To think this was totally inappropriate parenting?

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Couldn't resist the username opportunity whilst name changing but genuinely upset about what happened

2 year old had a kinder egg as a treat, had spent hours going on about it, was very excited, literally shaking and stamping his feet when the lady in the shop passed it to him at the tills (yes over reaction but he is little) anyway I don't let him open until we get gone and he's very good doesn't try and open it the car, keeps saying "I excited" and giggling, was very cute and dh and me were both laughing finding it cute

Got home, I went and got a bowl to put it in, gave it to toddler, he was happy and took it into the lounge and broke it up in the bowl. Came running in with the toy asking me to open it which I did but doing so left dog unattended around egg which he'd left on the sofa so he went running back in to eat it and it was gone and he was hysterical, so upset. I thought it was fair enough, he's two! He was excited. Yes it's only a chocolate egg but he's tiny and isn't going to react like an adult would. Dh said it was ridiculous, huge overeaction, started saying his excitement in the first place was too intense for chocolate, unhealthy reaction blah blah blah. I went to go back in the car and get him another one, shops only 5 mins and it was like 60p it doesn't matter and it'll make him happy and dh said if I dare go get him an egg I am completely undermining his parenting. So toddler just kept crying. He was saying he was sad and wanted an egg, in the end I said to dh I'm just going to get one and I jumped in the car.

Got back and could hear screaming from the driveway. Toddler was in his room (behind closed stair gate) dh saying you can come out when you stop crying. Pathetic it's an egg. I went and got toddler and took him downstairs and gave him his egg and said it is completely ok to be upset, he's not in any trouble and to just be very careful to not leave food around the dog so this doesn't happen again as I won't always be able to go get a replacement. Dh really annoyed that I undermined him and said I'm too soft and he's going to be a spoilt entitled boy. He just wanted a bloody kinder egg.

Was I unreasonable or was this really inappropriate on his part?

I'm sorry that your husband is a dick to your son. You definitely did the right thing by going back for another egg. Sounds like you're nailing parenting. Your DH, however is absolutely destroying it.

It’s cocoa solids that are poisonous to dogs. There is barely any in a Kinder egg. I really shouldn’t worry about the dog. This man really has to up his parenting though, he is abusive! Poor little mite.

I’ve done the same for my DD, they’re so little, he sounds pretty horrible.

Your dh is a prick!

Now you're just being nitpicky. The kid had chocolate in a bowl, my point doesn't hinge on whether the bowl was technically full or not

@SevenWaystoLeave, why use the word "full"? It's not a matter of whether it was "technically" full, the amount of chocolate in a Kinder Egg is so small that the bowl wouldn't be far off empty.

@Fritilleries

I know it's random but 60p for a Kinder Egg? Whereabouts are you?

1995?

That’s awful of your H and totally inappropriate. It was an accident — a 2 y o can’t understand that if he leaves his treat for a second the dog might eat it. It was completely okay to get him another - I well remember the desolation of being a small child and something like this happening! Poor little boy, he was just excited for his little treat!

If this is part of a pattern of similar bullying behaviour from your husband you need to think about how far you are willing to allow it. It sounds really damaging for a small child.

@EthelTheAardvark

Now you're just being nitpicky. The kid had chocolate in a bowl, my point doesn't hinge on whether the bowl was technically full or not

@SevenWaystoLeave, why use the word "full"? It's not a matter of whether it was "technically" full, the amount of chocolate in a Kinder Egg is so small that the bowl wouldn't be far off empty.

Do you think this is actually an important thing to argue about?

What do you know of your husband’s own childhood and parents?

A Kinder Egg is both chocolate AND a toy, aimed at children. It's totally normal for a very young child to be super excited about something

I have absolutely no problem with a 2 year old having a kinder egg. It's the building it up that I think is daft. Why was he talking about it for hours if his parents weren't trying to get him excited.

When mine were that age, we didn't build things up. If they were going to be brought for an ice cream, they were asked would they like an ice cream and we went and got one. I wouldn't tell them hours in advance. I think it's unfair to expect kids to contain their emotions when they have no sense of time so can't know when this treat is going to happen.

As an aside, you are not the thread police and cannot tell people what not to post and also it's quite rude to say that posters that have a different opinion to you can't think things through clearly.

I think you know deep down that your husband’s behaviour has been cruel and controlling. Your poor poor little boy. What is wrong with simple kindness. If he carries on like this your son will not respect him and they will have no connection. If this carries on I can see it coming in between you. I wouldn’t be happy if my husband treated us both like this. Sending love

@uafasach I didn't say either of those things, but whatever 🤔

Dog will be fine. Literally a dog can eat a large amount of milk chocolate and any amount of white chocolate with no ill effect. It’s dark chocolate that’s dangerous in medium amounts.

Your DH was horrid though.

@Squiff70 Your post opens with "Will people stop bringing up the opinion..." but whatever

I have a 2 yo and know a lot of 2 yo’s. They don’t get this excited over Kinder Eggs because they don’t get given them. Totally age inappropriate.

NRTT

Your husband shouldn't be around dogs or toddlers. He's a inappropriate.

You are a lovely mum and were quite right - he is two not hubby

for your boy

@Ozanj

I have a 2 yo and know a lot of 2 yo’s. They don’t get this excited over Kinder Eggs because they don’t get given them. Totally age inappropriate.

Which bit of them’s inappropriate? The chocolate or the plastic toy?

*he was inappropriate

[quote BelleTheBananas]@VelvetChairGirl

I can’t stop laughing at 0-3 sad onion

@eggstremereaction

Your DH needs to read a parenting book. Phillippa Perry’s ‘The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read’ is so good on empathising with little children, it staved off many a tantrum with my youngest.[/quote]
I just woke up my cat cackling at ‘sad onion’ 😂😂

@VelvetChairGirl

1: 2 years old is too young for a kinder toy, they are a choking hazard at that age.

2: the dog could be sick.

3: did you really drive to buy a 60p egg thats very environmentally unfriendly, if it only takes 5mins in car why not walk.

4: the man is a tosser and his behaviour towards a child is stupid, he's acting like the child is an adult, not good.

You do know disabled people exist? It’s very bold of you assume OP CAN just walk to the shop.

DH is a horrible man

Kinder eggs have been recalled due to salmonella.

( in Ireland)

Your husband is an abusive arsehole.

I bet your husband always gets what he wants. He is abusive. Red flag for me.