to when I was very little and my parents used to put a bucket at the top of the stairs for me and my sister (sorry, TMI )

We had it a few weeks ago. I came down with it hard and fast, I was on the loo with a bucket one minute, next minute i woke up on the floor, blood pouring from my forehead, vomiting profusely and simultaneously shitting myself. Fainted and smacked my head off the sink on my way down.

Once I finally thought I was empty (some hours later), I took my sad little bucket to bed, puked, shit the bed and missed the towels somehow.

Horrific. Mattress topper binned.

It happens sometimes, and it's fucking awful, but your DH OP is something else.