Nieces Wedding AIBU to not go

[Chocolateforever]

AIBU not to attend? It would mean I need to leave DD (14 years old) alone for 6 hours through the day ( our house is very isolated, she has depression and anxiety and our large dog is hard to handle), drive back half an hour to collect her for the evening reception(to which she is invited) and then back to the hotel again. Also I know we are not sitting with our relatives for the dinner, but we are sitting with Mother of the Brides family as we all live in the same village. I am told this is why we are at the same table. I try hard with them, but they never speak to me. I wave and they don’t wave back. I can see them talking to each other and ignoring us. My husband says he will go to the wedding which is fine with me. AIBU?

I can understand your concerns about leaving your daughter home alone for most of the day. Yes, most teenagers can cope, but there’s a huge difference between teenagers with robust mental health and those struggling with severe anxiety/ depression, especially when support arrangements have been made and then have to be cancelled.

I would contact your niece and explain that the arrangements you had put in place have had to be cancelled due to emergency operations and illness in your family so only DH can attend the wedding- with a few days notice they may be able to fill the space. I would ask if it’s ok for you to come to just the evening reception with your daughter.

You clearly don't want to go so just go to night do? X

Has it happened yet OP ?If so what did you do in the end ?