Accused of drinking by dh and him sending dc to his mums for safety

[innocentinallthis]

I'm a SAHM and my dh has just got home.
My 3 year old has a book which you use water on a paintbrush and it changes colour to make a picture.
I got a glass out of the cupboard for water for her to dip the paintbrush in, I wanted a small glass so grabbed a square Jack Daniels one that looked sturdy.
Dh came home saw the Jack Daniels glass now empty on the side and came to the conclusion I'd been drinking while looking after the children (I rarely ever drink anyway) and he's taken the children into the lounge insisting I sleep off imaginary drink and called his mother to look after the children while he's at work tomorrow as I've been so irresponsible.
He has looked through the bins for an empty bottle and we are now in different rooms as he won't speak to me until I tell him where the non existent empty bottle is as we don't have alcohol in the house as neither of us drink it.
Just how do you respond? Other than the truth which falls on deaf ears.
He's in such a bad mood mumbling about how unbelievable I am.

I have that glass, it's square & really sturdy. Ideal for paint water. 👍

Got it years ago. I also rarely drink...

Bit of a strange overreaction. 🤔

This thread is bizarre.

I’d be telling him to his mother’s until he can see reason!

I’d be careful with the driving as he will no doubt add this to your list of crimes and reasons you are an unfit mother. He probably won’t go to the effort of breathalysing you because he’ll be so convinced (or it’s convenient to believe) that he is right.

Drinking a glass of wine now, with my child asleep upstairs. Quick, someone call my mum because I can’t be trusted!

Sounds really stupid putting it like that.

Does he see you being at home as having a jolly at his expense?

I honestly don't think i could stay with someone who insisted i was a liar with absolutely no evidence to support it, and who saw fit to question my parenting to the extend he was involving his mother

Surely he would be able to smell it on you if you really had been drinking? Very odd behaviour.

Fair point myyellowcar. Didn't think of that. All very weird.

Blimey, what an over reaction. He's definitely plotting. I'd be putting my foot down that the kids won't be going to MILs and there is no bottle to find
I'd also be calling him out on his controlling behaviour.
Also asking him why on earth he'd jump to such a conclusion with your lack of drinking habit...
How bizarre.

This is absolutely bonkers. Even if you had been drinking this would be controlling beyond believe. I echo everyone else who says I think there is more going on here. Please notify someone you know in RL so they can attest you have not been drinking heavily an are no danger to anyone.

This sounds bonkers. Why doesn't he look after the DC himself at your house tonight then take them to his mum's tomorrow, the lazy twat?

Massive over-reaction. Where do you go from here??

I wouldn't let her in tomorrow and I would honestly speak to the police and ask just how you can prove to a lunatic your sober? In France you can buy test kits can you do that in the UK?

I don't understand why you wouldn't have used a plastic beaker 🤷🏼‍♀️ there's got to be more to this for such a reaction.

My ex (note ex) tried to pull this kind of shit before I uncovered his affair.
He still tries to do it now, insisting I'm an alcoholic drug using waste of space while he turns up once a fortnight playing Disney dad. Thankfully no one believes him as I'm not a junkie there is no evidence of such nonsense. I would take this as a warning for things to come and make sure you'll be ok on your own

Either there’s another side to this bizarre story or he is absolutely up to something.

I’d be interested to know more about what things are like in your home generally OP. Is this completely out of the blue and out of character?

Agree with the others. This reeks of a set up of some sort.

How are you being so calm? I'd be absolutely furious with him. You NEED to tell your mum whats happened. Why would you not? Save face for who? Because he's the one who should be embarressed.

Do not hide this from your mum, tell her

@Bananabutter

There’s no possible way he reacted like this unless you have or have had a drinking problem whether you acknowledge it or not.

What an unutterable pile of toss 🙄

Alcoholics are far more likely to drink out of mugs, kids cups or bottles of coke. They're unlikely to chose a transparent, branded glass to conceal their drinking, ffs.

It's actually FAR more likely that he's projecting. Could he be boozing?

Even if you had had a drink it’s an odd reaction (unless there is a history of you being a raging alcoholic). If my husband came home and I’d had a glass of something his reaction would probably say something along the lines of “bad day?” (Unless I was blatantly totally hammered with the kids, which would be different)

I wonder if you would be able to get a breathalyser test at a local Police Station?

If you had a drink problem, you'd hide the evidence. You wouldn't leave a JD glass out for him to discover. Alcoholics are very good at hiding it. Didn't he even bother to smell the glass?

Don't ring his Mum text her so you have it in writing? If you're going to your Mums maybe buy a breathalyser on the way?

I have some breathalysers in the boot of my car from when driving in France. Have you got any, or friends that might have? I would be doing one right in front of him and then stuffing it where the sun doesn’t shine!

I think you’ll find he can’t “send” your children to your MIL against your will.
If he persists, call the police.

My exh pre told the dps im the school yard I had mh issues. And that I was a prostitute.. When we split not a soul spoke to me on school run days.
Same dps surely noticed the state of my dc on the school days I never took them? Sucked in all of them.

Did you show him the painting book your son had been using?